I Pretended to Be a Woman on a Dating App

As a 21-year-old guy, my fascination with human behavior often leads me down peculiar paths. One night, amidst the endless scroll of dating profiles, a question struck me: what's it truly like to experience this as a woman? Not for mere amusement, but to genuinely understand. So, I created a female profile a normal photo, a simple bio, nothing exaggerated. Just a raw, unfiltered observation. The problem with every online dating service is that people who sign up with multiple fake accounts hope to simply squeeze money out of you.

Many sites have tools to weed out this material as quickly as possible, but you're still likely to encounter some. They usually try to get you off the site as soon as possible so they can get in touch with you before the dating site deletes their profile. Just watch out these signs.

No photos (if you're trying online dating without posting a photo, it's possible that online dating isn't for you) . Photo"Too good to be true"-if you're an ordinary person and the most gorgeous woman is writing to you online, chances are it's a fake profile.

1. The Deluge of Attention

As a man, I'm accustomed to a digital desert. Swipes yield silence. But the moment my female profile went live, it was a tsunami. Notifications flooded my screen, match after match, a relentless stream. What started as a thrill quickly morphed into overwhelming chaos. Within hours, I had over 50 matches. Messages ranged from polite greetings to shockingly aggressive advances. Five messages in as many minutes from one guy, each more desperate than the last. Another showered me with compliments so outlandish they bordered on parody.

It was a dizzying, exhausting experience. The stark contrast was jarring: men feel invisible, women are bombarded. But the attention wasn't always welcome some of it was downright predatory.

2. The Undercurrent of Creepiness

Of those 50+ matches, only a handful initiated conversations that didn't make me wince. Harmless, yet bland, Hey, how's it going? messages were the exception. Others were overtly sexual. One guy demanded nudes immediately. Another sent unsolicited explicit images. Several tried to drag the conversation into the gutter within seconds. Initially, I dismissed it as comical, but the pattern quickly turned sinister.

A particular message stood out You're hot. Let's meet tonight.No introduction, no preamble, just raw entitlement. It wasn't flattering; it was alarming. Suddenly, I grasped the reality of online harassment faced by women. What I'd perceived as harmless banter now felt invasive and dehumanizing.

3. The Glaring Double Standards

Before this, I'd dismissed women's complaints about shallow or lazy men. I figured everyone was just trying their best. But switching perspectives revealed the stark double standards. As a woman, I received messages ranging from aggressively forward to utterly indifferent. There was rarely a middle ground.

Conversely, my own delayed responses were met with immediate ghosting. One guy even had the audacity to write, Wow, rude, after a two-hour delay. Two. Hours. It was a stark revelation: women's frustrations were not only valid but far more intense than I'd imagined.

4. The Weight of Exhaustion

By the end of this experiment, I was unexpectedly drained. We often discuss the challenges men face in online dating, but this experience exposed a different kind of burden. Women endure constant, often unwanted, attention. They navigate a minefield of messages, dodging creeps while seeking genuine connections. And any perceived imperfection is met with swift judgment.

5. The Absence of Humanity

Modern dating has become a soulless numbers game. Swipes, matches, algorithms – efficiency reigns supreme. But we've lost sight of the human element. Pretending to be a woman, I found myself judging profiles on superficial details, only to receive the same treatment. It was a disheartening cycle.This experiment served as a stark reminder: behind every profile is a person yearning for genuine connection.

A Shift in Perspective

This experience fundamentally altered my perception of online dating. It exposed the system's flaws and, more importantly, underscored the humanity behind every profile. We're all seeking connection, and that deserves empathy.

Your Turn

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