Today, I found out my girlfriend has a secret Snapchat account — and it changed everything

Hey there, I'm Newman Singer, a solo traveler from California. I usually write about my adventures—like chasing sunsets in Thailand or finding the best tacos in Mexico. But today, I'm sharing something personal and tough: how I figured out my girlfriend was hiding a secret Snapchat account and cheating on me. This isn’t my usual vibe, but maybe my story can help someone else going through the same mess. Here’s what happened, in plain talk, from one regular person to another.

How We Met: A Thailand Love Story

Back in early 2024, I was backpacking in Thailand, staying at this cool little hotel in Chiang Mai with a chill rooftop bar. That’s where I met her—let’s call her Alex to keep things private. She wasn’t from Thailand; she was a New Yorker, there for work and some R&R. We hit it off over breakfast, laughing about my terrible attempt to order spicy papaya salad in Thai.

We spent the week exploring markets, hiking, and talking until 2 a.m. By the time I left, we were dating—long-distance, but it felt real. We’d text all the time, FaceTime, even visit each other. It was great… until 2025 rolled around, and things started feeling off.

The Gut Feeling Something Was Wrong

By early 2025, our relationship wasn’t the same. Alex got super distant—shorter calls, weird excuses about being “busy,” and she started acting weird with her phone, like always tilting it away from me. I’m not the jealous type, but my gut was screaming, “She’s hiding something.” Was she talking to someone else? My brain wouldn’t let it go.

I tried to figure it out on my own. First, I checked her phone when she left it out one time we were together (not proud of it, but I was desperate). Nothing obvious—just some deleted texts and an empty camera roll, which was weird. I looked at her Instagram and other social media for anything shady, like new followers or tagged posts, but it was all clean. I even peeked at some bank charges from a trip we planned together—nothing but a few coffee shop receipts that didn’t add up. I was stuck, feeling like a paranoid idiot.

Then one night, I was scrolling Reddit and stumbled across posts about “people search” websites. They pull up public info like emails, addresses, or social media accounts tied to someone’s name or number. I thought, “What the heck, let’s try it.”

Yes, someone can have more than one Snapchat account using different emails. To find a secret account, search their name in the app or try a people search site like Spokeo or Social Catfish. Look for hidden apps, locked folders, or sudden secrecy with their phone. Even mutual friends may unknowingly reveal hidden activity.

The Big Clue: Finding Her Secret Snapchat

I decided to use a site called Spokeo because it kept popping up online as a cheap, easy way to look up public info. I typed in Alex’s full name, and it spit out a list of stuff—old addresses, some emails, and, boom, a couple of Snapchat accounts I didn’t know about. One had a username like “NYC_Girl22”—not the one she’d shown me. I tried her phone number next, and it linked to the same weird Snapchat accounts. My stomach dropped. These accounts were new, made after we started dating, and they were active when she was “too busy” to call me.

I felt sick but needed to know more. So, I flew to New York for a “surprise visit” (really, I just wanted answers). We met up at a diner, and I laid it out: “I found some Snapchat accounts tied to you. What’s going on?” She got all defensive, saying it wasn’t her, but her face gave her away. I asked to see her phone, and after some arguing, she handed it over. Sure enough, there were two Snapchat apps—one I knew, and another hidden in a folder called “Random.” That secret account had snaps from some guy—pics of dinners, drinks, flirty stuff. My heart sank.

The Truth Comes Out

I stayed calm and asked her straight-up: “Are you talking to someone else?” She denied it at first, but after I showed her what I found, she broke down. She admitted she’d been chatting with an old coworker, “just seeing where it went” because our long-distance thing was “hard.” She swore it wasn’t full-on cheating, but hiding a whole Snapchat account to talk to another guy? That’s a betrayal in my book. We broke up right there over cold coffee. I grabbed my stuff, headed to the airport, and didn’t look back.

Later, I tried a couple other sites like TruthFinder and BeenVerified to double-check, but Spokeo had already done the job for, like, 95 cents or something. It wasn’t about the money—it was about finally knowing the truth.

How to Spot a Secret Snapchat Account

If you’re reading this because you’re worried someone’s hiding something on Snapchat, here’s what I learned the hard way. No fancy tech talk, just real stuff that worked for me:

1. Trust Your Gut: If they’re acting weird—like guarding their phone or dodging questions—don’t ignore it. Snapchat’s great for hiding stuff because messages disappear, so people use it for secrets.

2. Check Their Phone (If It’s Okay): If you both share stuff openly, look for extra Snapchat apps or accounts. Snapchat lets you have up to three accounts on one phone. Check their app folders or login history.

3. Search Online for Clues: Google their name or username with “Snapchat” to see what pops up. You can also try free username search tools on sites like Namecheap to see if their handle shows up elsewhere.

4. Use People Search Sites: Sites like Spokeo can link a name or phone number to social media accounts, including Snapchat. It’s public info, but be careful and use it ethically—don’t go full stalker.

5. Talk It Out: Tech can only tell you so much. If you find something, have a real conversation. It’s hard, but it’s better than wondering.

Yeah, you can have multiple Snapchat accounts—it’s super easy to set up. Figuring out if someone’s got a secret one takes some digging and a lot of trust in your instincts. For me, it hurt like hell, but it also set me free.

Moving On

Breaking up sucked, but it taught me to listen to that gut feeling and not ignore red flags. If you’re dealing with this, I feel you. It’s rough, but you’ll get through it. Drop a comment if you’ve got a story like this—I’m no expert, but I’m here to listen. Next time, I promise I’ll be back with a travel story, maybe about surfing in Bali to wash away the heartbreak.

Stay real,

Newman Singer

California, September 2025