Are you ready to meet your twin flame?

“I don’t even know where to start from it’s been a long story….down till now, I can’t get myself to write but if I could, I’ll write an epistle. I’m grateful to the heavens for pulling me out of a terrible relationship I wasn’t supposed to be in.. you opened my eyes for reality, made me realize my worth. It’s crazy how two broken people could heal each other. Up till tomorrow and forever, I cannot forgive myself for settling for crumbs.. giving the most and getting trash in return… but you? I’m still doubting that you’re too good to be true. Broken women are talking about men, terrible men.. only you made me believe that all men are not the same. you made me see my worth. You aren’t perfect but You’re an angel. my last relationship was a blunder. I almost let an unfortunate person ruin my life. I still feel sorry for letting myself down like that but the best part is, we don’t settle. we move with the best ones. thank you for changing my perspective. “

I wasn’t done writing a sweet epistle for my newly found connection yet when my phone beeped and I got a text message from him. That message blew up my heart. This is the same person that got me up this early at 6am writing this epistle. I read with my mouth agape.

“It’s been three months of trying to wait for you and understand you but you still seem to be traumatized by your previous relationship. Well not to worry I’m sorry it’s too early for this but I’m just writing to let you know that I’m back with my ex and wouldn’t appreciate us talking because she said so but I mean…., I don’t mind if you’re game. Hit me up when you want us to re-strategize or never at all if you’re not interested. Thanks and goodbye for now “

After over thirty minutes of my silence, the next blunder occurred, I could no longer see his profile picture. I’d never felt so dishonored in my life apart from my previous relationship experience. This got me thinking about the reality of modern relationships in this generation. Typically known as Gen Z

In the modern world, relationships have dramatically evolved, particularly in the Gen Z generation, where commitment and deep emotional bonds seem to take a backseat to fun, instant gratification, and casual encounters. This shift is influenced by technology and social media, which have made relationships feel more transactional and fleeting. With dating apps and constant digital communication, connections have become faster but more superficial, leaving little room for the kind of emotional depth that once characterized lasting relationships.

For many in Gen Z, dating has become a series of quick interactions — casual hookups or short-term flings. The idea of commitment, loyalty, and working through challenges seems increasingly irrelevant in a world that offers endless choices at the swipe of a finger. Texting, direct messages, and emojis have replaced the slow, deliberate communication of love letters, resulting in connections that lack depth and meaning. Relationships, instead of being about emotional intimacy, often become about immediate pleasure. The fear of missing out (FOMO) and the pressure to keep options open discourage many from investing emotionally in someone, preferring instead the excitement of new, temporary connections.

This shift to casual relationships stands in stark contrast to the past when commitment, loyalty, and emotional investment were key components of love. In previous generations, relationships weren’t so easily disposable. People had to work harder to maintain connections, especially when distance or difficulty was involved. For example, men who went off to war often had no choice but to communicate through written letters, which could take weeks or months to reach their loved ones. These letters weren’t just messages; they were heartfelt expressions of love, devotion, and longing. Writing a letter required time, effort, and emotional vulnerability. These letters, sent from the battlefield or distant lands, represented a commitment to enduring love even when separated by great distances.

In the absence of constant digital communication, these long-distance relationships were sustained through tangible acts of love. Men fought wars, wrote painful, tearful and blood stained letters, waited patiently for reunions, showing devotion in ways that were both romantic and sacrificial. Honesty, integrity, and trust were fundamental to the relationships of the past, as the emotional investment was seen as crucial to the bond. Lies were rare because the people involved had a deep understanding that love required transparency and loyalty. In this era, relationships were not just about convenience but about building something lasting and real, despite the hardships life threw their way.

One of the most iconic love stories from the 1960s is that of Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton. Their love, full of passion, drama, and intensity, is a prime example of the kind of deep, flaming connection that was prevalent in the past. Their romance was public, controversial, and tumultuous, yet it reflected a depth of emotion that many modern relationships lack. Their bond was tested by personal struggles, public scrutiny, and the challenges of fame, but it was also one defined by a fierce, undeniable love. Even when they were married and divorced twice, their connection remained strong. Taylor famously said, “I am a woman who loves deeply. And I’ve loved deeply with Richard, and I will love him to my last breath.” Their relationship wasn’t about fleeting passion; it was about enduring a love that transcended circumstances.

In contrast, modern relationships often avoid the intensity and vulnerability that Taylor and Burton shared. Today, many people seem to shy away from the complexities of deep emotional connection, preferring to keep things light and fun. This shift toward casual encounters has led to a sense of dissatisfaction and emptiness for some, who feel that while the connection may be exciting in the moment, it lacks the depth that comes with real love. There’s a sense that many are trading the possibility of lasting, meaningful love for the instant gratification of the next quick high.

Despite the overwhelming convenience of modern dating, many like I, still long for the depth and commitment that characterized past relationships. There is an undeniable yearning for love that transcends fleeting attraction and builds over time. The stories of devotion, sacrifice, and loyalty from the past — like the love letters written during wartime or the passionate commitment between Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton — remind us of the power of real connection. True love requires more than convenience; it demands effort, sacrifice, and vulnerability. In a world that is increasingly focused on immediate satisfaction and lies, it’s worth considering whether we are losing touch with the kind of love that can last a lifetime.

Some believe that twin flames are destined to meet in the most unexpected moments, often when neither is looking for them. It's said that when you encounter your twin flame, you'll feel an undeniable pull—a connection so intense, it feels like you've known them for lifetimes. Have you already felt their pull? if you haven’t, hang in there just a little bit more. The sad reality? Many never recognize them until it's almost too late. Yes….sadly anyone could end up with someone else’s twin flame. Anyone following the trail of the Gen-z. I almost believe that is one of the sole definitions to the high rate of divorces. Unhappy marriages and subtle feelings of vagueness or slight regret even in years of marriage…… most people tend to develop a coping mechanism by chanelling their energy or happiness to legacies asides their marriages. They are never to be blamed either. At this point, I guess we all know what happened….

So fast forward to the present….do you think I’d delete my epistle because a Gen Z wants me to follow the trail? Sneak and let him cheat on his girlfriend or compromise my standards because I’m eager for love?? Nahh…I saved it in my notes, because I strongly believe that love and twin flames come when you’re not looking, not coerced, no confusions…just questions cause it’ll seem too good to be true. one day, I’ll send this to its real owner…

MY TWIN FLAME 🔥…

(Or probably yours. Since it’s a really small Gen Z world and we all may never really get to be with our twin flames. But whoever makes me send this epistle which has brought shame to me ever again, with so much ease and trust for him….. is my twin flame).