12 Things You Expect from Other People

We condemn people for judging others, but in fact, we are just like them.

Here's why:

1. Do you expect that the people around you will be completely honest and open with you in their intentions (especially if those intentions are romantic), but do you treat yourself with such honesty and openness? How many people do you guess, wait and doubt just because it suits you?

2. You are angry with those who do not try to be kind to everyone around them without any conditions. But what about the situation from another point of view: you try to teach children to be kinder, punishing them for not being kind enough. And in communicating with other adults, ask for openness and love, often in ways that cannot be called open, kind, and loving.

3. You expect that if you are romantically interested in someone, then that person should take the first step, inviting you to a meeting and not even considering taking the initiative. You do not like the situation created, but you consider the first approach on your part under your dignity.

Think about it: when was the last time you consciously left your comfort zone to tell someone that he didn't care about you? When was the last time you invited someone of interest to you on a date - and not just sitting in a cafe? At a real, romantic date? When was the last time you did to someone what you expected from them?

4. You expect other people to start trusting you after the first date, but the reasons you don't trust others can hardly be justified in many cases.

5. Do you call miserable those people who condemn you, not even knowing all the circumstances of your life, but how often do you wash the bones of colleagues, friends, or even strangers? You are convinced that if these people knew the history of your life, they would understand that you should not be judged in a hurry… however, you are only doing this, condemning others for actions you do not understand at all and for a decision whose background is unknown.

6. Theoretically, you expect people around you to adopt different conceptions of the world, but at the same time to look at those whose faith seems too "medieval" or "dogmatic." Even if you say that every path to the truth is just as good, yet deep down you believe that the one you have chosen is undoubtedly better than others.

7. You expect other people not to joke about you badly and sarcastically, even though you don't mind letting go of a joke or something like that if you feel at the bottom of an emotional hole and an "appropriate target".

8. You want other people to finally start to appreciate themselves and stop overcoming themselves, but at the same time, you expect them to inspire you when you do the same.

9. You often expect other quick and drastic changes in everything, whether you're switching to a diet

healthy and that you go to sports, break a toxic relationship or leave a job with a low level of pay. In a word, when people have engaged in self-destruction so much that it has become a habit with them, you think you can stop it in two ways.

Few can dramatically change their lives. To check this is usually quite easy - just look at your negative habits.

10. Condemn those who, in your opinion, is against what you consider to be appropriate behavior - those who talk too loudly on the street, who are always late or forget to call back, who are not paying enough attention to themselves. and so on.

But when you're tired, you have a bad day, you don't invest in the project deadlines, you stop worrying about talking loudly on the phone, standing in line for coffee, talking loudly during dinner, because you have to express your thoughts right now…

However, it is worthwhile for someone else, because such behavior immediately becomes rude and unacceptable in your eyes. Something else is unacceptable in this situation - your double standards.

11. You expect complete and crystal-clear honesty from other people, but when it is your turn, to tell the truth, avoid it until there is no other option.

12. You expect unconditional love from your loved ones unconditionally as if this is enough to make up for the fact that you do not love yourself enough.