A Month In

It’s crazy it’s been a month already. It doesn’t seem possible how quickly time can fly. It seems like just a moment ago I was watching you walk down the isle gasping at how beautiful you were. Looking into your eyes as we danced for the first time as Mr. & Mrs. Terry. It’s crazy how in life you blink and things have changed. Sometimes for the bad but in this case for the best. This has been the craziest but happiest month of my life. I couldn’t dream or even wish for anything better. This is a dream come true.

Life is full of change and lessons. When you add someone to your everyday routine there is so much you need to learn. You will mess up and hurt people but you can’t let that cause you to stop trying. Learn from your mistakes and allow them to grow you. Learn how to love your partner and not just see what you can get from them. Love is a gift so don’t waste it.

The best part of being married is never having to say goodbye at night. You don‘t have to go home. They don’t have to go home. You are home together. You go to sleep together and wake up together. You may have to say goodbye to go to work. But at the end of the day you are back together at home. Just how it should be.

What I’ve learned so far through dating, engagement and now marriage is learning how to love your significant other is the most important thing you can do for your relationship. Don’t show them love the way you want to be loved. You need to learn how they need to be loved. We all experience and feel love in different ways. It’s so important to learn to love in the language your partner speaks. I’m not talking about English or Spanish here, I’m talking about love languages not spoken languages. The book by Bob Goff called ”The 5 Love Languages” is so helpful in learning the different ways to love someone. If you haven’t read this book you can get it here.

I was recently asked what has been the most challenging part of marriage so far. I had no clue how to answer that. It’s been an amazing experience so far. Life isn’t perfect and I know we will struggle but I don’t want to dwell on those parts of life. Yes they are important and help us grow but don’t have to be the defining part of our lives. If you are struggling right now I am sorry and pray you will make it through.

If I had to answer the question of what‘s been the most challenging part of marriage so far I would probably say it is learning how to create boundaries with our families and learning how to create our own life. We have both been influenced and have spent our entire life with our families and now we are creating a new family. That isn’t an easy task. We listen to our parents suggestions and feedback but we have to learn to do what is right for us and not them.

I am most excited for our future together and the family we are going to build. I love this new chapter of life and can’t wait to continue writing our story together. Through all the good and challenging times. We are one through marriage and ready to take on the world.

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