A Big Mistake Women Make in Relationships

I'm probably going to hit a nerve with this one, but many women need to hear it. Lots of women wonder why their men get tired in the relationship or develop even a little bit of resentment. Many women just assume it's because they have another woman. This isn't always the case. So, if women listen to what I have to say, it could save a rocky relationship.

To start it simple, ladies, let your man have his interests and be able to enjoy them. We know women are more outwardly emotional than men most times, so we always want his attention and affection and want his time and energy to revolve around us. That's stressful and exhausting. It's okay to want their attention, but it becomes an issue when we expect them to give up all their interests and hobbies just because we don't like them, or it takes attention away from us.

After a man gets into a relationship that he's serious about, he usually gives up many things. Think about your relationship for a moment. What does your significant other have for himself that doesn't involve you or your opinion? What outlet does he have for his stress and emotions? If you can't answer that, there might be an issue.

Men usually don't express their emotions directly like we do, so they channel them into other activities. A good example is video games. This is a big one. Why do we complain about him playing video games? Yes, I said complain. We never seem to realize that when we want to go out, whether it be to eat or go shopping or wherever else, they will usually go along. They might not be interested or even feel up to going, but they will usually do it simply because we want to.

In addition, we expect them to do what we want to do every time. What about their interests? When do girls say Okay, he wants to play a game, let me be quiet company, or even take interest in what he's playing and learn how to play it? We rarely take a genuine interest in what our men like and want to do.

Now let's talk about a deeper part of this. Putting him down and making him feel terrible because you feel like he plays his game all the time that's a form of abuse. Deleting or breaking and destroying his games that's a form of abuse. He has spent his time creating and unlocking and leveling up, and taking that away just because you think it's funny or because you are mad that he doesn't breathe every breath for you is abuse. It's very selfish, and they have every right to want to separate themselves from that toxicity. Stop taking away what might be their only outlet for stress and other emotions.

Of course, there are exceptions, like when they don't play a part in taking care of kids if there are children in the relationship, or if they do nothing else and have no ambition to do anything else, then that's a personal issue they need to work on. What I'm pointing out here, though, is the instances where men do their best for us, and we can't take a little bit of time to show interest in what they want. What is going to happen over time when he has no way to decompress after a long day? It might sound harsh, but we need to either take an interest or stop complaining and find something else to do. If we can't do either of those things, then we need to find someone that fits our needs.