How to Combine Affirmations with Masturbation

Affirmations and manifestation are such a hot practice these days. So many people are writing down their affirmations, attempting to make their dreams come true. And there is good reason for this, manifesting works. But affirmations can get even hotter.

Manifesting is a pleasurable and life-affirming practice itself. But you know what else is pleasurable? Masturbation. Self-pleasure is, well, orgasmic. There are many fun things to try while masturbating. You can use toys or your digits, watch porn or use your imagination. During a solo session, you can read erotica or engage in mutual masturbation. One thing I never thought about was combining affirmations with masturbation.

Until I attended a webinar. It was called, Solo Is Sexy 101, hosted by Kiana @HealingIsImperfect. Kiana shared so many beautiful insights on personal pleasure. One of my favorite things they shared was how you can use solo sex or masturbation as a time to affirm or manifest.

Recently, I have started affirming myself during masturbating. I have also started incorporating goals and business manifestations while masturbating. Here are 3 reasons why I think you should also try combining your affirmations with your solo sex. I will also offer some tips on how to start if you are unsure where to begin.

#1: Verbal Affirmation

Many of us thrive on verbal affirmation. In relationships, I want my partner to be liberal with their loving words. This is because verbal affirmation is my most important love language. But I don’t always have a partner, so how can I receive this very important kind of love? I can fill my own cup and shower myself with compliments during solo sex.

Solo sex is the ultimate time to connect, love, and cherish the relationship with yourself. It is a way to give yourself the love that you desire. And you don’t have to be single to do this either.

Whatever your relationship status, using verbal affirmation is an opportunity for self-love. You can give yourself compliments such as, “You are so smart and beautiful.” You can provide yourself with that boost of confidence you need by saying, “I am so proud of myself.”

You can tell yourself the truths you need to hear such as, “You are loved,” or, “You are worthy.” If you don’t know what you should say to yourself, think about things you would like to hear from a significant other. Then, write them out so you have a list to refer to while you are masturbating.

Verbal affirming yourself is a great tool in the practice of self-love. Using loving words while masturbating is a way to profoundly connect to yourself.

#2: Goals and Manifestations

You can use masturbating as a time to manifest goals. I want to note that we should never think of our pleasure as something to capitalize on. However, with that being said, we all have personal projects, goals, or things that we want to achieve (and that's healthy!). We can use verbal affirmation during solo sex as a way to elevate these manifestations.

Sometimes our goals and aspirations exist solely in our minds. But when we invite our bodies to join us in our goals, we find it much easier to obtain them.

Pleasure is an intense physical force that elevates our vibration. Say your manifestations out loud while masturbating as a way to move goals from your headspace to existing in the body. This way, your goals will penetrate into the body and subconscious. It can be a tool to integrate your goals into your whole being.

Use masturbation in combination with manifestation to tune into your body. This can be a transformative practice, allowing your manifestations to blossom into existence.

#3: Getting into yourself

Thinking about your affirmations or manifestations while masturbating brings an added element to the pleasure and play. It can change the way you think of a solo session, especially if you prepare beforehand. For me, an added bonus is that it gets me away from overthinking and back into the present moment.

Speaking verbal affirmations or manifesting while masturbating, brings me into the moment and out of my head. When I start saying positive things out loud to myself while masturbating, those words resound in my body and mind. My body is focused on those words and the pleasure I am feeling. It can silence the mind chatter.

The vibrations of the words being spoken out loud also add an element of subtle humming to the body. In this way, enhancing sensual pleasure.

How to affirm while masturbating

It can feel intimidating to speak out loud while masturbating. Even if it is a solo activity (and maybe especially because it is a solo activity). I think talking to yourself can feel strange. Personally, I was worried it would feel narcissistic or ego-driven. However, I have found that this practice makes me feel warm and loving in my body. If you have a different experience, you don't have to continue - but why not try. Here are some tips for getting started.

Intention and preparation are great ideas when manifesting while masturbating. I like to think about my affirmations before and write them out.

Start by writing down a list of affirmations you would like to say to yourself. These can be truths you want to hear, praise you want to give yourself, or manifestations you want to call into your life. If they are goal-orientated manifestations, make a list of those too so you can reference them.

You can have different masturbation sessions for different affirmations. Sometimes I just want to be loving towards myself with verbal affirmation. Other times I bring the intention of goal setting into solo sex. You can also come up with your affirmations on the spot too -- whatever feels good to you.

Another good thing to prepare is music. Playing some music will help if you are feeling shy about speaking out loud. I like to play music because I have thin walls and noisy neighbors. I also feel like the extra noise takes the pressure off me and puts me in the mood. If you want to play with toys, lube, or read erotica to get started, you can prepare that as well.

Once you are all prepared, start by saying the affirmations in your head. I like to repeat them in my mind while I begin to pleasure myself as a warm-up. As pleasure starts to build, I speak my affirmations out loud. I continue to say them out loud for as long as it feels good.

Allow the pleasure and the intentions to exist in your body, mind, and spirit at the same time. Allow the manifestations and your words to vibrate the body. Listen to your affirmations and imagine them penetrating your body.

Cherish this time you have with yourself and allow these feelings to come to a climax, or not. Whatever feels good to you.

Bask in your own pleasure and reflect on how you feel after.

Combining masturbation and manifestation is a pleasurable way to manifest your dreams. There is no right way to integrate your affirmations into your masturbation. Do what feels good to you enjoy your pleasure.