The cheapest medicine in the world for worries.

There is a story in Carnegie's The Virtue of Human Nature about a man named Douglas who suffered two misfortunes, but finally got out of his worries and became happy. The first time, he lost his five-year-old daughter, the family's joy. The second time, he lost his little daughter, who had only been in the world for five days. Such a blow on anyone can not bear, the couple almost broke down, they can not eat, sleep, all day long sighing, sad face, pain.

They think of many ways to get out of this state, but find that no matter taking sleeping pills or traveling, they are not happy all the time, and live in memories and pain all day. In the end, it was their neglected son who helped them out of this state of worry.

One afternoon, as Douglas was sitting in the living room, his son asked if a boat could be built for him. Douglas was not interested in his son's request, but he could not resist the child's pestering. He began to prepare materials to build the boat. He thought of the steps in his mind and finished the boat step by step. He didn't realize how relaxed he was until he finished.

At that moment, Douglas woke up and realized that it was hard to worry if he was busy doing mental work. The three hours helping his son with the boat drove away the endless worries that had haunted him for so long that he decided to keep himself busy in the future.

The next day Douglas went through all the rooms in the house and listed the furniture, doors and Windows, pipes, stairs, and so on that needed fixing. In the next two weeks, he did all the household chores, big and small. Since then, he has been arranging activities for himself -- attending adult education classes, serving as the chairman of the school board, and helping public welfare organizations organize fundraising. His busy life has left him no time to worry.

There is a famous theorem in psychology that "no person, however intelligent, can think of more than one thing at a time." You can't think of two things at the same time, you have to take turns thinking about one thing at a time, and one train of thought is sure to drive the other out. And emotions are the same. It's impossible to be excited and passionate about doing something really exciting and at the same time put it off by worry. One feeling drives the other out.

This one-size-fits-all formula for eliminating worry is simple to use and can work for anyone. The reason why people worry is because there is no way to solve the problem, so we should objectively analyze the worst result that we may face, make psychological preparations, and actively accept the worst result. If a man can bear the worst, what else can he bear? What else would you be afraid of? At the same time, focus on the work, do their best to avoid the worst possible results, minimize the loss.

People immersed in worry, lack of confidence, will also seriously affect the play of personal ability. Worrier people have no control over their emotions, are too emotional about everything and can't deal with the difficulties in front of them rationally. If a person can't get rid of excessive worry, he is bound to be immersed in bad emotions and cannot extricate himself. He will miss many opportunities and suffer from mental illness.

Instead, you can focus on finding a solution to your worries if you are calm and quiet about your temporary predicament. It helps us to step out of self-pity, to face reality, to think carefully, to be grounded, rather than wallowing in negativity every day.

George Bernard Shaw once said, "The secret of being miserable is to have leisure to think whether you are happy or not." Once you encounter something unpleasant, put it out of your mind for a while. Keep yourself busy, and your blood will circulate faster, your mind will sharpen, and your people will be energized. Keeping yourself busy is the world's cheapest cure for worry. It's also one of the most effective.

I have friends in mental hospitals, and they say that some people who retire from the workplace often suffer from depression. They are very busy at work, and they have a sense of accomplishment. After retirement, when they are free, all kinds of problems come. The psychiatrists say to "keep them busy." They were engaged in activities every minute except sleeping: fishing, playing cards, playing ball games, taking pictures, planting flowers, dancing, etc., giving them no time to worry. And it worked really well, curing a lot of patients.

They also told me about "occupational therapy," using work as medicine. This method is particularly useful. When we are not busy, our mind often becomes a vacuum. Worry, fear, hatred, jealousy and envy fill in and drive out all the peaceful and happy elements of our thoughts.

"Immersing yourself in work" doesn't have a problem when you're doing your regular work and rushing around. But after work -- just when we are free to enjoy leisure and pleasure -- the demon of worry begins to attack us. At this point, we often start to think about the meaning of something our boss said at work, some annoyance we've had at work, or whether our hair is going bald. It is sad to wave not to go, anguish scattered not to go, white hair three thousand zhang, edge sorrow like a long.

A friend who had a very easy job was so worried that he couldn't sleep at night. So he made a new lifestyle that cured his insomnia and made him stop worrying. He just tried to keep himself busy, so busy that he had to give all his energy and time. So that there is no time to worry.

In the past, he worked only one morning a day, then he worked all day. He goes to work at eight o 'clock every morning and works until closing time. He took on new tasks and responsibilities. When I get home from work at sunset, I don't want to eat. I always fall into bed exhausted and quickly fall asleep. After working eight or nine hours a day, he never suffered from insomnia or anxiety.

In fact, busy work is the cure for worry, immersing ourselves in work is what fills us up and fills our lives. Let's put our worries far away every day and reap happiness in our work!