People you don't like, breathing is all wrong

I have a friend who recently complained to me that a guy friend always asked her if she was in a good mood if she had anything to eat if she wanted milk tea or something like that.

She is always concerned about her mood changes, observing her meticulously, making her feel annoyed and even scared.

She was not unaware that the boy liked him, but had already rejected him, and then the boy said he wanted to be friends and was getting along quite well.

But once the boy paid too much attention to her, she felt distracted and increasingly felt that the boy was not just an ordinary friend to her, but had hoped, and wanted to get along in a mode similar to that of male and female friends, but she did not know how to say clearly.

The concern in the name of friendship is so righteous that one cannot refuse.

She does not dislike tenderness, she just does not like you

What kind of character do girls generally like in boys?

There are two highly praised answers above, both mentioning gentle and careful.

Indeed, a gentle character is a big plus for boys, friends around also said gentle boys, no one will not like.

This is the same girl who said to me before that she liked a boy because the boy spoke softly and was attentive.

She will be because he said a sentence she wears too little, and feel that the boys care for her, will be because he went to dinner with her, ask a sentence can eat spicily, and feel that the boy is thoughtful, will be because the peer, walking in the road inside, and feel warm and secure.

But the same thoughtfulness to another boy, it's not the same thing at all.

I also asked her why you don't like that boy.

She also does not know, not simply because of physical appearance, to the age of reality, no longer what fantasies about handsome Prince Charming.

But do not like, just can not like.

The feelings can't be equated, not all give will be rewarded.

If the firm rejection is unfair to the boy, then because of the long-term pursuit and compromise, the girl is not a harm.

Let yourself go, and let the tortured girl go

I also have a friend, also a boy chasing her, she did not like, also clearly refused, but the boy is still pursuing her relentlessly.

The boy always waited for her under the dormitory building in advance for dinner and class, and at night after class no matter how late the girl stayed in the study room, the boy would wait for her and send her back to the dormitory building.

Once, I just saw the boy take her into his arms under the dormitory building, the girl did not struggle, quietly hanging her hands at the sides.

It reminded me that before, I just couldn't help asking her if she and the boy were together, and she answered me with a helpless face, "That's it."

Then laughed at herself, "I won't be able to find a boyfriend until I graduate anyway."

I could understand her unusual manner of speaking and acting, knowing that she had done nothing wrong, but feeling morally guilty and not having the courage to fight for her freedom.

A girl who seems to be highly favored by outsiders is instead helplessly in a passive position, unable to refuse and unable to escape.

Zhang Xiao Xian said, "The greatest flaw of a person is not selfishness, amorality, savagery, or capriciousness, but paranoid love for someone who does not love them."

The imposition of their own emotions on others, in exchange for nothing more than self-touching, a tangle of entanglement will only make people want to be more distant.

All your affection in life, sometimes only becomes a burden.

Put down, is the relief of others, but also for their respect.

Love and have to turn to self-love

Yishu once said: "I love him, but I love myself more. If you don't save yourself, it's hard to save people, and putting up with humiliation won't help, it will only invite greater insults."

Still stalking after a clear rejection, often in return for the other party's psychological disgust.

People who don't like you don't enjoy insulting you, nor do they turn on you because you can stand the insult.

I read a story earlier about a man who couldn't let go of something because of his feelings and went to a Zen master to complain. The Zen master said there is nothing he can't let go of, and the man said I can't let go.

The Zen master gave him a cup and poured boiling water into the cup, when the water was full the Zen master still poured water into it, the man was so hot that he could not stand the boiling water and let go of the cup, and the cup broke. The Zen master said that the pain was naturally put down.

Some people, are obsessively consumed, but also can not wait for the end they want.

Sometimes people are obsessed with pursuing a person because they can't accept that they are being denied and don't want to accept their imperfect selves.

Put your own emotions on others, and throw the problem of accepting yourself to others as a way to avoid the problem.

How about openly accepting the fact that you are not liked by others, and loving yourself before loving others?

Don't wait to break the cup before you know how to let go, the boiling water scalded you and hurt others.

May we have people to love and love the right people.