Why You Should Always Strive to Have Real Friends in Your Life

It’s very easy to believe that you have real friends in your life. That all the folks lurking around you meant well for you. Or that they’d always be there for you. But you’re going to later realize that not all of them are your real friends. And in some cases, you’d be astonished to find out that you do not have a friend at all.

I have come to realize that real friends will sometimes be revealed when you find yourself in a difficult situation. When you’d need words of encouragement — and some necessary support to help you handle a difficult situation better.

“If you want to know who your friends are, get yourself a jail sentence.”—Charles Bukowski

When you find yourself in a pickle is when some folks that you previously regarded as friends would spring into the air like the fickle bird. And this is also when you’d be able to know your real friends because they’re going to stand by you — and walk with you like the selfless tree.

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Friends could hinder you from meeting great people in life. They can also be the reason why you’re not living the kind of life that you’re supposed to live. This is so because friends influence you in so many ways.

If you spend time with negatively minded people, you’ll later become like them. Because they’re going to infect you with their negative energy.

And when you spend time with folks that live an exemplary lifestyle, you’ll begin to make efforts to improve your life because you now look up to them. You’ve been so close to them that you now admire their lifestyle and you’ve started to import some of them into your life.

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Real friendship grows out of various thorns of life like misunderstandings — and disagreements. This is why some friendships that may last long become stronger after going through challenges like misunderstandings. Because friends that truly care about each other will know when to compromise for the sake of their relationship.

And they’ll always be willing to discuss any issue with each other.

Because issues no matter how insignificant they might seem could be the reason why what used to be a wonderful friendship would suddenly collapse. It could also be the reason why that particular friendship is going to become stronger. It all depends on the value the both of your place on each other.

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So who’s a real friend?

A real friend is tolerant, understanding — and very forgiving. A real friend will give you support if you ever need any. A true friend will celebrate with you — and will never begrudge you of your successes. A real friend is respectful and trustworthy — and you can always count on a real friend to keep your secrets. Real friends will not expect you to repay them for every act of kindness that they rendered to you because true friends don’t count scores.

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Why you should always ensure that you only make friends with the right individual.

Because friends influence you in so many ways. Your worth can increase or decrease as a result of the kind of friends you have in your life.

And when you don’t understand the importance of keeping the right friends, you reduce your chances of growing and developing through human association and interaction.

And you increase the chances of decreasing your values. This is exactly why you don’t befriend anyone that comes your way.

Instead, you’re going to carefully choose your friends because you know your worth. You know exactly what you want. And you understand what it means to have a real friend because you have what it takes to be a real friend to someone else.

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What are the kind of people that you may allow to become your friend

You befriend people that’ll influence you positively.

You May also make friends with individuals that love themselves and take good care of themselves. Because individuals that love themselves are excellent. They know how to take care of another person. And they understand what love truly means because they evince true love.

They live a life that is worthy of emulation. And when you draw closer to them, you’d begin to emulate their lifestyle. And with time you’d begin to exhibit those traits that you admire in their lives.

You can also befriend people that enjoy what they do and may have found success.

You may make friends with them because there is quite a lot to learn from them. You’d learn about their philosophies, the way they approach their businesses, and how they leap over some of the hurdles they encountered. And with this knowledge, it’d become less difficult for you to cross over similar hurdles in your life, should you ever encounter them.

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Conclusion

It is important to first understand who a real friend is because this is the understanding you need to always ensure that you only allow the right people into your life.

Life sometimes can be unpredictable. And you are going to be able to navigate a challenging situation better because you are blessed with real friends.

Individuals that have real friends in their lives don’t stand alone while facing a difficult situation because their friends will quickly reach out to help them weather the storm.

You may have built for yourself an easier way out of a real pickle by having real friends in your life.