A family is a match

A "family match" traditionally refers to a couple who grew up with similar backgrounds, whose families are similar or mutually complementary, whose diplomas are similar or mutually complementary, etc.

I do not know in the eyes of the "family" is praise or criticism, and the long-term establishment of marriage needs a family match.

The union of the two of you is the union of two families, and when he marries you, he marries everything about you, your social connections, your parents..."

Of course, in my personal opinion, it is more important to pay attention to whether the two sides grow up in a similar social environment, whether the two sides have similar temperament, hobbies and pursuits, whether the two sides have similar moral values, outlook on life and values, and whether the two sides have similar views on the future.

From small to large, the old man always said I want to study hard, later have a good job, marry a rich man, so that will not worry about food and clothing, so that will be happy. It was the most promising path for a girl in her eyes, even in the eyes of her generation.

But the more I grew up, the more I realized that studying hard does not necessarily lead to a good job, a good job does not necessarily lead to a rich man, marry a rich man does not necessarily lead to happiness.

But the old man's original intention to study hard is not to be criticized.

I imagined the differences with rich people.

He goes to Starbucks every once in a while and orders a cup of expensive drinks, which, in my opinion, is an unnecessary waste. No matter how colorful the drinks are, he doesn't go home and drink a cup of white wine to quench his thirst.

He can easily buy a SLR, but I need to save six months, one year or more of hard money to own;

His left hand iphone right hand ipad home is full of all kinds of rotten apple, and I, as always, support the fall resistant Nokia;

He can go anywhere on vacation when he feels like it. I have to collect all kinds of online advice and calculate all kinds of expenses before I dare to travel with my friends.

At the same time that I was complaining about his emphasis on brand name and extravagance, perhaps he was also complaining about my haggling over every ounce;

I don't like him hanging out with his friends and spending money like water. He can't stand me haggling with my little sister in the clothing store.

It seemed to me a misfit between two planets.

And I also have such an example around me.

He and she have the same character and hobbies, the same morals, outlook on life and values, and even accidentally say what each other has to say. They are similar as if they are the same person. He said angrily to her several times: We are so similar, why can't we be together. Even she sometimes asked herself this way.

But they never come together, like two adjacent parallel lines, forever so close, forever so far. Can not help but make people sad: turns out that two people who are too alike will not always be together.

In addition to these objective and subjective hardware and software, people seem to ignore a kind of wandering thing called feeling, which is the current buzzword "eye edge".

Because marriage is such a thing to turn a hundred times.

I don't ask for rich people. I just want the right eye edge people, can understand, can remember, can keep.