6 ways to be respected

I don't think there's a man who doesn't want to be respected. Even for many of us, this is a very important need, which often, when not fulfilled, causes us a huge ocean of frustration.

And frustration is not a pleasant feeling. In fact, frustration is a state of a mixture of feelings, such as anger, fear, sadness, disappointment, all of which are based on negative thoughts that our minds weave in various situations. And that we often can't handle.

When it comes to respect, we are all experts at claiming it. But you don't get respect only if you ask for it, because in almost all cases, respect is earned. And when you manage to win it, the frustration is not so great.

But not many people know how to earn respect. And because it's a fairly common need, I think it would be helpful to know how you can meet it. There are a few things that will help you become a respected person in your relationship , family, friendships, and professional relationships.

And you can start like this:

Stop trying to please everyone.

It is a rule that would be useful to guide you in life. Because people are different and no matter how hard you try, there will always be people who will be unhappy. And that depends on your differences, your principles, your values, and your beliefs. If you don't know how to say "no" and set boundaries, and you're used to pleasing others in the hope that they'll respect you, you'll end up disappointed . Because the people you constantly like, they start to take your gestures as such and instead of respecting you for your effort, they end up valuing you less.

Instead, learn to fight for your ideas, your values, and your desires.

People respect those who know each other well enough and who support their point of view, who refuse to do things they do not identify with and who know how to refuse nicely, without adopting an aggressive attitude.

And for those who take you for granted, less means more. More respect for you. This is true in any relationship, especially in a couple's relationship. It is important to understand that constantly trying to please your partner will not help him to respect you more, but will make him more and more dissatisfied with what he receives.

Learn to give when the person has made an effort to receive, whether we are talking about giving feelings, appreciations, nice gestures, social rewards, or material rewards.

Understand that you are not responsible for the emotions of others.

If sometimes you feel compelled to do things so that those around you do not feel bad, with the desire that they respect you, appreciate you and do the same, even if that means upsetting yourself and getting over things important to you, then you will most likely experience disappointment. There is a good chance that you will not receive what you think you deserve.

When you give up on yourself and your feelings to make others feel good, you develop a relationship of co-dependence, and addiction to the happiness of those around you becomes both your responsibility and your burden. It is your right to set limits and focus on your own well-being, not the well-being of others.

Of course, refusing to risk getting the other person upset with you. But everyone has a right to be upset, and when that feeling goes away, they will most likely appreciate and respect you. If not, remember that what others choose to do and feel is not always up to you.

Stop complaining.

No one will ever respect you if you do nothing but complain, quarrel, victimize, be critical, negative, and dissatisfied. People run away from those with such attitudes and respect positive people , who take their own actions, who find solutions, who control their emotions and who know how to be diplomats.

If you tend to argue, if you react aggressively to any remark, if you lack empathy, understanding and patience, if you have made a habit of gossiping, if instead of coming up with solutions for every problem you come up with problems for every solution , you will never have respect. Respect comes once you set certain standards of behavior. Respect comes when you stop blaming others for your unhappiness and your failures and make every decision you have made so far.

Keep your word.

The easiest way to lose the respect of others is to say that you are doing something and not doing it. If you want respect, you need to show people that they can count on you when you do something. No matter what and to whom you promise, even your own child may lose respect for you if you fail to keep your word.

If you think you can't do something, admit that you can't do it, otherwise you just look frivolous in front of others. Assuming yourself to do the things you promise brings you the respect you long for. As well as the sincerity of not being able to take it on. It helps to recognize your limitations rather than lie.

Give the respect you want.

Most of the time, people treat you the way you treat them. You are the person who gives them an example of behavior. The others are your mirror. If you don't like the way you are treated, you probably treat yourself the same. Or maybe that's how you treat them.

Remember that it is extremely easy to give an example of negative behavior, lacking integrity, but that you can just as easily choose to give an example of positive behavior, based on high standards.

If you want respect, it is necessary to respect those around you and to accept their point of view, arguments and limits, without necessarily agreeing with them, but understanding what those people have to say.

The way you behave inspires others and you can be a positive example. So be an inspiration! Find your passion, follow your goal and not the limits of others in your path. And if those around you still don't respect you, then those people are not in your place.

Practice self-respect.

Recent research shows quite clearly that a sense of responsibility for one's life has a very big impact on mental health. A healthy sense of control comes from exercising your right to set your own priorities in life, to say "no" without feeling guilty, to protect yourself from harm, and to choose healthy relationships that automatically lead to a 25% higher level of happiness.

It is much wiser to take care of yourself first so that you can be better and more authentic with others. If you have control over your life, then you can choose to live wisely at any time. No one can steal your power to choose what is best for you unless you allow it to happen. And only allow it when you don't know yourself and don't fight for yourself.

I know it's not easy, and many times when you try to take care of yourself, your inner voice whispers things like, "I'm selfish if I don't help my friends every time they need to," "I can't refuse, I feel guilty if I do this "," if I don't do what he wants, he will be upset, he won't like me anymore, he will leave me, he will reject me, he will ignore me " . But if you pay attention and hear your voice, it will tell you how valuable you are.

If you have heard these phrases in your mind before, it means that you are unconsciously feeling that you do not deserve to be treated with respect and you may find it difficult to change all these dysfunctional thoughts imprinted in the subconscious on your own. To be respected, you need to uproot these weeds and plant the trees of your own happiness.

When changing the root of evil seems like a daunting task, maybe even impossible, remember that a psychologist can always help you. The psychologist knows how the human mind works and teaches you how to cleanse your insides and plant the seeds of happiness in your subconscious.

If you resonate with me and think I'm the psychologist who could help you, send me an email and we'll arrange a few meetings together.

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Thank you and I hug you dearly,

Andrée