I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. We had started dating on July 2nd 2017. We had broken up on the 1st of February of this year which was a month ago. Our relationship got to where we didn't see each other very much and when I wanted to go and do something he would always come up with an excuse to not be with me. Plus every time he would come pick me up he would complain about the traffic in the area that I live in. I would look at him and say "Well if you hate it so much then don't pick me up because the traffic will always be like this, and you complaining about it makes me feel like you hate having to pick me up, so if that's how you are going to be don't pick me up anymore." I would have to sit down with him and talk things out, but it never worked. He wouldn't listen to anyone when we would try to help him figure things out and help him see and deal with things. he always complained about his truck and I told him to stop complaining and do something about it. He never did stop complaining.
Then he also had anger problems. This got to where it was uncomfortable to be near him. The one time that really got me really upset was when I was staying with him and his family....I was still at school waiting for him to come pick me up and to go to his house and when he got there I got in the truck and his parents kept calling him and I wasn't sure why...which I find out later...he was so mad after we had gotten to my house to grab my things he was on the phone with his dad and he made him so mad that when he got off the phone he threw his phone at the dash board almost breaking his windshield. After he did that i looked over at him and said "oh hell no" and i got out the vehicle went inside got my stuff got back in the car and went to pick his cousin up which i dint find out this entire story till we got to his house and his mom came to talk to him. So after that something else happened and we didn't speak and it almost was very close to causing us to break up. We eventually cooled down and talked about it and we were good. which is funny because again no matter how many times we had talks he didn't listen.
Afterwards I spent Christmas eve and New Years eve with him and his family and we decided to take a month long break for January of this year. After that month long break he comes over after work the first of February and we again sit and have a conversation and every time he would say something I would ask if he was telling the truth or just saying what he was saying to me which he was just talking to talk and I came up in the conversation and said it is time that we break up and go our separate ways which hurt so much to say because I was so much in love with him that my heart felt like it got ripped out of my chest. After the conversation we agreed to be just friends which by the way is really hard because I still love him so much and it is so hard to let go.
So after saying all of this how do I get over a break up of being in a relationship of almost three years which he was going to propose soon after we made three years?
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