Life Is Important, But What About Sexual Life?

When we talk about “life,” we generally refer to the combination of material and spiritual aspects. Material life covers the basic needs for living, while spiritual life represents the fulfillment people seek after meeting those basic needs. The values we pursue in life vary as we age. “Sex,” on the other hand, is a small but significant part of life. It is a two - way cycle built on love and sexual relationships, where two people engage in emotional exchanges and physical and psychological interactions, forming an intimate relationship ecosystem that we commonly refer to as sexual life.

**Intimate Relationship Ecosystem = Sexual Life**

Sexual life is the most important component of a marital relationship, with “sex” being the core of it. It involves a rich array of psychological and physiological activities and is something that is established based on love and the close connection between two people in their daily lives. A well - managed sexual life includes shared values, sexual psychology, sexual communication, intimate behaviors, and common topics, all of which have a much deeper meaning than just a purely sexual relationship.

Many people may wonder: “Is sex important? Do two people have to have sex? Is sex more important than love?” There is no one - size - fits - all answer to these questions because the emotional journey that two people build through communication, sex, and conversation is unique to each couple.

If you ask me what sexual life is, my answer would be: “In an intimate relationship, the interaction formed by the two - way emotions between partners is sexual life.” Sex is an important aspect of life shared with a partner. While relatives by blood are also close to us, they cannot have sexual contact with us; otherwise, it would be considered incest. As for relationships that are not bound by blood but are so close that they are inseparable, the only ones are “partners” or “spouses.” This is a special, precious, and rare relationship that deserves to be cherished. In addition to having a title, couples also have a private life. Where there is passion, there is sexual desire. Sex is the union of two souls, and through physical touch, it creates a sense of intimacy. This interaction is also an important key to maintaining the emotional connection between two people.

If two people have a truly great relationship, share common interests, and have a mutual understanding about being “sex - less,” then perhaps there won't be any issues. However, in most cases, as long as one partner's needs are not met or there are unspoken feelings, an “invisible distance” will be created and problems will arise.

There are many issues surrounding sexless marriages. Looking at numerous cases, a sexless marriage can remain happy only if it is sustained by other strong bonds. For example, having children, sharing common interests and values, working together in a career, or having common goals. In short, for a sexless couple to maintain a fulfilling relationship, there must be another close connection. Otherwise, there will inevitably be unmet needs such as “I just want to do it this way!” or “I do have sexual desire!” Moreover, if there are unspoken words between partners and they are left unaddressed, over time, this can lead to a lack of communication, which can severely affect the relationship. Sometimes, the lack of communication can be even more destructive than issues in the sex life and is often overlooked, so it cannot be ignored.

Finally, it is important to understand that sexual life is not simply judged by frequency, such as how many times a month or how often. The essence of sexual life lies in “satisfying both partners' needs from the bottom of their hearts.” Therefore, if one partner suddenly loses interest in sex, we need to pay attention to whether there is a problem on the psychological or physiological level. For men, is there a physical symptom? Or is it that work - related stress has led to physical and mental exhaustion? Or has there been a change in the relationship? For women, is it because taking care of children is too tiring? Or have they been wronged somewhere? Or is there pain during intercourse? In any case, when there is a problem, whether for the sake of marriage or personal health, it is necessary to find out the root cause. Both partners should communicate honestly, face the problem together, encourage each other, and seek medical attention early instead of neglecting it. This is the correct concept for maintaining a marriage and relationship.