9 tips for self-discipline

M. Scott Parker, a famous American psychiatrist, said that life is a series of difficult problems, and the primary solution to life's problems is self-discipline.

Self-disciplined people know how to restrain their own desires, and life is both interesting and meaningful.

Those who are not self-disciplined, indulge their desires, allow themselves to be repeatedly humiliated by fate, but have no power to fight back.

Self-discipline is a kind of self-management ability. If you can't bear the pain of self-discipline, you will suffer the sin of life.

Let the self-discipline of thinking drive the self-discipline of behavior. The "People's Daily" recommends these 9 suggestions for developing self-discipline of thinking. We look forward to helping everyone live a self-disciplined life.

Do not compare blindly

Have you ever had such an experience?

Your boss gave you a raise, and you were very happy to hear the news. I was planning where to celebrate, but I heard that my colleague raised 500 yuan more than you.

You immediately forget the joy of raising your salary, and you are only left with unwillingness and anger at the fact that your colleague has raised your salary more than you.

Once people fall into the bad emotions brought about by comparison, they lose not only happiness and reason, but also the motivation to continue to work hard.

I have seen this sentence: Life cannot and should not be compared with others. What we have to pass is nothing more than our own.

Don't blindly compare with others, because you don't know how the other person came all the way.

Compare yourself with your past self, watch yourself change along the way, and focus on your own growth.

reconcile with yourself

There are times in life when you find that a decision or choice in your past self made your life difficult today.

When you are temporarily unable to change the status quo, you will be more annoyed with your past self, and let yourself fall into the emotional whirlpool of self-blame, thus ignoring the solution to the problem.

Things won't overwhelm people, but emotions will. Tired heart will make people collapse. People need to learn to reconcile.

Writer Lu Sihao wrote in Time's Answer: "We are all survivors of the past, and what we finally learn is how to reconcile with ourselves."

Reconcile with the past so that it does not destroy our present.

Reconcile with yourself so that you can focus on solving the difficulties at hand.

When you encounter dissatisfaction, forgive your past self, face it calmly, and life will be better.

Reflect on and summarize

Recording and summarizing life and work is to correlate and analyze one's own experience and knowledge stock, and reflection and summarization is to turn "experience" into one's own "experience".

Regularly record, reflect, and summarize to form your own knowledge system and achieve your unique self.

Today's society is so fast and life is so impetuous, it is even more necessary to spend some time focusing on yourself, summarizing and reflecting on the direction and methods of future life.

The right direction + the method that suits you = success.

Do you keep records of your work, life and study habits? Do you regularly reflect on your gains and losses over time?

Have you taken the company's annual personal summary every year seriously, sorted out your achievements in the past year carefully, and then made a summary?

If your answer is no, from now on, learn to introspect and rewrite the answer with actions.

know how to accept differences

There are no two identical leaves in this world, and no two identical people.

Everyone has a different background, and the educational environment and experience will not be the same, so of course the criteria for judging things will not be the same.

What we approve of, others may not approve; what others approve of, we may not necessarily affirm.

Trying to make others like ourselves, or trying to make ourselves like others, causes us to waste energy and time on unnecessary things.

What sets us apart from others is what makes us unique and what sets us apart from others.

Everyone is unique, respect others to be different from you, and allow yourself to be different from others.

Embrace imperfection

Debbie Ford writes in Accepting Your Imperfect Self that your “weaknesses” are actually your strengths, and they can be used for you, not a stumbling block.

Life is bitter and sweet, life is sad and happy, and there is no perfect person in the world.

Accept that you are not perfect in order to have a good life.

Because the best is not the flawless self, but the self who dares to face up to their own shortcomings and constantly strive to overcome them.

"Wonderful Flower" debater Ai Li said that no one is perfect, you can approach perfection through continuous efforts, always be ready to meet the challenges of fate, and you will eventually reach the land of light.

But remember, the most beautiful scenery is not at the end, but on the way to the end.

not self-limiting

Grandma Moses said: "Whether you are lucky or unfortunate, don't set limits for your life, so as not to block the sunshine of life."

When life is going well, self-limiting means trapping yourself in your comfort zone and refusing to progress.

When you are at a low point in your life, self-limiting is the fear of failure, refusal to challenge and change the status quo.

Self-imposed limitations prevent us from progressing, so that life will not change, and life will no longer progress.

When life is going well, you must be prepared for danger in times of peace, not set limits on yourself, and not be paralyzed, so that you can deal with sudden accidents in life.

In the face of adversity in life, only by accumulating hard work, not setting limits on yourself, and not giving up lightly, can you seize it when fate turns around.

not overdraft health

I like this sentence:

This world is like a deep sea, with different fish swimming at different depths. People who go to bed at 10 o'clock every night will never see the world at 2 o'clock in the morning.

Everyone has their own work rhythm and living habits. Although there is no right or wrong, they affect health.

A person who has a regular work and rest schedule and a healthy diet will surely be able to avoid suffering from illness.

And those who seem to be "free" in their work, rest and diet, their bodies must not be in charge of themselves.

If you don't take care of your body when you are young, you will overdraft your health. When you are old, you will be severely revenge by your body.

Don't let your future self hate your healthy self now.

Health is the premise of everything, starting from today, go to bed early and get up early, exercise regularly, and eat regularly.

keep an open mind

Do you feel depressed and unhappy all day, or even longer, because of one disappointment?

Life is full of changes, and disappointment is the norm in life.

Goethe wrote in The Sorrows of Young Werther:

"As long as we are open-minded and enjoy the joy that God gives us every day, then we will also be strong enough to bear the pain that comes when it comes."

To be an open-minded person and maintain a positive and peaceful attitude, can you absorb more energy and have enough strength to face the disappointment of life.

A truly open-minded person is not indifferent in the face of frustration, but after discovering the essence of things, he does not entangle or hate, and still loves life.

learn to let go

A clean and tidy room where all items are clear at a glance and a room full of items and disorganized, if it is a hotel, we will choose to stay in the first type.

But the environment in our home is often the second.

The wardrobe is like a "cold palace where the emperor will not come", and the floor is like "a battlefield that has just been swept away by mines".

Living in an environment filled with inertia every day will make people feel bad and unable to do anything.

Hideko Yamashita, the author of "Duansheli" once said:

"Duansheli is the action technique to understand oneself by sorting things out, sorting out the chaos in the heart, and making life comfortable."

Life needs to be cut down, learned to let go, cut out the complicated and simplified, so that we can focus our energy on the things that are truly loved and important.