Some small knowledge about making love

We often encourage romance and love, but we hesitate to openly discuss sex.Sex is actually a very important and natural subject, yet in Taiwanese society, it remains a taboo topic that people avoid discussing.

In reality, most Taiwanese people are curious about sex, but due to societal pressures, they keep it deep inside and are afraid to explore or share it with others. Correct sexual concepts and knowledge are not only beneficial for interactions between men and women but also for personal development. Moreover, after getting married and having children, having the right knowledge can help parents educate their children properly and enhance parent - child relationships. This is good for the entire society. On the contrary, ignoring and avoiding the topic can lead to more problems.

In this chapter, I have compiled some of the most frequently asked questions and easily misunderstood myths, and I will reveal the true nature of sex to free everyone from confusion!

**1. Can sex be considered a form of exercise to burn calories?**

Many people believe that "sex is a full - body exercise that can help with weight loss." However, to be honest, if you are not actively moving during sex, the parts of your body that get exercised will be minimal. The person on the bottom also tends to exert less effort than the one on top. If you do not have sex frequently, the thrusting does not last very long, and you are not constantly exerting yourself, then the calories burned through this activity are quite limited. Even if both partners are actively involved, according to numerous studies, the calories burned during sex are roughly equivalent to those burned by a leisurely walk. Although sex is a beneficial physical activity for both mind and body, its impact on weight reduction is not significant.

**2. Is it really possible for someone to have sex seven times in one night?**

There are many men who are curious about the limits of sexual frequency. The answer to this actually varies from person to person. If we define ejaculation as one instance of sex, then for those who are in good physical condition and regularly exercise, having sex twice in one night is not a problem. Alternatively, if there are several - hour breaks in between, such as having sex twice before bed and then once more after a few hours of sleep, it can be achieved. However, this is more likely to occur in young men. As men enter middle age, they tend to experience noticeable fatigue or aversion, and without external assistance, achieving multiple times in one night becomes less feasible.

In theory, a small number of young men might be able to have sex multiple times in one night, but moderation is key. If a man frequently challenges himself to ejaculate multiple times in one night, it could potentially lead to adverse effects or future health issues. Sex should ideally follow the body's natural response. If both partners are satisfied, it is best to rest. Pushing for a higher number of times not only reduces pleasure and quality but may also cause discomfort. After all, sex is more about quality than quantity. Instead of focusing on the number of times, it is better to have a fulfilling sexual experience that allows for emotional connection with your partner.

**3. Do women also have erotic dreams?**

The answer to this question is yes. Just like men, women also experience erotic dreams, and some women can even achieve physical orgasms during these dreams. Having erotic dreams is a normal physiological phenomenon that can help relieve stress and is beneficial for both physical and mental health. Surveys have indicated that the smarter a woman is, the more likely she is to have erotic dreams, and the more diverse the content of these dreams tends to be. This is because intelligent women often have better imagination, more active minds, and are exposed to a wider range of stimuli. Regardless of gender, the likelihood of having erotic dreams can slightly increase when we sleep in positions that easily cause friction to the genital area.

**4. Will frequent sex make the vagina loose?**

The female vagina is an organ with elasticity and the ability to contract, and it can indeed become looser over time. However, this is not significantly related to having sex but rather to the natural aging process that causes muscles to lose their elasticity. As people approach middle age, the elasticity of muscles naturally declines. Additionally, during each sexual encounter, the vagina automatically adjusts to the most suitable size for the couple. When properly stimulated and aroused, the vaginal walls will slightly engorge with blood, enhancing the tightness during intercourse. After sex, the vagina quickly returns to its original state, which is one of its remarkable characteristics. Nevertheless, the degree of elasticity and contraction varies from person to person.

Moreover, women who have given birth may experience a temporary change in the tightness of the vagina, as it has to expand significantly to allow the passage of a baby's head, which can be over 10 centimeters in diameter. In such cases, patience and perseverance are key. Through proper diet and regular exercise, such as running, squats, and Kegel exercises, women can help restore their vagina to its pre - pregnancy condition.

**5. Can men and women climax together?**

Yes, it is possible if both partners are willing and make an effort. Since both men and women are capable of reaching orgasm, there is no reason why they cannot climax simultaneously. In most cases, men tend to climax relatively easily, so it often happens that men are about to ejaculate when women are on the verge of or already experiencing orgasm. In other words, when there is some overlap between the woman's vaginal contractions and the man's ejaculation, it can be considered a "simultaneous orgasm." Achieving a simultaneous climax is not difficult; the key is to use foreplay effectively to make the woman's body highly sensitive and fully immersed in the sexual experience.

Moreover, while reaching climax is a wonderful experience, it is not necessary to be overly fixated on achieving it at the same time. Sometimes, having a slight time difference between each other's orgasms can allow partners to appreciate and savor the other's reactions, which can be a beautiful and enjoyable aspect of the experience.