Let's Talk About Anal Sex

I don't want it to be understood that I am generalizing or that I would be for/against. The idea is to know each other very well, to know our limits and especially, our partner.

And yet? Why are we spinning our fingers? Why reject a discussion about anal sex when many other, more serious things happen about sex?

Nowadays, young people talk about group sex as rollerblading, and teenagers get pregnant when they are still in high school. It's really scary, but what's the point of being hypocritical when it comes to sex?

For some people, anal sex is a very exciting subject, but an exciting one… can be different for each person. Anal stimulation can be a pleasant experience but also a great disappointment.

The nerve endings with a role in sexual pleasure and orgasm are concentrated in the glans (head of the penis) and clitoris (which is said to be a kind of penis but also feminine in miniature).

The anus does not have so many nerve endings, so the anal area is considered a "secondary area" of pleasure.

What is normal and what is not?

Apart from sexual behavior disorders, pathological nature, or situations that violate the law, one cannot talk about "much" or "little", "normal" or "abnormal" in sexual life.

Each of us has our own physical and mental limitations that we cannot or do not want to exceed, especially since each is free to experience what he wants in the privacy of his bedroom.

What seems "contraindicated" or "aberrant" to you may be "satisfaction" and "pleasure."

Moreover, these preferences differ not only from person to person but sometimes even in the case of the same person, from one period to another or from one partner to another. After all, who always has the same sex or who likes to always do the same thing in the bedroom?

The pleasure that anal sex can produce is not a general one at all. You can't say you like anal sex, just as you can't say whether you like oral sex or vaginal sex … until you try. Some of us are prone to challenges, of any kind, while others prefer to be a little more conservative, less willing to compromise or give up their beliefs.

When do complications occur and why?

Complications of anal sex, responsible for most of the vehement reactions against this type of sex, occur because the anus is not "made" for sex. It has a completely different purpose, which is to let it go outwards and not inwards. Therefore, it is "designed" to take out and not to receive.

The anus has two sphincters - one to the outside of the rectum and one to the inside. The one on the outside can be acted on voluntarily, but the one on the inside acts involuntarily and has the role of permanently closing the intestine.

Lack of lubrication can also cause problems, because the anus cannot lubricate naturally, like the vagina. Anal penetration without the help of a lubricant is painful and traumatic.

So, if you want to try anal sex with your partner, don't forget to buy a special lubricant for sexual intercourse! The lubricant should be water-based if a latex condom is used, as any other substance may irritate. In addition, oil-based lubricants can damage the latex condom.

Anal sex is not for beginners!

Complications also occur when a "beginner" couple chooses to have anal sex. If you want to have anal sex with your partner, it is much better to know the anatomy, to have a solid knowledge about "having sex" and to know your partner quite well.

Without all this knowledge, anal sex can only mean problems and pain, accompanied by anal trauma and mental discomfort.

If you are at the beginning of your sex life as a couple, when you are still building and getting to know each other, it would be better to avoid anal sex. 

Otherwise, you risk feeling frustrated and then rejecting the intimate relationship between the two of you. Where will all this go? In the worst case, at parting and at best, at a sexual life disorder!

What a couple who wants to try anal sex needs to know about these situations.

Anal sex is recommended to be tried after gaining more experience of sexual life when the two partners have learned how to get relaxation, pleasure, and orgasm and consider that there are no barriers to thinking between them, and vaginal and oral sex do not there are two more unknowns in their couple.

The conclusion? If you have ever been through a "goose through water" sex, you better take care of the ABCs of your sex life! Anal sex is XYZ!

The pleasure of anal sex

Despite what you might think, many people have anal sex. Their motivations are varied. However, most say that anal sex helps them reach orgasm faster, with or without simultaneous stimulation of the genitals.

For women, the pleasure of anal stimulation is due to the common nerve endings between the rectal wall and vagina, but also the indirect stimulation of the G-spot. The anus also has many nerves that can react pleasantly when stimulated, gently!

But why do men like anal sex so much? Well, the main reason they are stimulated is that this type of sex is less accessible to them and not as popular with heterosexuals as vaginal sex. In addition, the rectum is narrower than the vagina, which gives men more pleasure.

For a man, the pleasure of anal penetration means not only intense stimulation of the glans but also the feeling of full possession.