After remarrying, I saw my current wife abusing my and my ex-wife's children and slapped myself twice

After graduating from high school, he did not go to college, but began to hang out in society. At that time, young energetic, three view is not straight, often about friends drink, help friends fight. Because of these things, no less get parents scold.

When I was 21, my mother was seriously ill. From her hospital bed, my mother asked me to find a girl and start a family. My mom "dodged the bullet," but I decided to get married and settle down. In this case, I met my ex-wife through blind date: looks average, good temper.

The year after we married, our son was born. Two things that helped me mature quickly: my mom got sick and I became a father.

After having children, I decided to settle down and work hard to make money. By the time my son was in elementary school, I was already a small boss with more than 20 employees. At this time, I was a little floaty, after meeting a beautiful young girl, and my ex-wife divorced. At that time, my ex-wife did not want to divorce me, but I always thought she was not good enough for me. As a result, MY attitude towards divorce was very firm. Finally, my ex-wife could not make me change my mind and could only agree to my divorce request.

When I was dating my current wife, I asked her: If I were divorced and had children, would you treat my children well? 'I love you,' she replied. 'I would naturally consider you and your ex-wife's children my own.'

Now, I have been married to my current wife for less than six months, and I have witnessed images of my children from a previous marriage being abused by her. In this case, I was tempted to smack my current wife in the face, but INSTEAD I slapped myself in the face: If I hadn't bragged and cherished my relationship with my ex-wife when I became rich, my son wouldn't have suffered.

I felt so sorry for my son that I decided to divorce my current wife and pursue my ex-wife again so that he would grow up without having to pay for my mistakes.

Emotional analysis:

In principle, husband and wife are better than father and son, but more often than not, we are on the side of justice and our children. Your present wife mistreats your son and you hate your present wife; You broke up your relationship with your ex-wife because of your affair, you put your son through it, and you hate yourself. In this case, you are free to divorce your current wife, and your ex-wife is free to take you back. If your ex-wife readmitted you, be sure to thank her for her readmission. If she didn't, you should accept the result as well. After all, she's not a ball, so you're not allowed to kick her around.

One detail: What prompted you to mature, you believe, was your mother's serious illness and the birth of your son. It should be added that after marriage, you feel responsible and responsible, which is also an important reason for you to stop socializing. After you have money, the most direct reason why you begin to dislike your ex-wife: in your aesthetic system, your ex-wife is not so beautiful, want to ask, when you and your ex-wife married, you are a punk, she does not dislike you, how can you make yourself become a white Wolf after you have money? Under the circumstances, would your current wife have considered marrying you? Your present wife is only willing to marry you because she wants money. Unfortunately, in the marriage market, the unbeautiful woman who pays her heart often does not have a good end, because too many men are visual animals, easy to become bad after money.

People, as the growth of age, the appearance will eventually old, the most important thing between husband and wife is heart to heart. Your current wife is pretty, but she's mean to your son, so her youthful beauty still doesn't appeal to you? Stepfamilies, pressing issues: Can your current spouse be kind to your ex's children? If the child is trapped in a stepfamily, it may be best to withdraw from the relationship. In fact, many people's relationships turn sour when they pull away from their first loved ones: everyone has their own selfish interests, and especially if you have children with your current partner, there's a good chance your children from your previous relationships will be left out in the cold. It can be a disaster for a child with a former partner if he or she encounters a more vicious stepparent.

More often than not, people get divorced not because they can't get their marriage together, but because they are driven by their desire to be with someone new and not with someone else. At the time of the divorce, people's desires take over and their visions of future life are too idealistic: they think that if you start a family with your lover, he or she will treat you and your ex's children well. After the real life together, will find: biological and foster or there will be a big difference. In this case, it's natural to be upset by your current spouse's harsh treatment of you and your former children. The result: a serious rift in the relationship. At this point, perhaps defending their children's feelings will prevail.

As they say, the couple is the same. The existence of this sentence mainly has two warnings for everyone: 1) after marriage, in the case of the lover has no obvious shortcomings, please do not easily take the step of divorce; 2) It may be difficult to connect with your ex's children halfway through the relationship. But a lot of people in the new love, will be in love me love my dog under the circumstances of overestimate the brilliance of human nature, so that the vast majority of lovers and the original marriage after divorce, in the new marriage life of their own soon regret. Not to say that there is no kind stepfather and stepmother, just want to ask: marital infidelity and interfere in other people's marriage, character can be good to where? In restructured marriages like this, the odds of bad luck for children are very high.

It is possible that when people with families are involved in extramarital affairs, they are more concerned about their own desires, but love is a high open low process after all, and when love enters the dull period, blood ties will take the upper hand. At this point, if the remarried spouse is not kind to them and their ex's children, or has a mean attitude, the marriage will not be happy. For this reason, we often see the phenomenon that many people get out of a marriage, and then the rest of the relationship is very difficult. One of the biggest obstacles to a new relationship is your child with your ex.

Editorial:

No one should underestimate the importance of children in a family, or some people in the young at their own pleasure, regardless of the feelings of children, resulting in the result: children do not enjoy the father or mother love, when you are old, do not expect children to give you retirement. In fact, a lot of people actually quite love their children, but with extramarital behavior to their children caused harm, the key is the divorce results once formed, the harm to children often present an irreversible state.

Since you value your commitment to your children, at least don't let your divorce be caused by marital infidelity. It doesn't mean that married couples have to stay together forever, but at least the reasons for divorce should be: three different views, the other half of the children's parents disrespect. Therefore, I would like to remind everyone that it is extremely foolish to throw away the original happy life for the sake of the novelty outside marriage.