What is the Relationship Between an Escort and Their Client?

The allure of hiring an escort usually comes from a want or a need to simulate a romantic relationship. However, it has to be emphasised that the romantic relationship between an escort and the person who hired them is just a simulation, and a simulation only. Escorts provide companionship, intimacy, and a confidence boost to their clients, but from a distance. The primary job of an escort isn’t necessarily to provide sex, although this is certainly a large part of their role. In reality, the key to providing a good escorting service is to make the client feel great through recreating the positive benefits of an actual romantic relationship, without the commitment or legitimate emotions. Escorts spend quality time socialising with their clients, listening to their feelings, and making them feel special, with bookings often lasting for hours, and only a short period of this time is spent in the actual bedroom. Many individuals who hire escorts are unable to find fulfilling romantic relationships in real life, or aren’t capable of opening up emotionally to their actual partners in the way they are comfortable doing so with an escort. The relationship between an escort and their client is very unique in that there is an emotional void being filled, without emotional investment.

It’s vital that escorts have strict rules, policies, and safety guidelines in place to help ensure that the lines don’t get blurred between a professional working relationship and a real-life romantic one. There is a genuine danger that clients may get emotionally attached to the escorts they hire, and understandably so; Escorts enable their clients to spend time with women who would usually be unobtainable to them without money, allowing them an opportunity to create and indulge in their own ideal fantasy and giving the client an illusion of control. There is a potent combination of escapism and comfort between an escort and their client which could lead to attachment and a desire to date in a genuine, real-life scenario.

To help them to maintain a professional relationship with the clients who hire them, escorts will discuss with the client what’s to be expected from the interaction beforehand, with both parties agreeing to follow a certain set of behaviours. There will be limitations set on what the client can expect from the escort, such as particular sexual acts being off-limits, and they will be required to behave respectfully throughout their time with the escort. Many escorts will ask for references from other escorts or agencies before they will meet with a client, helping to ensure their safety. Payment will be made up front and a condom will always be worn to make sure both parties are safe from sexually transmitted infections. The relationship between an escort and their client has to remain a “professional fantasy”. Neither party can cross the line between professionalism and genuine intimacy by asking for or offering freebies, or exchanging contact details.

The reality of the relationship between an escort and their client is that despite how well she may play the role of love interest, for the escort she is merely at work providing a service to a customer. By keeping professional standards and rules in place, the client is reminded of this throughout their encounter, and the relationship remains a fantasy only to be indulged in while the escort is on the clock. The relationship can quite simply be boiled down to simulated intimacy, a skilled professional providing a unique service to a customer in need.