Dear Overthinkers: This One Trick Works

Let’s be honest — overthinking feels like your brain is stuck on a spinning carousel. One you didn’t ask to ride. No exit in sight. Just endless loops of What-Ifs, Maybes, and Oh-No-I-Definitely-Messed-Ups.

And if you're anything like me, you overanalyze text messages. Reread emails five times before sending them. Replay a two-minute conversation from last week at 1:38 a.m. on a Tuesday. Not for fun, but because your mind just won’t shut up.

It’s like living with a hyperactive narrator in your head. One who never stops talking and insists on writing a dramatic script for every small moment in your life.

Yeah. Welcome to my brain.

It’s Not Just You — And You’re Not Broken

I used to think there was something wrong with me. Like, why can’t I just be chill? Other people seemed to go through life without narrating every potential outcome like they were writing the next psychological thriller.

But I’ve learned that overthinking isn’t weakness. It’s your brain trying to protect you — just doing it way too much. It’s scanning for danger, preparing responses, reading between lines that don’t even exist.

It’s not about drama. It’s about fear. Fear of messing up. Fear of rejection. Fear of not being enough.

And the worst part? You know you’re doing it… but still, you can’t stop.

So… What Helped? One Trick. Weirdly Simple. Shockingly Effective.

I know — you’ve heard all the tips. Meditate. Journal. Go for a walk. Breathe. Uninstall social media. (Tried it. Didn’t last.)

But the one thing that actually helped me?

Say the thought out loud.

That’s it.

No fancy setup. No scripts. Just speak what’s spinning in your head — with brutal honesty.

“I’m freaking out because I think they hate me, even though I have zero proof.”

“I’m afraid I’ll fail, and if I fail, I’ll disappoint everyone.”

“I think I sounded dumb, and I keep replaying it even though it’s probably not that deep.”

The first time I did it, I felt ridiculous. Like I was just… talking to myself in my kitchen at 9 p.m., pacing in mismatched socks.

But then — I felt it.

Relief. Space. Distance.

Like the thought finally had somewhere else to live besides inside my skull.

Why Does It Work? (Like, Actually Work)

Overthinking is sneaky. It thrives in silence. It’s the quiet loop that spins louder and louder in your head until suddenly your chest is tight and you’ve written a 17-paragraph mental essay on why your coworker’s tone was “off.”

But when you say it out loud, it breaks the loop.

You externalize the thought. You hear it. And often, when you hear it, you realize… wow, this is kind of absurd.

Not always. But often.

It’s not that the fear disappears — it’s that it becomes manageable. Like turning the lights on in a dark room. The shadows are still there, but now you can see what you’re dealing with.

Real Talk: One Night It Saved Me

This wasn’t some cute self-help discovery. I found this trick during a borderline meltdown. My brain wouldn’t stop spinning over a voice note I sent. You know, one of those “Was I too eager? Too much? Too awkward?” moments.

I sat up in bed. Took a shaky breath. And whispered into the dark:

“I’m scared I sounded needy. And if I did, maybe they’ll pull away. And that makes me feel rejected.”

No magic. No sudden wave of peace. But I felt a shift. The panic loosened. Just a little.

And that little bit? Was enough.

Let’s Be Real — It’s Not a Cure, But It’s a Start

I still overthink. Oh boy, do I.

But now, instead of sitting in the storm, I talk through it.

Sometimes in my head. Sometimes to a friend. Sometimes to my dog. (Shoutout to my emotional support golden retriever who never judges.)

What matters is I don’t stay silent anymore.

Try It. Now. Seriously. One Thought. Say It.

Go ahead. That thought you’ve been looping for hours? Say it out loud. Just once. Even if it’s messy. Especially if it’s messy.

Whisper it. Shout it. Mumble it into your pillow.

Just don’t let it eat you alive from the inside.

You don’t need to figure it all out. You just need to speak the truth of what’s here. In this moment. As you are.

To All My Fellow Overthinkers: You’re Not Alone

You’re not “too much.” You’re not broken. You’re just a human with a brain that cares — sometimes a little too loudly.

But you can learn to quiet the noise.

Not with perfection.

With honesty.

With courage.

With one awkward, beautifully raw sentence spoken out loud.

And that, my friend, is where the peace begins.

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Even if your brain says otherwise.

Especially then.