"Aren't You Wet Yet?" Stupid, it's better not to ask that during sex

Sexual happiness doesn't come automatically; it requires effort and attention. The way you interact in daily life and each sexual experience you share can enhance the warmth and connection between you and your partner. Building a fulfilling love or sexual relationship takes time and careful consideration, but these same efforts can also be the very things that destroy the love between two people. A minor mistake or a small argument can quickly cool down an intimate relationship. In fact, I've found that it's rare for major events to cause significant friction and a rapid decline in intimacy. More often, it's the accumulation of minor issues that lead to problems. Therefore, it's crucial to handle everyday flirting and interactions with care to prevent minor problems from affecting your relationship.



Men, have you ever unintentionally killed the mood during flirting or sex? Women are highly sensitive to the atmosphere. If the mood turns cold, the desire for intimacy can vanish in an instant. Here are some common mistakes to avoid, helping you maintain the right atmosphere:



**NG 1: Harshly Criticizing Your Partner's Appearance**



No matter how long you've been together or how many years you've been married, never casually criticize your partner's looks or figure. If you feel the need to comment, try using praise instead. For example, you might say, "This outfit would look even better if your waist were just a bit slimmer," or "You should take care of your figure. Let's stay fit and grow old together." These approaches are more likely to be accepted by women.



**NG 2: Assuming Familiarity Means Neglecting Communication and Respect**



Sometimes, when two people have been together for a long time, they start to see each other as family and may forget the importance of communication and respect. They might begin to take each other's contributions for granted, which is a big mistake. Always express gratitude for what your partner does. For example, when she finishes doing the housework, look at her and say, "Thank you!" This makes her feel valued and appreciated, and she's more likely to respond positively. Additionally, when problems arise, listening to each other's thoughts is a key way to maintain a healthy relationship.



**NG 3: Asking "Aren't You Wet Yet?" During Intimacy**



This is one of the most off-putting questions a woman can hear during intimate moments. If a woman isn't sufficiently aroused, it's often because she hasn't been properly stimulated. Men should be patient and continue their efforts, using kisses, sweet talk, or other aids if needed. Remember, the effectiveness of foreplay largely depends on a man's sexual concepts and skills.



**NG 4: Bringing Up Serious Matters or Taking Phone Calls During Intimacy**



Switching to serious topics or taking phone calls during sex is extremely disruptive. Women can't easily switch between being sexually engaged and discussing serious matters. Such interruptions reduce sensitivity and disrupt the experience. Men should avoid letting serious matters disturb the intimate moment unless it's an emergency.



**NG 5: Rough and Aimless Touching During Foreplay**



Some men start off well with verbal flirting but become rough and aimless when they move to physical touching. This can be very off-putting for women. Most women prefer gentle handling. If you're unsure how to please your partner, simply ask! Communication is key in sexual interaction. Remember, everyone's sensitive spots are different, and sex is an interactive process that requires continuous exploration, communication, and coordination.



**NG 6: Dampening the Mood When Your Partner Seeks Compliments**



When your partner makes a special effort, such as cooking a big meal or wearing a sexy nightgown, avoid negative comments. Instead, offer praise. For example, you might say, "Your cooking skills are amazing!" or "You look particularly sexy tonight." This maintains a positive atmosphere and can enhance your sexual experience.



**NG 7: Mimicking Pornographic Scenes**



While it's normal for men to watch porn, frequently trying to recreate those scenes can be off-putting for women. Many pornographic scenarios are unrealistic and not enjoyable for women. Such attempts can make women feel uncomfortable and objectified.



**NG 8: Neglecting Hygiene Before Intimate Contact**



Poor hygiene can ruin the mood for both partners. Always maintain good hygiene and freshness. Shower if you've been sweating, brush your teeth regularly, and keep your genitals clean. These are basic courtesies that help ensure a pleasant intimate experience. Don't let familiarity lead to neglect in these areas. You don't want your partner to become so repulsed that they lose interest in intimacy altogether.



By avoiding these common mistakes, men can create a more positive and intimate atmosphere, enhancing both the emotional and physical aspects of their relationship.