My girlfriend and my dad are attracted to each other

I’m 30 years old, my girlfriend is 28. We’ve known each other since we were in middle school, but have only been dating for the past 7 years or so. She’s pregnant with our first baby right now. Not planned for this exact moment, but I know there’s nobody else I’d want to have a family with. I’m really happy to become a dad and to do it with her.

She confessed to me that she’s had a crush on my dad for years. She thinks it’s funny and has been like “hey, you look a lot like your dad, so it just means I’ll still think you’re hot when you’re 60.” The thing is, I wouldn’t have felt weird about her making what felt like a little joke about being attracted to my dad. I probably would have laughed, maybe even embarrassed her by telling my dad about it and likely forgotten about it. We can all take a joke.

What she said felt like it went way beyond a joke though. She was very descriptive, and that’s when it just got weird to me. She said she bets my dad got so much sex when he was younger, and she’d have got in line to ride his dick back then. She also imagines what he’s like in bed, and she imagines the sex life that he and my step mom have and it must be hot. Wtf? I don’t want to think of my dad in that way at all, and I definitely don’t want to think of my girlfriend thinking of him that way! Call me crazy, but this doesn’t sound like an off the cuff joke. It sounds like she’s spent actual time thinking about this.

To make it even worse, I know my dad thinks she’s attractive. She and I broke up briefly a few years ago and my dad essentially told me I was an idiot and that I’d never find another woman who was as cool as her again, into the same things I was into, and as hot as her. He specifically said, and I’ll never forget it, that if he slept next to her every night his dick would be raw, and I was just being pathetic and letting her get away. I mean, he was right. I was never going to find somebody like her again, at least not somebody like her who was interested in me, so I took his advice and went we got back together.

I love my dad, but he’s a womanizer. Or was. He’s gotten better now, but he cheated on my mom like crazy when I was younger. They’re no longer together. As far as I’m aware, he’s faithful to my step mom, but he still makes comments about women’s looks all the time and flirts with women. I’ve always been close with him, but I promised myself and my mom that I would never act the way he does towards women.

So here I am just sitting in the middle. It was less disturbing to hear my dad say what he did, because that kind of thing is expected from him unfortunately. She’s backtracking now and saying it’s just the pregnancy hormones making her horny and say crazy things. I’ve never heard of pregnancy suddenly make you say crazy off the wall like that.

Can everyone agree that her comments are not normal comments or thoughts one should be having about their father in law? I told my brother, who is married to a woman, and he agrees that is vomit inducing, but she thinks I’m being a jealous little boy who can’t take a joke.

Comments

That's wildly inappropriate. Sometimes you put people on a pedestal thinking they are better than they are. Your Dad pitching her so hard to you might be him living out his sexual fantasies through you like he's doing her by association because you are his kid. After that convo I would seriously be sceptical about her faithfulness and would want a paternity test. That break he could have been nailing her on the side or, hell, any time throughout your relationship. Just because someone has attractive features that doesn't't mean they are good inside. You hear this from her and you see her true self. Of course she's backpedaling

t’s obvious that both your gf and your dad know that each other is attracted to one another. Who knows what has gone on behind your back? Your dad encouraging you to get back together was for himself not for you. He wanted her to be around.

She is disgusting making such detailed comments. I can’t imagine saying such things! Her mind is sick. Your dad as well saying such detailed things. What’s weird is they have both described to you, their own sexual thoughts they have had about each other.

The fact that your dad is / was a womaniser is also a red flag suggesting him and your gf may have already done something behind your back. There are no boundaries or respect there with either of them. Please please do a DNA test on that child. Honestly I know you may want to brush it off and say no you don’t think anything has happened but many people who have answered are thinking along the lines that they have or will do something. That’s no coincidence and is based on what you’ve described. Please pay attention and don’t waste years of your life on this woman.