10 Hard Truths You Wish You Knew In Your 20’s

1. Everyone is going to die.

This was a tough reality to accept, but it’s true for everyone. At some point in your life, you’ll have to say goodbye to people you love. You’ll be forced to accept that death is not just an abstract concept, but something that can happen to anyone at any time.

It has been said that if you get a PhD in philosophy and never read a book on mortality, you’re doing it wrong.

Everyone’s life will end one day. It could be a surprise death or an accepting death. Either way, that one day is in the future and no matter what you do now, it will not change the fact that you are going to die someday.

2. Life isn’t a movie, you need to have a plan

One of the hardest truths to accept in your 20s is that life isn’t a movie, you need to have a plan. You’ll need to figure out what you want, who you want to be, and what you need to do in order to see your dreams come true.

When you think about life, movies can become a cliche to describe certain situations. However, you will soon realize that life is not just like the movies. You need to have a plan and be prepared for anything.

3. The perfect partner doesn’t exist. Find someone you love to spend a lifetime.

People often think that if they find their “one true love,” then happiness will follow. It doesn’t always work out that way, however. The person you thought was your “one true love” might have been different if you would have met them when you were older.

They might not be the perfect partner for you, and they might not have lasted forever. Dating can be difficult at times, but it’s worth it because the person you marry is likely someone who will grow old with you.

Life is a long and complicated journey. You will have good times and bad times, success and failure. But it’s the journey that matters. So stop waiting for that perfect partner to catch your eye and fall in love with someone who already loves you for all the beautiful things about you.

4. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.

There are many things in life that you will go through, and take with you for the rest of your life. One of these is going to be some really hard days. These bad days might be hard because of a death, divorce, or job loss.

Sometimes all these things happen at once. Always remember that you will have good days too. Keep fighting and don’t give up!

As we grow up, we often find our assumptions of how life will be tough and difficult to be true. This is because as we age, we start to see the world in a different and positive light. We learn that the things that break us are actually opportunities for growth and change.

Our twenties are a time when we feel like everything is new and exciting, but over time it becomes apparent that new experiences can be hard, but they’re worth it.

5. Most of the time you don’t get what you deserve.

When we were younger, it was easy to believe that we deserve more than we get. This is especially true when most of our friends are successful. If a friend’s parents won’t pay for their college and they have to get a job just to survive, it’s easy to think “that sucks! I should get paid more than I do.”

The truth is that life always throws us curveballs that you don’t deserve. It’s important to know this so you can be happy with what you have instead of focusing on what you don’t have.

The most challenging part of a 20-something is the uncertainty of life. There are so many things that they don’t know, and they have to figure out what they want to do with their lives. But in the end, those who have patience and try hard are often rewarded.

6. You learn more from pain than from pleasure.

Learning happens best in the context of pain. You don’t just want to know about what you did wrong; you want to make sure that if it does happen again, you will avoid mistakes in the future. Learning from pain is a very personal process.

We all know that at some point in our lives, we will have to deal with pain. It may be from a break-up, or it may be something like losing a loved one. The thing about pain is that when you are going through it, you don’t care about what others think and you just want relief. You will learn more from the pain than anything else.

7. Everything will work out in the end.

You may have a little bit of anxiety at first when it comes to your future, but you will be glad that you know this truth. You are going to fall in love with someone, get married, and have children.

You are going to live life as long as you can, and everything will work out in the end.

When we were in our early twenties and had just started out in life, everything seemed to be going wrong. We would get into an argument and then five minutes later, it was like nothing happened.

We don’t know what we’re doing but we believe everything will turn out for the best even though there is so much uncertainty.

8. Raise your standards and the universe will meet you there.

Being in your 20s means that you are still figuring out what is important to you. It can be a time of anxiety and self-doubt because you don’t know what you want or where your passions lie.

But one thing is for sure, the universe will meet you there if you raise your standards. You just have to do it, instead of allowing yourself to settle for less than what you deserve.

Many people lead happy, fulfilling lives in their 20s.

If you’re not happy and fulfilled, then it’s likely because you’ve lowered your standards for yourself. You might be dating someone who doesn’t make you feel the way that you want to feel, or spending your days working at a job that doesn’t pay well when society would have told you to stay in school and work hard towards your dreams. Before lowering the bar, think about why it’s worth the effort.

9. Trust takes years to build but seconds to break, and forever to repair.

When you are in your twenties, it can be easy to trust people. You have been friends with them for years, and you know that they will have your best interests at heart. However, there is a very thin line between genuine trust and naivety that may come back to haunt you later on.

10. Some people will only love you as much as they can use you.

It’s easy to get obsessed with getting some validation from other people in your 20s. Whether it’s a partner, friends, or family, it’s easy to think that they will only love you as much as they can use you. Unfortunately, this is often true and the person will eventually leave your life.

Many people say that they’re worth more than what you offer them in return. Some people won’t care about your feelings, and just want to use you for something they need. They will only be with you as long as it benefits them.