Girls, cherish your down time

There are cycles in everything, and when there are peaks that exist, there are valleys that come.

Unemployment, loss of love, divorce, debt, illness, parting of family and friends ...... Everyone experiences dark moments in their lives to a greater or lesser extent.

But what goes around comes around, and when it's too bad to be true, the turnaround will come, and all we have to do is patiently build up our strength and wait for takeoff.

1. Be back to plants, animals and children.

People who are in a downturn are most likely low on energy.

Whether it's dawdling and forcing yourself to play chicken or simply laying flat and swinging for the fences, it's not the most appropriate way to cope.

"If the psyche is sick, then go back from being a human to being a plant, eating, sleeping, sunbathing, growing, and thinking about nothing else."

Eat well, sleep, get your body warm and hot in the sun, and live like a plant.

"Be an animal again, accept your desires, confront your needs, your anger, your competition."

It's okay to feel whatever we feel, we don't need to repress emotions and desires, these are what make a person alive.

"Become a child again, re-nurture yourself, build curiosity, enthusiasm, courage for the world."

The one thing a person cannot afford to lose is faith, hope, and courage, and it is our duty and responsibility to guard these small, feeble embers.

"From plants, to animals, to little children, take off the mask and return to the real, healthy, vitality."

When we stop holding ourselves to the world's definition of success and divide our time between sleeping, exercising, eating, and hobbies, we can stop being overshadowed by our downturns and let go of our "I should" obsessions.

By exploring inward, being free to define what we like about our lives, and letting go of the so-called "I should" obsession, we can be free of the shadows of our downturns!

2. The lower the valley, the more you have to learn new things.

It is fortunate if one has a hobby that sustains one through the blind spots of life when one has lost the courage to live and is stuck in the gray zone.

Ljubishev, the author of "A Strange Life", after losing his son, continued to repeat daily mechanical actions, record time spent, and study insects.

In his diary, there seems to be no emotion, only cold data: what he did and how much time he spent.

Just reading this, one would think he was a cold-blooded robot.

No, he was in so much pain that he almost sank, but doing these basic actions every day kept him from going off the rails, which in turn slowly got him through the slump and back to normal life.

If you find yourself without any hobbies, that's okay, the best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, and now.

Find something to re-learn and commit to right now, run, swim, ride, hike, read, write, meditate ......

It's not what you do that matters, it's the flow of the heart you feel while doing it, experiencing the beauty of being at one with the present moment and finding a sense of control over your life.

It's even better if it's of the athletic variety, the dopamine production that comes with exercise brings a sense of pleasure that can't be replaced by anything else.

For a while I relied on running to pull myself out of the doldrums, from 3 kilometers a day, 5 kilometers a day, to be able to run a 21 kilometers half marathon, I feel like I can do it again.

So don't get frustrated and run away when you're in the doldrums, it's a great time to sort yourself out, settle down, grow, and put down roots.

We creep forward day after day in despair, from the dark night to the dawn, to get a new self!

Finally, share a quote from Mr. Luo Xiang:

"Cherish your low point, you will see a lot of truth, time can ferry are willing to ferry themselves.

No one's life is smooth sailing, the suffering in the trough is to accumulate strength, even if it is the light coming out of the cracks, you have to hold on to it, and then give birth to the courage to live to the sun.

Please make sure that you, again and again and again and again, a thousand times over, do not hesitate to save yourself from the waters of this world."

Yu Hua wrote in Shouting in the Drizzle:

"When we treat the world ferociously, the world suddenly becomes gentle."