Second Chance at Love
From breaking up after 3 years to divorcing after 50; we're here to tell you that you can love again.
The Downfall of a Neurotypical Female
Every Disney movie has the same plot for the most part. Seriously. A princess in a dire situation is on the cusp of doom when a prince rushes in to save her. I came to realize this when I was 15, and I began to wonder if true love was real. I came to the conclusion that no, there was no destined soul mate for everyone. It was more just finding someone you could tolerate and settling down.
By Chandra Harrison8 years ago in Humans
Magnetism
For the extremist of overtures; I was the centre of my world. I, being in my twenties and of relatively sound mind, had experienced few of the offerings love wished to give over to me and even less of me to give over to her. In the beauty of her beauty, the ugliness of her beauty, and the untimely melancholic warmth of loves’ comely embrace, I began my journey as a member of the dismissed. I was, as an enthusiast of the Game of Thrones generation, a white walker. Blissfully unabashed by my tendency to show little emotion of my senses. I had a forceful feeling this stemmed from an invasive and uncomfortable youth, which manifested itself throughout my anxiousness and uncertainty, into a plethora of unavailable grey feelings. What therapists called Avoidant Attachment, or some other psychological terminology, taking my strength and homeliness to where I imagined I belonged, along with the other dysfunctional(s). This was around the time I ascribed myself the title, Metal-Man. Yet still, and for some reason beyond question, I felt within my own right when I searched for a relationship that I could describe as "a natural love that arose from wanting a future to be proud of kind of love," "haughty, joyous laughter that could fill a room full kind of laughter," and "companionable hope that might fulfill my disenchanted soul kind of hope." (A lucrative display of my high expectations.)
By S R Gurney8 years ago in Humans
How I Loved Someone, Without Loving Myself First
"You can't love someone until you love yourself" is a phrase that has always haunted me. It left me growing up, believing I could never find actual love. As a depressed teen living with a father they always had a rocky relationship with, I told myself I was doomed. I lived under the strict rule that I couldn't date until I was eighteen. Once I knew that, I knew that my childhood would be bland in comparison to those dating freely. After some time, I did not want to date. I saw all of the trouble and drama it caused my friends, and I was happy to opt out. I had a few long distance relationships with online friends, all of which I'm still friends with today. I had tried twice in person. One I'm still friends with, one I haven't spoken with since, and I'm content with that. After those failures, I thought the old saying might be true, but then I met this huge nerd.
By Gren McClintic8 years ago in Humans
Post War Divorce
Something I read the other day made me think about the past and just how screwed up it really was at that particular time in my life. I look back at my previous marriages and cringe at the remembrance of some memories. My first marriage didn't really last that long and I was so young that I barely remember most of it. I hardly ever count that one even though it did yield two beautiful children. Now my second marriage.....that was the one I thought would be the death of me. I think one tries harder the second time around because who wants to be a two time loser right? I stayed and took things that I normally wouldn't from anyone else but I think my biggest problem was I could never truly be myself in that relationship. Oh, to the outward appearances we looked to be the perfect couple but behind closed doors it was a totally different story. Many people were shocked to hear we had split up.
By Vanessa Hampton8 years ago in Humans
The Age Gap
What does an age gap mean within a relationship? To me it means nothing. I’ve grown up with individuals in my life having relationships with people older than them and also with people younger than them. For example, my parents have just under a 20 year age gap between them but they have been together for more than 22 years so why does the age gap matter? It doesn’t; some people don’t like a big age gap in relationships, but what gives people the right to comment on other’s relationships when not asked? Not everyone has to explain what they do in their life to other people.
By Tanisha Dagger8 years ago in Humans
La Vie En Rose
Breakups suck. From the gruesome beheadings of Henry VIII’s wives in the 16th century to Tom Cruise and Katie Holms multimillion-dollar divorce in the 21st, the end of a relationship is traumatizing. The mausoleum of breakups is constantly filled with songs of broken hearts, stories of unrequited love, desperate declarations of "You cheated on me less than my last girlfriend. I just need you to stay with me!" At some point in our lives, we will all be victims of a horrible heartbreak. "We need to talk," is the most anxiety inducing phrase in the English language that, more often than not, becomes "I'm breaking up with you." And in this moment of tremendous emotion, we are also given a choice: disintegrate into an empty shell of sadness or shed the skin of the old relationship and rebuild.
By Edyn Schwartz8 years ago in Humans
