Fake feminism?

Introduction

Definition of feminists is different for different people. We live in a world of choices. Modern feminism can be easily interchanged with Misandry at some frames. So if you mention that you’re a feminist, most people (even woman) will automatically assume you are a hater of men.

pseudo feminists or opportunist women?

There are some pseudo feminists or opportunist women who make it difficult for men but the things are that they are minimal in number while there are maximum number of males imposing, domination & oppression on women in every sphere of life. There’s no good without bad. Feminism does not have to be a man’s power and strength, but to be allowed to trust our cycles and over strength, as those are different to those of a man. Few men realize mistake in patriarchal mindset. They came forward. It’s like these men wants to authorize women upliftment too. For men being feminist, women are always an inspiration. I feel men’s mindset developed through a woman. You can be a feminist and still have children and a husband or wife. They aren’t mutually exclusive. My definition of feminism is equal rights and treatment for all genders. Men can be allies and not enemies. Actually men are more feminist then women themselves.

For men being feminist, women are always an inspiration

1. A men prohibited sati pratha

2. A men fought for women education then others followed him

3. A man fought widow remarriage

4. Behind every successful woman, first lady doctor to first woman wrestler of India, their father’s support is immense.

So feminism needs not to be taught, it is the inner self-respect which should come from every human being who are intolerable to any kind of wrong doings.

Toxic feminity and toxic masculinity

It’s so sad to see the damage that perspective has done to society, and women themselves. I had the privilege of being taught women and men are different and we need each other. Women have qualities and skills that we don’t have, and men too have certain qualities and skills that women don’t have. It is not a competition between men and women. Stop fighting your teammate. We are not here to compete; we are here to coexist. Men and women are the pieces to nature’s puzzle. We don’t need to be extremist in the name of feminism.

The saddest part is no man is ever taking the time or effort to respect her dreams and trust as an independent human being and even don’t care if she can compete with men or not, they only care that if she’ll make a good mom for their kids. As a result, men of patriarchal mindset are competing against their insecurities for women are not competing against men. Just both don’t get scammed by your lifestyles. I’d consider toxic feminity and toxic masculinity same as narcissism.

To men

Stop paying their bills, stop buying them stuff, stop dropping them to work, stop getting down on your knees etc. Women are strong, stop fighting for them, stop supporting them; they don’t need your support. They don’t need your protection. Stop humiliating yourself. Also stop slaving for your family and focusing these entitled feminists.

Blame game

Men just started enjoying freedom with their passports. So, women should remain strong and independent. Everyone needs something or someone to love and that is the healthy side of raising another world. I came across a standup comedian who is ironically saying “feminism in India is like Netflix subscriptions, only the privileged few have it, most people borrow it, and the rest they don’t even know it exists also. A standup comedian can deliberately say the truth of anything. But here he is choosing the blame or null. Is feminism that much cheap as Netflix subscriptions? I would never agree it from all the ways. People are criticizing & blaming feminist as the pseudo feminist. Instead why can’t we discuss about that what is the issue and what can we do about it? What about that conversation? True question. No sarcasm.

Conclusion

I am tired of hearing this same thing (modern feminism destroys.) over and over. Either you are brainwashed or you have never seen the real side of feminism. Never underestimate a feminist’s ability to deny all accountability. The very first thing everyone needs to learn is feminism aims to change societal rules. Since men are a part of it, they would be affected. Negatively because patriarchal rules do not comply with gender equality. Women can march with feminism movements and all we need is the gender neutral laws in India, since the other countries are having it. By this, the feminism movements can be allowed to work at their best for their own welfare and also for the others.

And again the definition of feminists is different for different people. Just appreciate it or depreciate it in the comments section. Welcome…!

-Writer.Jerl.

(Contents are Authoress’ own)