Plug Me in and Watch Me Suck

I was in my early twenties when I met my first solo orgasm. I remember how sexy I was feeling. The need to release sexual tension and become more intimately aware of my sexuality was intense. So, I moistened my fingers with saliva before sliding my hand between my thighs, parting my lady bits to find the tip of my clitoris. I stroked, caressed, and teased her with a focus on my little “love button” as I connected with the euphoric waves of ecstasy. The wetter I got, the more aroused I became, but the experience didn’t last. I climaxed within a matter of seconds. Still, I felt as if I’d exposed a buried part of myself, and I did. Unfortunately, it was the part of me that associated the act of self-pleasure with shame.

This early encounter involving my fingers and my clit was pivotal for me because, like many young women, I believed that masturbation was considered normal for a male and “dirty” or “taboo” for a female. Religious parents didn’t raise me, but I was still mildly influenced by stale societal belief systems that frequently demoralized female sexuality.

Shame on me.

Thank God I am rebellious at heart. I couldn’t resist exploring the warm folds and silky-like textures of my very wet … honey pot. But it was so much more than masturbation. It was a personal revolution if you will. That initial experience marked the very beginning of my journey toward finding my sexual mojo — an essential step on the evolutionary path of inner connectedness and self-awareness.

That’s the intimate power of a woman’s self-pleasure.

But don’t just take my word for it. Nan Wise, who is a licensed sex therapist and author of Why Good Sex Matters says that masturbation is beneficial for women, in particular, telling us:

“When we masturbate, we become powerful. We stand up and say, ‘Hands off my body, let me put my own hands on my body.’ It’s not just a physical act but a psychological one.”

Wise got it right. A woman who can freely enjoy her own body is a woman who is attuned to her sexual wellness, understands her most intimate desires, and is deeply connected to her inner self.

Need more convincing?

If I were going deep on the benefits of masturbation for a woman, I’d tell you that pleasuring oneself:

• Feels damn good
• Increases your libido
• It helps to improve your sex life
• It lowers cortisol, the stress hormone, and heightens your feel-good endorphins
• Increases oxygen to the brain
• Combat’s insomnia
• It can be a mindfulness practice

Sounds very positive to me, but enough of the fundamentals — let’s get into the juice of this article and talk about my latest self-pleasure discovery, the Cuddly Bird.

Are you ready to fly with me?

“Let’s kick the tires and light the fires, daredevil.”

Said Henry Connick Jr. in the movie Independence Day.

Plug Me in and Watch Me Suck

Truth?

Over the years, I have owned and collected my fair share of pulsing sex toys. It turned out that the independent finger venture eventually lost its “shiny new object” appeal, and I needed, well, a shinier new object that was an actual object to appease my sexual appetite. So, I eased my way into the sex toy market.

Delight.

I have owned everything from Rabbit Vibrators to Bullets to Love Eggs and Jingle Balls, to the wireless Butterfly Stimulator to Dildos to U-shaped We-Vibes, to name a few.

Umm….

You could rightfully assume that I fully embraced the empowering art of self-pleasure. So much so that I have developed a refined repertoire concerning my erotic self. I understand what’s going to kick my tires and light my fires. But ladies and gentlemen, until now, I have never owned a sex toy that sucked. Well, not in a good, actionable way.

Enter the crème de la crème of pulsation in the form of OSUGA’s Cuddly Bird.

To clarify, the Cuddly Bird is a clitoral massager with both suction and vibration modes.

Repeat — suction mode.

Now, for me and my most significant sexual organ (my brain), the hot little Birdy’s suction feature is what really … erm … sucked me in.

I mean, what more could a woman want in the self-pleasure department? Give me suction, a slight vibration, lube, and a handful of sexy thought impressions, and I’m suitable for some softcore skin flicking. Or something like that.

So, I plugged my new sucking toy in and watched it suck.

I watched it suck my finger, my earlobe, and my lips. Hell, I even watched it suck my nipples — more delight. Then, I showed it to my husband, and he said that he wanted to watch it suck his dick.

Hmm…

What is it with men wanting to fit their dicks into tiny openings?

Could it be that the less it can fit into, the better he feels? It might be a question worth exploring another day.

Anyway, back to the Cuddly Bird, I want to tell you that after much fun testing out what the device will and won’t suck, I eventually got down to serious fun. That is, the down below variety.

First, I explored the power of its vibrating belly, relishing the pulsating sensation as I gently guided it between thighs. Although I can see (or feel) how the vibrating function complements the sucking action of the sex toy, that part didn’t last too long for me — I was way too excited to get to the main event.

Suck — theme music right there.

Alas, I didn’t watch the Cuddly Bird suck the sweet spot between my legs. I was too busy trying to control the immediate rush of euphoric bliss threatening to rapture me into pieces.

More than once.

I swear, as soon as I aligned its glorious suction head with my clitoris, that Bird awoke every pleasure nerve deep inside, magically sucking me into ecstatic heaven.

I’m talking multiple clitoral orgasms here. You know, like an exquisite heartbeat that builds in your groin to eventuate in an all-encompassing avalanche. The kind of orgasm that resembles an out-of-body release — that’s how good this little silicone-wrapped gadget is.

And the best part is that the discreet love-button Birdy will go down on me whenever, wherever.

Unlike some.

Ah… the juicy benefits of feminine masturbation —

Love. Freedom. Deeper inner connection. Sexual wellness. And a super-sucking sex toy.

Whether practiced alone or with a partner, sexuality and erotica can be a great source of healing. As I mentioned, for women, in particular, masturbation is a part of the process of freeing the natural, precious, and healing pieces of herself to eventually infuse with her spirit to promote a sense of wholeness within. Perhaps even contributing toward creating higher states of self-awareness and sexual confidence as she unfolds along her intimate self-love journey.

If that’s considered shameful, offensive, or taboo by some, then I highly suggest that you plug me in and watch me suck the crap out of your prudish mindset because here’s the thing: Women masturbate.

And I think it’s time we started to talk more about it.