Why did we get separated in marriage

From the hit TV series "Our Marriage", we can see the majority of middle-aged people, and their marital status is actually the state of most of us. Married for many years, the young passion has faded, trivial life a chicken feathers, if you can not put down the edges and corners of compromise with each other, many couples may have been separated.

Only by thinking in others' shoes can we keep our "beginner's mind"

Bai Baihe stars as Shen Comet, a former straight-a student who chooses to stay at home to raise her husband and children after marriage, but decides to return to work after several years of being a stay-at-home mom. She has been insisting on their goals, in the process of chasing goals, she realized her husband is not easy. And return duty field afte as Shen Comet, husband and wife 2 people begin to shoulder the responsibility that takes care of child and family jointly, Sheng Jiangchuan also understands, the tribality that he looks so is not easy actually.

Although Sheng jiangchuan always talks about "equality" and "respect", in his heart, he still thinks that the upgrading of consumption in his family is all his own credit. In other words, in Sheng Jiangchuan's mind, there was never equality between the couple. Comet Shen clearly felt her husband's dominance. By reversing roles, the couple learns to put themselves in others' shoes instead of blaming and taking. Keep the "original intention" of marriage, the willingness and ability to communicate and understand is very important. If you encounter problems, you should face them squarely and try to solve them with communication, rather than escape or even blame each other, which is bound to make the problems accumulate in the day after day.

Marriage requires a couple to work together

Rulu's Dong Sijia is investment banking executives, but when an outsider with Dong Sijia mentioned husband do what work, she always change the subject, is not willing to let people know your husband is a stay-at-home dad, she can't stand other people feel the husband will not be able to, even in Dong Sijia his heart, despised the husband, work for the husband "for" all around.

A lot of people say that powerful women tend not to have particularly happy marriages because they are too subjective and imposing. Such a woman, in life will be very tired. Because she's not running the house with her husband, she's running everything in the house, including her husband. This is the key to dong sijia's difficulty in enjoying happiness despite her successful career and warm husband. A woman, if only strong, can live a happy life if her lover is willing to tolerate her, which is at best a matter of willing to beat. But if she does not know content, just want to husband as a child in the hand, everything will not please.

The strongest relationships are 'equal'

Jiang Jing used to be a workplace elite, but because of pregnancy and work "abandoned" to become a humble full-time wife, she took care of the children when the work, the husband when the boss to "serve", in the marriage from the status, humble posture, in order to obtain her husband's "support", but finally still by the husband calculated, abandoned.

In fact, the strongest marriages are "equal", "you're good, I'm not bad". There are too many "Jiang Jing" wives these days, who become stay-at-home wives, disrespected by their husbands, without income, and have to settle for a low profile. But if the two partners in the relationship become no longer a match, and one is far superior to the other, then the marriage is in danger. People are very realistic animals. Most people who are in a strong position in marriage tend to abandon the weak one. In order to have a stable marriage, both husband and wife should grow up and always maintain equal status, which is the condition of stable marriage. Marriage is a process of growth, any party in situ mark time is not possible for a long marriage.