20 hardships about woman relationships and how to face them

1. Speak up early.

Women in relationships sometimes have a tendency to hesitate when it comes to saying something is bugging them. As a result they can hold anger in and then let it all out at once… like a ticking time bomb.

2. Learn to let things go.

Another common tendency for women is to hold a grudge about something, instead of confronting the fact that it still bugs them or the argument doesn’t feel like it’s been addressed enough.

3. Take care of yourself.

A big part of having a happy and successful relationship is feeling good about yourself. Taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually will help you be all you can be for your partner. Make sure you’re taking time to work out, eat right, meditate, or do what you need to feel healthy and fulfilled.

4. Support your partner’s hobbies.

If a woman isn’t supportive of their partner’s hobbies it can leave the partner feeling guilty, angry, and may even lead them to lie to their partner. “Whether it’s racing, golf, video games, etc, if you’re unsupportive it belittles your partner and minimizes something important in their life,” Lamson says. “Instead make a genuine effort to understand.

5. Love yourself.

So many women complain that they either can’t find the right partner, or they always attract jerks who don’t treat them right.

Well, it’s probably because you don’t love yourself enough. You can only attract the level of love that you feel for yourself.

So, look at all your good qualities and decide to love yourself exactly the way you are right now.

6. Take care of yourself.

If you love yourself, then you will automatically take care of yourself. This means trying to stay healthy, get enough sleep, go get massages, escape to a bubble bath, or maybe a girls’ night out.

You need to feed your soul in other ways outside of your relationship or else you won’t have anything left to give.

7. Don’t be a people pleaser.

Many women mistakenly believe that if they please other people, then they will automatically love them. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!

A lot of people will take advantage of you if you give too much of yourself. Instead, strive for a healthy balance of being self-less and selfish.

Please your partner, but also make sure they please you too. Relationships are a two-way street.

8. Speak your mind.

When I say “speak your mind,” I mean doing it gently and calmly. Don’t suppress your negative (or positive) emotions. Let them out.

Talk to your partner about any problems you are having. Try to see yourself as a team and solve the problems together. You deserve respect and to have your voice heard.

9. Don’t avoid problems.

No one really likes conflict. Well, maybe there are some people who do, but generally speaking, most people don’t.

So, what happens a lot of the time is they go into avoidance mode. This does not work.

If you avoid problems for years upon years, well, they are going to pile up. And then one day you’ll wake up 25 years later and never be able to sort through them all because they’ve been accumulating too long.

10. Make time for your partner.

I know I said to have your own life and some independence, but on the flip side, you can’t spend too much time alone (or with other people) because then the relationship could die.

Relationships need attention. So, make sure you go on regular date nights and have deep conversations to keep your connection strong.

11. Demand respect.

When I say “demand,” I don’t mean stomping your foot down and demanding in in a diva kind of way. What I mean is that you need to believe that you deserve to be treated with respect at all times – everyone does.

But here’s the kicker – in order to get respect, you need to give respect. So, by being respectful, you are setting the scene for nothing but kind treatment in return.

12. Strive for equal effort.

People always say, “relationships should be 50-50.” That’s wrong.

They should be 100-100. BOTH people need to put in 100% effort every day to keep the relationship strong.

It can’t be 100-20, 100-50, or even 100-99. It has to be equal.

If it gets out of balance, you need to have a conversation about that so you can get back on track.

13. Talk about gender roles.

Over the last few decades, gender roles have become blurred. Gone are the days when everyone automatically expects the man to be the bread winner and the woman to stay home and raise the kids.

These days, conversations need to be had about each person’s expectations within the relationship regarding gender roles.

14. Be a good listener.

Usually, we think women are good listeners and men are bad listeners. This isn’t true.

Men and women just listen differently. Women listen to connect with another person, and men listen to solve a problem.

But we all deserve to have someone listen to us. So, don’t forget that your partner needs that too.

15. Show empathy.

Relationships should not be “me vs. you.” It should be “us” as a team. You can’t constantly be only considering your own perspective about anything.

You may or may not be right, but perception is reality. If your partner sees it differently, try to understand. Show him empathy, and then most likely he’ll show it to you in return.

16. Be accepting of differences.

No one is 100% alike. Even identical twins aren’t exactly the same.

If you have too many expectations of his behavior that are being violated, maybe you should just accept the differences.

And if there are too many differences that you can’t tolerate, then maybe he’s not the person for you.

Oh, and don’t forget, he should accept your differences too.

17. Don’t settle.

There are way too many people in the world who fear being alone. It’s probably because they don’t love themselves enough to hold out for what they deserve. Instead, they settle for “Mr. Good Enough for Now.” And then they find themselves miserable in a short amount of time.

Hold out for “Mr. Right” because you will never find “Mr. Perfect,” but you shouldn’t settle either.

18. Don’t try to change him.

Women are notorious for trying to change their man. They think things like, “If I can get him to lose 30 pounds, then he’ll be more attractive.” Or “If I can just get him to stop playing video games, I’ll be happy.” Or “Once we get married, he’ll change for the better.”

Take this important piece of advice – if you don’t like how his is RIGHT NOW, without any changes, then you shouldn’t be with him. Period. Because you can’t really change him anyway. It just won’t work.

19. Teach him how to treat you.

The behavior you allow from another person is the behavior that will persist.

So, for instance, if early in the relationship he starts yelling at you when he’s angry, you need to correct him by gently saying, “I don’t’ appreciate you yelling at me. I deserve to be spoken to with respect. So, until you do that, I won’t engage in this conversation.”

If you don’t, it’ll only get worse.

20. Become the person you want to attract.

If you don’t love and respect yourself, then you’ll attract someone else who won’t love and respect you either. It all starts with self-love.

You can’t metaphorically beat up on yourself and expect others to treat you like a queen. Trust me, people pick up on this stuff.

Once you love and respect yourself, then you will get the kind of relationship that you want.

These tips were given by relationship experts

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