Becoming the Perfect You.

Let's welcome the New Year not with resolutions or goals but with becoming the best version of yourself.

Step One: Figure out what it is you like about yourself. Take these aspects about yourself and continue to improve these.

Step Two: What is it that you least like about yourself. Why? What about these aspects of yourself that you least like? Is it something simple like changing your hair? Changing your wardrobe? Is it something challenging like lossing weight? Wanting a change in where you live? A job?

Step Three: After taking the aspects of what you enjoy and not enjoy so much about yourself, write down a plan to work on yourself to be able to get where you want to be.

Step Four: As you go along on your journy, do things that make you happy. Like hobbies, going for walks, visiting places that bring you joy. Doing things that bring you joy.

Step Five: Get rid of the vampires that suck the happiness out of you. This isn't Harry Potter, we don't need Dementors to suck the joy out of life. Eat your chocolate or find your version of chocolate and quickly move on. If they can't take the time to appriate you. Than take the time to cast them away. Cutting out toxic people and toxic environments would be the best thing you could ever do for yourself.

Step Six: Don't forget that your mental health is very important. You are very important. It's okay to reach out to speak to someone. Having a journal or finding something to help you dump your brain into may also be beneficial.

Step Seven: Learn to be alone. Not saying you can't have friends, family, lovers. But you can't truley learn to love you if you are unable to be with you. Learning how to love yourself is the greatest thing you can do.

Step Eight: Learning to not compare yourself to others. It's natural to comapre yourself to others. But understanding that the people you are comparing yourself to are also human. Just like you. They also have their own battles in life, just like you. Comparing yourself to others, especially in a negative way isn't fair to you.

Step Nine: Not only take care of your mind, take care of your body as well. However that may look like. No one saying to be the next Victoria Secret Model but listening to your body and its needs is esstential to your over all health.

The human body is weird. When you take care of your body, espically when you make it a combo with your mind, the two can take you a long way. Taking care of the health of your body, combined with your mind is a great start of loving yourself. A lot of times improving the over all well being of you in general.

Step Ten: Understanding that unfortunatley everyone has haters. Especially when you are taking the steps to love yourself and improving the over all well being of you. Genereally these are the toxic people that are hiding in our lives.

These are the people that start out with helping you point out your flaws and some of the good things about yourself. As soon as you work on yourself and those flaws, suddenly they managed to change the narrative and not supportive. Were they actually suportive from the beginning? Or were they enjoying pointing out whats wrong with you because they were above you?

Now that you have worked on yourself, they try to figure out a way to shoot you down before you realize you can actually fly off the stupid island.

Step Eleven: This is the end. You have spent all of this time learning how to love yourself. Learning who you are. Learning how to be in peace with yourself.

Sometimes it's better to be alone, than in a room full of people who don't like you, appreciate or love you.

Don't forget that the most important love is the one you give yourself.