
In this fast-paced era, there are always people who look forward to heartbeats and love. I have always liked older men, not the same age or younger than me, until I met him - a dark boy, I was moved, to be precise, he made my heart flutter.
I was 31, he was 28; I was married, he was single; I was a foreigner, he was a local.
Back in the fall of 2017, that golden October, I newly changed jobs and was assigned to a team with him in a group building activity, where he was the captain, and I was a bit impressed with the boy's righteousness and steadiness during a morning of activities.
That event was outdoors, and then it rained, so I caught a cold the next day and took more than twenty days to recover. During this time he did contact me and politely cared about my health and work.
He started contacting me after the event, and after about a month of talking he became ambiguous, because I am also a person who likes to joke around and have a big personality, so I didn't think much of it.
One night, he said to see me, we sat in the car chatting, chatting happily when he suddenly hugged me, perhaps hormonal effect, perhaps he has a good feeling, I actually did not resist, he saw I did not resist, kissed me, I pushed away, I do not know whether it is awake or suddenly feel wrong, a little embarrassed to flee.
After that, he kept contacting me and would ask me to meet him, no matter how I refused, he was able to resolve the embarrassment. We have a lot to talk about, and we have common topics for work reasons, so we're getting better acquainted later on.
Once, I was in a place close to his address, he invited me to his home to sit, I began to be a little hesitant, after all, he is single, alone, but could not help but his sincere invitation, I still went up.
I didn't expect him to be a single boy, but he kept the room quite clean, comfortable and romantic, which made me feel good. After chatting for a while, he slowly approached me and hugged me, and with his gentle caresses, everything happened naturally. In fact, I have always wondered, I am not a person who will fool around, but in the face of his passionate embrace, I could not refuse, and it felt good.
But after it was over I regretted it and he saw it, he said I'm sorry, I don't dare expect you to care about me, but I've always liked you. I didn't say anything and walked away. He kept sending messages, and I didn't even reply.
After some days, when my mind calmed down, I actually began to recall that feeling at that time, so when he asked me again, I went to his house again.
This time it was completely different, I was very cooperative and positive, I felt he was fantastic, in addition to high emotional intelligence, in sexual matters also so good, he understood my feelings, understand my body's reaction, understand the rhythm of my needs, let me experience the sexual happiness and passion that I never experienced in my husband.
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After a few dates like this, we were like in love, he gave me a key to his house, prepared me toiletries, bedding, slippers, etc., a variety of snacks are always ready, so that I am tired of going over to rest, just like their own home, saying I am the mistress there.
He even bought some soup ingredients and kitchen supplies (he doesn't cook alone), saying he saw that I looked bad and wanted to give me a tonic, so I remembered to go over and drink. Every time I went, he would give me a foot soak and massage, and even give me a bath, very, very gentle, making me feel like a little girl in love for the first time, very happy!
There is another detail that makes me feel that this boy knows how to do things, or at least knows women. Before this I had not used those foreign brands of cosmetics , he said to send me lipstick, I said no, do not spend money, because he was limited income and debt, and I do not figure these, but he still bought me two big brand lipstick, spent six or seven hundred.
There was also a time when I said my face was a little dry and prone to allergies, so he had a classmate bring me a set of foreign skin care products. He also took me shopping and bought me coats and shoes. Every time I asked him not to spend money frivolously, he said it was his intention and told me to accept it without fear.
When my birthday, he said to buy me Chanel perfume, I said no, this waste of money. In fact, I usually spend a lot of money, in addition to cosmetics and so do not chase foreign brands, other than I will not deliberately save, but I can not spend his money. I said how about this, you do not spend money, send some thoughtful gift it. He folded his own roses every day, folded 99, and then gave them to me in a gift box, and I was really touched when I opened them, feeling that this way of liking is more sincere than material.
This boy's love makes me feel sweet, but also worried because he is alone.
He often said he loved me very much and wanted me to go to his place every day, even if it was to sit there for a short while. Every time I go home he is very sad, but I go back he will not send messages indiscriminately, he said he was afraid to disturb my life , do not want to bring me pain.
He went to a friend's wedding and told me that at that time he was thinking he owed me a wedding, and how good it would be to be with me. He also wanted me to find a chance to spend the night at his place, but didn't even do that.
When he introduced me to people, he said I was his girlfriend, and took me to meet his parents, but said they were colleagues.
He will do his own meal, waiting for me to eat together, if I did not go straight home, he did not dare to send me a message, sent in the circle of friends, only to me a visible kind, because he said to protect me, can not hurt me, no matter what day to go to protect me.
He said that if one day he had a girlfriend, he was afraid that I would feel left out, and said that even after marriage or want to maintain a relationship with me.
I feel sorry for him, I think he only has one person, and I have a family, which is very unfair to him, and this will continue to delay him. And I am also afraid that after a long time he will be out of balance, although he has been doing very well, but I am still worried, after all, my family I do not want to let go.
Because I found his emotional investment more and more, he also seems to be more and more insecure, I said the bedding does not like, I like romantic, he will change, before and after changing a lot of sheets, he also always want me to accompany him ...... I was a little afraid, afraid to be affected by him, so then I proposed a breakup, he did not dare to ask me anything, had to accept.
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Two months after the breakup, he could not resist looking for me, and then I did not control it, and the two were together again. After two months, he grew up a lot, no longer so nervous about me, no longer so big jealousy, learn to separate when each good.
According to him, I should have been happy, but I am an Aquarius, I made ah, I actually began to feel that he did not care about me as much as before, think he has changed, think that he is not using me as a fuck buddy ...... Yes, I can't accept that he has a trace of indifference to me, so I broke up again, and then really split up.
He did not blame me, he said he felt he did not have the strength to give me everything, not even a decent ring to buy me.
I don't know why I'm going back and forth like this, but I later blacked out my contact information.
About six months later, he added me again, this time I think I have put down, added back to him. At that time he asked me if I could go to see him, I went and found out that he had injured his leg. He said he was in a bad mood after the separation, feeling very incompetent, can not give me anything, plus work and not very smooth, but also debt, the pressure is very large, and then something happened, almost life is lost.
I honestly feel for him, but only for old times' sake, for him to say to compound words, I still refuse. After that, he invited me on several trips and asked me if I could come back to him, but I also refused one by one.
The first time I saw him, I was in a bad mood, so he said he would take me out for a walk, and I was probably insecure and needed company. After walking to the park, he said he wanted to give me a surprise, I did not go, he dragged me to the private theater, asked the boss to specially decorate the romantic scene of Valentine's Day, he hugged me and wanted to relive the old dream, I refused, got up and left.
After that I sent a message to say thank you, if you want to do ordinary friends, if not to do strangers, he said yes. This time there was no blackout, and no contact, so it was left.
The company has been in contact with me again until New Year's Eve, sending a few simple greetings. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you're doing. I replied to him, "You have never said this kind of thing before, why did you suddenly say this? He replied that he misses it and misses it a lot. I said, if you say so, we don't have to stay friends.
I deleted him, because I think he actually said this at the beginning, clearly taking me as ....... The basic respect is gone.
After more than ten days he added my WeChat, I ignored him, until now. The place where he works is just above my unit, we know each other's situation, but should not bother again.
In fact, to say no feelings, I think there is still, to say that the feelings are very deep, it seems to lack some fire, mainly when the separation is not painful feeling, that I am still sensible, not because of his gentle and lost themselves. I sincerely hope he met the right person to get married and have children, no more!



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