Debate As Lady Cries Out about Unexpected Loneliness That Comes From Marriage

A Nigerian lady is going viral after she posted a video explaining how nobody talks about the loneliness that comes after marriage.

Speaking to her point, the lady said:

NIGERIAN LADY: So I really do not know how to explain this but there's this emptiness or let's say how do I call it? Let's say there's this small loneliness that comes after getting married.

Is it like a syndrome? I don't know. I don't know if it's a syndrome or a post traumatic--I really don't know English to use. But I feel like there's this feeling you get after wedding because subconsciously, your friends tend to shift from you.

Your family assume that okay, you now have your home, let's give her space. And now, you are into a family that you're trying to, you know, get attached to very well. I don't know how to explain it, but at this point, I feel like I'm trying to--I don't know if I should state the word I want to use, but there is this loneliness.

Not like you're lonely, you're lonely right? But there's this loneliness that just comes after the whole thing. They just feel like, okay you're married, let's leave her. And you will just be there.

I don't know, I feel like it shouldn't be like that because I mean nothing changed. I only got married. Nothing changed. You shouldn't stop calling me. You shouldn't stop texting me. You shouldn't leave me to build that okay you now have your own home. I mean, even if, the extraction should be a gradual process. It shouldn't be something that is sudden that I'll have to notice. I don't know.

Her post caused a bit of a debate. One person supporting and agreeing with her said:

"This is especially true when you get married early and most of your friends aren’t married yet. They give you space and it gets lonely. Your male friends completely disappear. You wouldn’t understand this if you haven’t experienced it and not all married people go through this. It takes a lot to adjust to your new reality."

And then there were others who disagreed with her saying it shouldn't be, like this one person who said:

"Speak to your partner if you feel this way. It shouldn't be sis, it shouldn't. In the mean time, you should have other things to focus on, finding yourself should start now because when you have kids, that's another phase. You will be fine. Big hugs"

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