How much you have to do, how much pressure you should take

How stupid I am, how eager I am, how obsessed I am, how empty I am.

How kind you are, how simple you are, how shapeless you are, how staggering you are.

Everyone laughs how far-fetched, cries how aggravated, misses how peaceful and unharmed it is.

1. The most basic elements

Want to understand what a person is really thinking, than the content of what he does, in fact, the way he does and the way more important. Your desire, determine the way you talk or do things and the way.

Desire, is the most basic element.

1

To understand a person, it is more important than the content of what he says, but actually the way and manner in which he speaks.

We often listen to a conversation outside the strings, such as others invite you to dinner, sit down after flipping through the menu and say, this is nothing good, you have to hurry to bring the menu over and say, just eat, and then order some cheap.

Even if you say hello, friends ask, how are you doing? Happened late at night call, or a sudden date that has not seen for a long time, that he is looking for someone to talk to, because he is waiting for you to answer: okay, and you?

A doctor friend told me that a person who commits suicide usually chooses a good way to commit suicide. Throwing a river, hanging, taking poison, lying on the rail, slitting his wrists, he will go online to look up good information, which one is more in line with his intentions. The time and possibility of death in these ways, he will know more than ordinary people. The real suicide people, he fears only one thing, how to die.

Therefore, most of those who buy sleeping pills, the purpose is not to die, but to intimidate, threaten, or even confess. Because sleeping pills do not kill people, found early, drink mineral water and then vomit. Found late, sent to the hospital to wash the stomach.

Buy the herbicide, that seek to die hardened heart terrible. Herbicide, can not be resuscitated, only slowly lose bodily functions, a few days to ten days after death, there is no possibility of treatment.

Trying to understand what a person is really thinking is more important than the content of what he is doing, but actually the way and means he is doing it.

This is the basic element to understand a person.

2

My college friend, Wang Yifan, had a widely publicized love affair in his sophomore year.

He was fiercely fond of the lower class of schoolgirls, and being the king of absenteeism, he actually even accompanied the girls to the overnight study for such a heartless thing to do.

Of course, there are not a few boys who can reach this point, and what makes Wang Yifan the hero is another.

I still remember that on Christmas Eve in December 2001, Wang Yifan carefully wiped his jewelry box in the dormitory.

It contained the ring he bought for more than three thousand dollars, which included the cost of food and tutoring, and should have been a lot of hard work for him who lived on four hundred dollars a month.

Then in the evening, he went to offer his treasure with a light footstep.

He did not return to the dormitory until after lights out, his face flushed. People held their breath and didn't ask him, snoring one after the other. He lay in bed tossing and turning and finally voiced out, "Xiao Xi said it was the best gift she ever received."

Shit. A poor college student like me only gave a mug to a girl that day, forty-five dollars. Motherfucker. You send a ring for over three thousand, can it be bad? So everyone started to really snore.

The next day, Wang Yifan unprecedentedly early in the morning to go to the library to review.

When he returned at noon, his face was pale and his lips trembled as he said, "I can't find Xiao Xi."

His roommate joked, "Holy shit, he didn't run away with the money, did he?"

Wang Yifan kept calling, and Xiao Xi's roommate replied forever that she was not in the dorm.

Finally, I pretended to be a school teacher and called to ask. Her roommate said with surprise, "Teacher, don't you know that Xiao Xi has gone abroad to study?" I was shocked: "When?" Her roommate said, "This morning's flight!" I said, "Didn't she have a boyfriend?" My roommate giggled, "What's the difference? There's more than one guy chasing her, so it's better to fly away and save your mind."

There was a silence in the dormitory as we all restrained the urge to dance the eight-letter dance.

Of course it is still necessary to comfort him: hahahahaha this kind of bitch do not want to stop hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

3

Xiao Xi really figure that ring?

She said it is the best gift she received, there is a sincere component?

I don't know.

Because I'm not the one who dwells on this issue, but Wang Yifan.

4

I'm not in the same city, but I drink with Wang Yifan a few times a year.

In early 2010, Wang Yifan and I reunited at a bar in Nanjing's Xinjiekou.

Four years after graduation, his other brilliant sagas had completely obliterated the ring incident. It was always rumored among friends back then that he was the only great man among us who had reached 100 people.

We once planned to let him write down his four years of experience, which must be no less than "Simon Qing's biography".

Wang Yifan sat across from me, holding a flat box of three or five, calmly chatting about his memorable cases in the 100-people beating.

But he seems to be different this time, several times want to talk and then stop.

I didn't ask.

Wang Yifan poured a few mouthfuls and said, "I want to tell you something."

I looked at him and suddenly my heart beat faster.

Wang Yifan finished the bottle, his eyes flashed and sighed.

He hesitated half a day before recounting.

In a train, the opposite bunk is a young woman, good temperament, eyes look forward to.

Of course, Wang Yifan did not tell me the specific process of hooking up, because it is said that this is the secret of the jianghu, pass on the son not friends.

The train stopped at the Tianjin platform, the two tacitly agreed to get off directly and went to open a room.

After the young woman fell asleep, Wang Yifan suddenly found himself having to rebuy the ticket, and not much money on him. So he made a bold and fantastic decision, he went through the young woman's bag, intending to borrow some funds.

Then, he found an officer's certificate.

Air Force Major.

Wang Yifan was terrified, dressed haphazardly and slipped away.

Hearing this, I also shivered, this kind of thing and the army a connection, always feel will be shot.

Then Wang Yifan said, he has since changed his cell phone number. Until a month later out of curiosity, the previous SIM card into the phone, found that there are dozens of her phone.

I shivered and said, "Hurry up and forget, don't use the previous number at all."

Wang Yifan was silent for a while and said, "Well, but I seem to have some health problems."

I asked nervously, "Don't ah, is ......"

Wang Yifan said, "I've checked, the blood is fine."

I breathed a sigh of relief: "Then maybe it's your psychological implication."

Wang Yifan nodded: "Forget it, you do not tell others."

I agreed, but looking at his slightly pale face, I couldn't help but also tell a story.

5

I worked at a TV station and took interns. The intern drove every day, but to enter the station to have a pass, the intern reasoned that it was very troublesome to do a pass. But within a week, he had one behind the window of his car.

Either he is a relative of the station leader, or he is well mixed with the general department. Either of these two reasons made me extremely uncomfortable.

The intern probably saw my discomfort and quietly told me, "You know, Mr. Zhang, in everything that needs a pass near the unit, the nearest printing and copying store, it can issue you a pass."

I did not understand, asked, what do you mean.

He said, "Ha ha, this access card is I find home near the print store printing ah, twenty-one, plastic plus twenty."

Holy shit!