Vicarishame
Have you ever felt ashamed for someone else, even thought you are not at fault?
If you ever felt embarrassed for someone else, even though you are not the one who did something wrong, you know what I'm talking about. Vicarishame happens when you witness someone say something incredibly stupid, outright lie, being rude to others, or doing something else that you know is wrong. You are ashamed for them, vicariously. For example, I experience this type of embarrassment every time I watch Jordan Klepper of The Daily Show interact with Trump supporters who do not realize how easily they get into his logical traps.
In Russian, we call this type of embarrassment "Spanish shame," apparently because Spanish was one of the first European languages that came up with an exact expression for it - "Vergüenza ajena." German and Finnish also have precise compound words for it, loosely translated as "shame for the stranger."
Today's kids call it secondhand shame or secondhand embarrassment. I think we need a better one word for it, so I came up with vicarishame. It can be contracted to vi-shame once it becomes a part of the vernacular. Here's my proposed definition:
Vicarishame (vi-shame) - feeling of vicarious or secondhand embarrassment a person experiences for a wrong action committed not by the person but someone else. Happens often in empathetic decent people. Is usually accompanied by face palm.
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The challenge is long over, but I liked my word so much that I decided to continue using it by writing a series of stories about the situations where the concept applies and can be illustrated. I will be using this story as an index for the subsequent ones. Here's the first one:
Here's the second one, and I will be using the facepalming Jesus as a cover picture for all of them from now on:
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Lana V Lynx
Avid reader and occasional writer of satire and short fiction. For my own sanity and security, I write under a pen name. My books: Moscow Calling - 2017 and President & Psychiatrist
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This index is just for my subscribers. I finished and published this long story or short novella of 6,000 words recently. I tried to link all previous parts of the story in the next one, so if you went along you shouldn't have been lost. This index is just put everything in one place.
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Comments (10)
It is what I experience around narcissists psychopaths and sociopaths daily but I practice and learn to clean myself from it as its a real trap in life while they are freely going on with this in life ! Thanks for that article :) !
Excellent take on the challenge an da new word for our vocabulary
I feel ya♥️💯✌️📝😉
Omggg, I experience vicarishame all the time! I love this word so much!
This is great. I know that feeling well from watching news or reading social media posts.
Jesus looks so warm. Face palm shame is hilarious. Never heard of second hand shame before. Cool, learned something new.
Absolutely felt it! Loved the word and the entry! Also loved learning that other languages already have a word for it!
I have never felt it, but I understand it. A very practical word!
This is a universal thing imho. I regularly feel vi-shame for others lol....what a great entry! vi-shame as a contracted form as well has a modern buzzword feel. Can already imagine it being used in the media etc. Well done!
Oh, I feel me some vi-shame from time to time!