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Your time is often consumed by work, children, and entertainment, leaving little room for anything else. However, sex experts point out that one of the reasons couples struggle to find time for intimacy is that they fail to make the most of their available time.



**Quick Intimacy Sessions**

Experts suggest that if you have just ten minutes, consider a quick session of intimacy. While it might sound rushed, quick intimacy can be exhilarating and create a sense of secrecy that belongs only to the two of you, especially if done before guests arrive for dinner.



**Plan Ahead**

Take a few minutes in the evening to jot down in your diary when you plan to have a longer, more extended intimate session during the week. Consistency is key.



**Improving Touch Techniques**

After years of marriage, regular touching can actually strengthen the bond between partners more than frequent sex. Here’s how to enhance your touch techniques:



1. **Create Opportunities**: Develop the habit of touching your partner. For example, hold his hand while watching a movie, gently stroke his arm while sitting together, and give frequent kisses.

2. **Initiate Hugs**: Many men say they prefer to be the ones to initiate physical contact. If you’ve been sending signals that you don’t want to be touched, it’s time to change that. A good morning kiss is worth any lipstick mess.



**Expressing Your Desires**

Many men try to please their partners by covering every inch of their skin with earnest effort. If you want him to linger in a particular spot, give him some direction:



1. **Identify a Sensitive Spot**: Choose a spot where you’d like your husband to spend more time and simply say, “I love this kind of touch” or “Don’t stop.” If verbalizing feels awkward, try using moans to communicate your desires.

2. **Provide Feedback**: Let him know when he’s doing something you like. If he’s not hitting the mark, maintain a meaningful silence.



**Expanding Your Intimacy Space**

If the bedroom is the only place you have sex, you might be missing out on the thrill of intimacy in other parts of your home:



1. **Start with the Kitchen**: Consider using the cabinets and refrigerator for a fun, food-themed experience that could take you to new heights.

2. **Repeat in Every Room**: Once you’ve tried it in one room, move on to the next. If you’ve enjoyed sex in the bedroom rocking chair, you’re on your way to deeper levels of intimacy.



**Seizing Fleeting Moments**

Many people get distracted on their way to the bedroom, losing the initial excitement. Experts suggest that if you want to enjoy more and better intimacy, act on your desires immediately:



1. **Stay Focused**: When you feel the urge, don’t get sidetracked. Concentrate and don’t let the moment pass.

2. **Choose a Spot**: Find a place in your home and start right there.



**Sharing Sexual Fantasies**

Now that you’ve enhanced your communication skills, you can take your verbal intimacy to the next level by making special requests or sharing fantasies:



1. **Let Your Partner Know**: Write down your fantasies or use the bookmark technique: find a scene in a book about sexual fantasies that you’d like to “recreate,” mark it with a red pen, and leave the book by his bedside.

2. **Give Notice**: Before a planned intimate night, ask him to read those sections so he has time to fully absorb the content.



**Understanding Each Other’s Needs**

Men have a variety of preferences when it comes to physical touch, and they often feel powerless to express them. This section will show you what he likes, which can be both enlightening and exciting:



1. **Ask for a Demonstration**: It might feel embarrassing to ask him to show you how he likes to be touched, but open communication is key. He’ll be less awkward if he knows you genuinely want to see the demonstration.

2. **Observe Carefully**: Pay attention to what excites him the most. How fast does he move? How firm is his grip? Does he focus on the shaft, or include the glans and testicles? During the entire process leading up to orgasm, does he continue or stop just before? Apply what you learn in your next intimate encounter for guaranteed satisfaction.



**Igniting the Mood**

In couples with a healthy sexual relationship, the desire to be intimate is not random. Even without immediate sexual stimuli, they can be ready for intimacy at any time:



1. **Compliment Him**: Generally, both men and women are more enthusiastic about intimacy when they feel complimented and happy. The more specific your praise, the more genuine it seems.

2. **Create an Anticipatory Atmosphere**: If you plan to be intimate that night, subtly express your eagerness to take off your clothes in the morning. Help him straighten his tie and slowly zip up his pants. Ask him to fasten your bra, and let your hair fall on his hands as he does so.



**Trying New Ways of Intimacy**

If one day you find your usual way of intimacy becoming monotonous, trying something new can lead to unexpected rewards:



1. **Do Some Research**: Spend time creating an inspiring intimacy menu, possibly with the help of books.

2. **Bring the Menu to Bed**: On a chosen evening, bring the menu to bed, read it together, and pick new techniques to try. Remember to keep an open mind and have the book handy.



**Planning an Intimacy Journey**

Most people enjoy the thrill of doing something wild in the great outdoors, which can make intimacy feel special again:



1. **Create a Plan**: Sit down with your partner and plan a journey filled with activities that you’ve never tried before and that can spark desire. It might just be about creating fun and a lover-like closeness.

2. **Surprise Him**: Choose one from your plan and bring it up on an intimate night, or surprise him with it. The key is to catch him off guard and let him enjoy the journey.