Love is kindness and patience

Love is kindness and patience

Divorce is getting easier and easier now, but that's why it takes rationality, tolerance and wisdom to know how to stick to marriage.

At that time, she was at the bottom of her marriage. Her husband went out early and came back late all day, and he didn't see any improvement in his career; The feelings between them are like tea that has been made several times. They are insipid. There are no gifts, hugs and joy when they come back from a business trip, but calm like an old husband and wife

When she spoke out the troubles of these marriages, the sisters helped her analyze her stagnant marriage as the past, and finally came to a conclusion: such a marriage should have disintegrated long ago.

After venting happily with her friends, she walked firmly on the way home. When she came home, she suddenly felt an unspeakable sense of disgust when she looked at this invariable home, a little simple and shabby home. The child spilled milk all over the floor. She hurriedly dragged the floor. She saw that the house was thrown in a mess. While she was busy cooking dinner, the phone rang and he would come back later.

In despair, she accidentally grabbed the bare handle of the pot, and immediately her hand was scalded with a big bubble. The wooden handle of the pot handle had long fallen off, leaving only the black iron handle. It was hot when you were not careful. She told him more than 50 times, but he never had time to repair it.

Since the idea of divorce came into her mind, everything in the family was intensifying her determination to divorce.

She angrily turned off the fire, went out of the kitchen, looked at the once beautiful spring, but now full of resentment and dim eyes in the mirror, and sighed: marriage is really terrible. I must abandon this half dead life and leave this stagnant place.

Two hours later, he came back and saw that there was no dinner on the table as usual. She sat alone in the dark and her eyes were determined. "Why didn't you cook?" As he spoke, he went into the kitchen.

"Why cook? I've done enough and I don't want to do it anymore. I've had enough of these days. Let's divorce."

The husband was vigorously washing a pot that should not stick to the bottom in the kitchen. His first reaction was that I didn't hear what you said. The second reaction was that I heard wrong. Please say it again; Finally, when he finally understood her wishes, his son cried. He had to put aside her emotional problems first and rushed into the room to feed his son with milk.

"Didn't you have a good life? Why divorce?" He came out with the child in his arms, looking surprised.

She looked at him with a sneer, and a sense of revenge rose in her heart. He had been careless to ignore my feelings, but now it was his turn to suffer!

"Of course you think you're doing well, but I don't think so, and I don't want to go on anymore."

That night, she insisted on sleeping apart from him. According to the experience of girlfriends, divorce is an extremely complex thing. It entangles many factors such as emotion, property and habits, so we must have perseverance.

In order to get a smooth divorce, she has already thought of three parts of divorce: first, she will never buy vegetables and cook, and separate the two people from her life; Second, never walk or sleep with him, and never give him a chance to make up; Third, economic separation.

Lying on the sofa bed, she couldn't sleep alone. She turned on the lamp, found out a piece of white paper and began to write the divorce agreement. At the moment of writing, she checked her family's property, and the scene of the past also vaguely emerged: she was a northerner. He came from Jiangnan, drifted to the city and started from scratch. Now he is over 30 and has earned two houses, one big and one small, the big one is three bedrooms, which he moved in at the beginning of last year; The small ones were bought by them when they first came. They are all under her name. Now they have been rented to others with a monthly income of 600 yuan; In addition, the husband has two stores, worth about 300000 yuan.

She wrote very clearly on the divorce agreement: the house and children belong to me and the facade to him. It's fair and reasonable.

The next day, when I handed him the divorce agreement, I left a note on the table: I want to be free!

"Sign! Divorce, do you understand?" Seeing his face in a daze, she was a little annoyed, but then realized that she had gone too far. Instead, she said in a persuasive tone: "although we haven't been husband and wife for a long time, have we been together for five or six years? After spending so long together, can't you see that we are actually people in two worlds? Separation is good for you and me."

A week later, he called her office: "I agree to sign. Let's go out for dinner in the afternoon. I'll see you at the old place and I'll give you the agreement." His voice was low and sad. After he hung up, she still sat in a chair holding the microphone in a daze.

He's divorced. The depression accumulated on her chest was pulled away in an instant. The feeling of emptiness was like the Qi in martial arts novels. A trace of internal breath had a long history and slowly traveled around her body. Sitting in her chair, she felt the rise and fall of her body. Past scenes flashed in her head involuntarily: there was only one thought in her mind: without this man, she would not be who she is today——

She likes the scenery of the seaside. He gave up his rising career and accompanied her to the seaside city to start again; She dreamed of a house by the sea. He lent her a loan to buy this house with open curtains and boundless sea view.

After work, she managed to cheer up and went to the usual seaside western restaurant. A few days later, he seemed to have lost a lot of weight, but he was tall and straight, his eyes were melancholy and quiet, and his shaved chin looked sexy.

The husband silently pushed a brown paper envelope in front of her. Her eyes were red before she sat down. Do I really leave this man forever? She suddenly panicked. Did she lose him like this?

"Now that you're here, don't worry. Order something to eat first." Maybe it was because it was the last dinner. He looked at her and smiled. His eyes were clear and gentle. Then he stretched out his slender fingers and greeted waiter: "a black pepper beef fillet rice and a clam soup." Both are her favorites.

She sat in silence until he suddenly said to her, "for the last dinner, will you order me something I love to eat?"

"What do you like to eat?" She was suddenly asked, and her brain suddenly went blank. After searching for half a day, she stammered, "what do you like to eat? Don't you always eat the same as me?"

He smiled patiently, and then said word by word: "in fact, we have lived together for so many years, I have always eaten what I don't like. You forget, I am from Suzhou. In fact, I like the dishes in the south of the Yangtze River very much, a little sweet."

She listened to his words as if it were a rough sea, and a strong remorse caught her. Yes, over the years, she had never thought of asking him what he liked to eat, and it was ironic that they would divorce when she knew for the first time that he liked sweet food.

"What, okay?" He asked softly.

Her tears began to swirl in her eyes.

"I've made up my mind. I'll give you the house, the store and everything at home!" After a long silence, he suddenly said, "I only take my own books and a few sets of clothes."

"Where are you going?" Hearing the sad farewell, she couldn't help crying out. Nearly 2000 days and nights, skin blind dates, warmth under the moon, eyes looking at each other, tacit understanding, mutual habits, always loved? After all these years. She never imagined a life without this man.

"In fact, over the years since I came to Dalian, my parents and my friends have repeatedly called me back to the south, saying that there is more room for development there. However, you like the sea and romance, so I have been with you, breathing the fishy sea breeze here and eating seafood I don't like very much. You have made little achievements in your career, which makes you wronged."

"What are you talking about? I don't mean that." Her tears burst down.

"After divorce, I will go to the south for development. You will have to work hard to live alone and take children." He frowned, pulled out a cigarette and paused, "so I'll leave everything to you. The facade can rent some money every year. Save it and don't spend it in case of need. Children also need a lot of money to go to school. I'll think of a way then." He said, looking out of the window, there was a trace of nostalgia and lingering concern and pain. That tone was not like a man preparing for divorce, but like a parent who was about to travel to his wife and children.

Outside the window is the blue sky, the clear sea and white waterfowl. Everything is as beautiful and quiet as heaven. And all this suddenly became eclipsed, because a person who promised to stay with her forever was about to leave.

"What do you do?" She asked. "I always have my own way. Men always have a way to survive in this world. Unlike women, you are so credulous, kind and easy to get hurt." Looking at his pitying eyes looking at her, her tears couldn't stop falling down.

"Stop crying, honey." His big hand pressed on her shoulder, a faint smell of tobacco, so familiar, how she liked the sense of power and the smell of tobacco on him, but why, when two people were together, they didn't feel it at all, but only bored?

"I should go too. You know what? Every time you get together with your parents and sisters, my heart is empty. I miss my parents very much, too. They are old after all."

Hearing this, her heart is full of moving, self reproach, and more of a new kind of love and reluctance. What a nice man she is. She has seen how many couples turn against each other in divorce, fight for property, abuse and curse each other; But she has never seen such a divorce, such a tender, deep and tolerant Parting Ceremony... A parting full of blessings, sadness and concern; And until the last moment, I didn't know that all kinds of unhappiness and maladjustment he had endured in his marriage were all because of her.

"Why didn't you say that earlier?" With tears in her eyes, She gripped his big hand, regardless of self-esteem and pride.

"Because I love you and I am willing to endure all this. I hope you have a happy life and don't worry about these trivial things." She froze again.

After a moment of hesitation, she said, "can you not go?"

Finally, she came out hand in hand with him. The sea breeze outside was very cool. She sat behind his motorcycle and drove home. Her long hair fluttered. Looking at the brightly lit street view along the road, she thought of her warm home close to the mountain and the sea, which he had built by himself. Suddenly she had a sense of happiness.

Spiritual spark

There is an interpretation of love in the Bible, which is very simple, but the true meaning of love is the most: love is patience and kindness; Love is not jealous; Love does not boast; Love is not arrogant, does not do shy things, does not seek its own benefits, does not get angry easily, does not count the evil of others, does not like injustice, but only likes the truth; Tolerate everything, hope everything, endure everything; Love never fails. We all want such love, but we turn a blind eye to it when we really face it. If you meet, cherish it, okay?