20 Signs Of A Toxic Person In Your Life

After 5 years of dealing with people who always wanted something from me, I finally booted the toxic people in my life. I love to help people, atleast, I did. Although, it's hard to help the right person when you dont know their true intention until the end. Now, I stick to me, my fiance and my children mostly.

See, Toxic people are not just friends! They come in all forms, including: family,new people you have met, people you are in a relationship with,even your children. But its not good to keep toxic people in your life. They do nothing but drag you down.

If they are your family, then you need to tell them to change their toxic ways, otherwise you will have to kick them out of your life.

Just like any other toxin, they are bad. The definition of "Toxic" is poisonous. It is harmful. When you have someone who is toxic in your life, you are opening a gate. One that will allow that person to cause you emotional, physical and often financial sludge to build up in your mind, body, soul and outside life.

They are called toxic because they literally cause the same side effects of a toxin. And a toxic person doesn't just get cleansed away by some detox. Even if you kick them out of your life, they will always exist in your head. A toxic relationship is even more dangerous than taking any prescription medication that takes months to clear from your system. Even fat soluble medications will leave your body, mostly for good, eventually. But a toxic person, that residue can last a lifetime. It takes a real special cleanse to keep them away.

Here are the signs of someone being toxic:

1. They leave you feeling down about yourself, or emotionally drained after you hang out with them.
2. They are unsupportive of your goals, or when you bring up an idea, the shoot it down in an extreme way. Leaving you feeling bad about it.
3. They do very ungodly things such as: doing drugs,talk about people behind their back, use people etc.
4. They have complete opposite interests or values than you do.
5. They leave you feeling somewhat beat up emotionally and mentally.
6. They have a habit of not keeping to their word.
7. They only call or text you when they need a favor from you.
8. They are often jealous of you. It can be because of your: weight,the amount of money you make, your boyfriend or girlfriend etc.
9. They have no ambition and they don’t show any motivation whats so ever.
10. They borrow money from you and don’t return it. Often they owe you hundreds, even thousands of dollars.
11. They screw you over more times than you can count.
12. They always make everything about them.
13. They often make everything negative. They complain about their health problems,back pain or about all the problems occurring in their life.
14. You cant be yourself completely around them.
15. You get a weird vibe from them, like you know you shouldn’t be around them.
16. They are very well known for their bad behavior and how they treat people.
17. They don’t ever expect you to change, and when you do, they call you out on it.
18. They cause more trouble than good.
19. You find yourself doing all the bad things they do. They are no way at all a good influence.
20. You stop asking them for advice because they always tell you to do bad things.

HOW DO I GET RID OF A TOXIC PERSON IN MY LIFE? Or Atleast Try To.

It may seem like a simple feat, removing a toxic person from your life. But, toxic people try to weasel their way into your life. Especially when you have made it clear you don't want them around.

From personal experience, my toxic friend has always come back in my life. Most of it is my fault, because I'm allowing it to happen. But a big part of pushing them out of your life, requires you to really SEE what they are doing, and WHY they are so toxic.

My person, is the type who takes advantage of people by getting their pitty and money. She has been able to make it through, and move into houses without much effort. She also exchanges her vehicles with the car dealership every 6 months. She tells people they have to take over payments through the dealership, but requires the money she paid for the car. Then she asks way above the amount.

I asked for advice recently, about how she is able to effortlessly move into the homes she has lived in. And about how she is able to get the cars like she does. Her response was a LIE, which is what made me yet again tell her to kick rocks.

She claims that she got credit cards to help build her credit. At that point I remembered my credit report, and how somehow I owe $500 to PGE. When I lived with her briefly, she had opened an account in my name. When I moved, she promised me that she was going to close it out. She didnt. And she never paid the bill. When I brought it up to her, she said I deserved it because I, along with everyone else there, screwed her over.

Thats when I finally woke up to her disgusting truth. For the past 15 years, maybe more, she has been opening accounts in other peoples names to keep her credit safe. At the age of 15, she stole and used my social security number to open up a AT&T account for a house phone. Imagine my surprise when I received a call, and on caller ID, it showed MY NAME.

The best way you are able to get a toxic person out of your life, is to see them for who they really are. If you think that what they are doing is wrong, try not to allow them in your life. I created this article in hopes that people will see the signs, and defriend the person before things become too toxic.

From personal experience, having a toxic friend leaves you with personality traits that are just plain ugly. I began to see things a certain way, and thought it was okay to live like that. Some of my own family is toxic as well, and that is why I have decided to keep to me, my kids and fiance. Im perfectly happy not having too many real world friends around me. Most of my friends are online, and I hope one day to meet them in person.

So in the end, there is no real answer to it. You will be screwed over by them until you finally realize it. But hopefully you pay attention to the signs and kick them out of your life before they REALLY cause some damage.