Blushing when you speak in public? Just 3 steps to stop being nervous and scared when you speak.

I am usually very comfortable talking to my colleagues and friends, so to speak, but as soon as I speak in public, for example, when I stand up or go on stage, or even when I think I need to speak, I get very nervous.

Naturally, I don't perform as well as I'd like, I feel red in the face all of a sudden, my legs keep trembling, my voice is shaky, I feel bad and everyone is laughing at me, what should I do?" --A fan's contribution.

In phenomenon is very common in the workplace, one-on-one communication or communication on occasions with few people is perfectly fine, but as long as the number of people increases or when there is a leader present, it will become abnormally nervous and affect the effect of the speech.

01 In the workplace, those who can do are not as good as those who can speak

Some people think that in the workplace, as long as they improve their business skills, dealing with the work at hand is enough, in fact, not, in the workplace, the handling of interpersonal relationships, communication skills, presentation skills, collaboration skills, and business skills are equally important.

Especially the ability to speak, because speaking is not only an art but also a way of transmitting information and emotional connection. People with good communication skills usually progress quickly in their careers and can get more jobs for others.

Some partners reflect that they do a lot of things, but do not like to report on their work, usually meet the leadership is also able to avoid when the meeting speech also can not say a reason, resulting in the leadership always feeling that their work is not serious, bonus than colleagues who can talk less.

Sometimes I also want to change, but every time I get up the courage to speak properly, once on stage or when there is a leader or nervous, always stumble.

02 Why is it easy to get anxious and nervous when speaking in public?

If we want to solve the problem of being nervous about speaking in public, we need to understand the causes of our anxiety and nervousness. Generally the following 3 reasons.

1. Expecting too much of oneself and fearing that one will make a mistake

Some studies have found that the first reaction of a child after a fall is not to cry, but to see if there are any adults around, if not he will get up by himself, if there are, only then will he cry out.

When we are in society and there are eyes on us, we always have expectations and want to perform perfectly and impress people. However, when we have high expectations of ourselves, it increases the pressure and leads to malfunctioning.

2. Low self-confidence and lack of experience

On the one hand, not having prepared well beforehand, not knowing what to say or where to start, and lacking experience in public speaking, so fearing that they will not perform well.

On the other hand, you may feel that you are not confident in your appearance, dress, and voice, and have an inferiority complex, so it leads to anxiety and squirming when you speak in front of the public, and after a mediocre performance you feel that you have confirmed your thoughts and are even less confident.

3. Authority phobia

There is also a situation where your parents have been very strict with you since you were a child, leading to a phobia of authority, where you have a fear of people who have the power to manage and criticize you and want to deliberately avoid them, such as the head of the unit or the teacher at school.

Therefore, when in public, especially in the presence of bosses and leaders, you are particularly nervous about making a bad impression on them.

03 A formula to help you solve the problem of public speaking nervousness

99% of the world's problems can be solved, including, of course, the problem of our nervousness to speak in public, I think we can apply a formula to help ourselves to ease the nervousness, that is - Carell's formula.

The Carell formula is divided into three steps.

The first step is to find out what the worst-case scenario is that could happen.

Take public speaking. What happens if you don't perform well if you are incoherent or stumble over your words? Probably you will be scolded by the leader and your colleagues will think you are not a good speaker. The worst that can happen is that you will be sacked.

The second step is to make yourself comfortable with this worst-case scenario.

That is, if this happens, what will happen to us? If we were scolded by the leader, we would just take it badly, or take it as an aside and not take it seriously.

If we are fired, this is normal in the workplace, flowers blossom and flowers fall, people come and go, and we can't stay in one company for the rest of our lives, we can still take the opportunity to find a better job.

The third step is to calmly find ways to improve the worst-case scenario.

Now that we know the worst that can happen is that we will be sacked, we are prepared and relaxed, so we can concentrate on the problem at hand.

For example, while there is still time to prepare the framework and content of your speech, or if you don't have time, you can think of a few sentences in your head, summarise your experience at work, etc., which will also show your business skills.

Next, let's talk specifically about how to prepare for public speaking.

Firstly, we need to decide on a theme, then gather the appropriate material according to the theme, then conceive a framework, adjust the logic, and lay a good foundation so as not to go off-topic when filling in the content later.

Secondly, we can brainstorm what we can think of based on the framework and the material we already have, write it down, and then make adjustments, cuts, and other steps to improve the quality of the content.

Finally, when you have time, you can practice in front of a mirror and imagine what kind of scenario you would experience. Remember to make sure you sound it out, memorising it silently is very different from actually saying it, and if you feel nervous, take a deep breath.

Here are 2 requests.

1, usually to accumulate more material, all aspects of knowledge should be involved, more or less understand a little, their professional knowledge that is more to hand, to have the confidence to speak in public confidence.

2, published content around a purpose, valuable to others, either feasible suggestions, either industry trends, or their real work experience, the people under the feedback is good, you will speak more easily.

In the end

Don't be afraid to speak, and don't be unconfident, maybe many people are noticing you and not listening to you carefully. There is a psychological effect called the 'spotlight effect', which means that you inadvertently put your problems into infinity.

You think you're nervous and your face is red, but, in the eyes of others, your face is not so red that they don't pay much attention to you.