What to do if you experience betrayal in an intimate relationship?

Some illusions make people dizzy, and it is impossible to come up with conclusive evidence that their perceptions are right.

It's like a person who has been betrayed, who feels cared for and valued in a love affair, but is still betrayed.

Many things can't be seen to be believed, and it's not uncommon for two people who seem happy in a relationship to end up more shocked by the betrayal.

Some people will have doubts and self-doubts after suffering a betrayal.

1: Doubt the extent to which the other person loves them.

2: Doubt that they have the factors in themselves that constitute the betrayal of their other half.

In fact, in a relationship between a man and a woman who has suffered a betrayal, there are no factors that constitute that they have suffered a betrayal. Therefore, people who generate self-doubt can not be necessary.

As for whether the other party loves them, there is no need to doubt, if enough to love a person, how will produce betrayal?

Some people, even if two people get along for many years, feelings have been very flat, or no betrayal of such a hurtful thing happened.

So we can easily find, deep love or not is the essential reason for the occurrence of betrayal.

So, what is the root cause of betrayal in the relationship between men and women?

There are only 3 words that play a decisive role: moral heart.

The betrayer himself does not have a moral heart, and his moral is to play the piano.

Such a conclusion, let people instantly sober, and relieved!

In fact, in the hearts of many betrayers of marriage, there is nothing about the person in front of them that makes them dissatisfied.

It's just that they are unable to satisfy their conscience with a moral match due to a lack of moral heart, and thus do things that go against their responsibility and morality for the sake of their desires.

We have seen too many people who have betrayed their love and died begging for forgiveness after they have gone east because deep down they never wanted to separate from the person in front of them, much less die to be truly united with that third person.

This is the essence of the problem of a person who lacks a moral heart. It is also a problem that we mostly see some betrayal of the immediate person and the third person together, and then there will be the same old drama repeated.

Please believe: in the world of the betrayer, and his love relationship, there will always be a third person.

For many men and women in intimate relationships, the act of betrayal does not mean that the person in front of you is really how bad, but because of the lack of moral heart of people, simply desire beyond the ability to self-control just.

But to make their betrayal not carry too many charges, they will use the three inches of their incompetent tongue to find more excuses and justifications for themselves, and finally let the crowd of a thousand people point to the injured person who suffered betrayal: the

It is your bad, your significant other was forced to betray the road.

See how despicable the betrayer is? Those so-called bright eyes of the crowd, but also at that moment followed the blind.

Why I will more than once tell those who suffered betrayal, and once experienced such harm, must weigh the pros and cons after deciding whether to stay or go, the best self-protection is to stop in time away from the "bad" people.

Because you can hardly guarantee in the following days, will suffer what kind of pain. After all, for the phenomenon of betrayal, no one can do real forgiveness.

But if the relationship between men and women continues, to the longevity of the relationship, people who have suffered betrayal must force themselves to all the pain pent up in the bottom of their hearts, not easily exposed, otherwise it is conflict and quarrel, but also by "how you always turn over old debts" the phrase moral kidnapping.

In the intimate relationship between men and women, suffered a betrayal how do? Do the following 4 points can be.

First, do not self-doubt.

Even though you have numerous flaws, your significant other has the right to leave you, but must not use betrayal to malign you. Don't listen to him say that he "didn't mean to hurt", when he acted that way, he did it on purpose.

Even if you have no merit, it is not a reason for you to suffer betrayal.

Secondly, stop the damage in time.

If you still love the person who betrayed you, or can not let go, then stopping in time is not necessarily a relationship break. But do not return him in the same way.

You just need in this relationship between men and women, whether to stay or go, are weighing the pros and cons (if necessary, you can use the weapons of the law to fight for themselves some "balance"), to minimize their damage, you won the first step.

Again, do not go to the third person's trouble.

The person who betrayed you is not the third person, if your current love relationship no one for the third person to open the back door, the third person is no chance to enter your relationship.

The betrayal, to go to the third person theory or even force revenge, is the most stupid people. Your behavior for your benefit, it is likely that you will also for their behavior, bear the cost of the unforeseeable.

Finally, love yourself well.

Only people who have no moral heart can make deliberate evil and hurt others, and if you are in a trance for such people, you probably suffered a blow that was not enough.

Otherwise, you should know how to eat well and drink well, and use the soberest mind to ensure your interests. You can't be physically and mentally hurt, physically broken, and finally not even get what you deserve, right? How silly!

People who use the so-called "substantial problems" in the process of getting along to find excuses for their betrayal are really bad.

And those "good advice" to let you change their faults in the future, to ensure that the love of the person to stay around people, more abominable. The person is not the one who suffered the betrayal, so stand and speak to the person who is already suffering to the extreme.

Thus, let the person who suffered betrayal, can not use real reason to give their best protection, but self-doubt is growing deeper and deeper.

Never speak with a person who betrayed his feelings and moral heart, never be close to those who point them out for you, do not consider your feelings, straight talk to let you accept his "good intentions" people.

Many times, we will use scum to describe a person's character, but a betrayal of feelings and do not take into account your feelings of the "good advice" people, they are called scum.

Lack of moral heart and betrayal of feelings of people is selfish. Indiscriminately advising you to be generous and change yourself to keep the betrayer, is arrogant.

If, however, you have suffered a betrayal and you are wise enough, be sure to stay away from such two kinds of scum. Do not let your heart be hurt and tortured again.

The relationship between men and women may be difficult to establish, but it is extremely easy to destroy it.

I advise all people in relationships between men and women.

Please fill up the lacking areas of your moral heart before committing yourself, and then use your actual actions to fulfill your commitment and accomplish the goal of love.