Triads and ‘Threesomes’

In June 2025, I got into a WhatsApp conversation with a person in disguise who, I then suspected and now know, was my twin half-brother. At the time of the conversation, he posed as a certain ‘Maryna Zhubryk’ — a real Ukrainian woman, no doubt, whose identity he used to approach and communicate with me. Our conversation took place during a two-year period when my half-brother approached me under multiple false identities, while I investigated our shared origins.

The conversation in question revolved around a specific erotic fantasy which my half-brother or ‘Maryna’ unwittingly raised when challenged on the subject of watching erotic movies and reading erotic magazines. The fantasy involved a woman making love to several men at the same time and being recorded onto a video. My half-brother, posing as a woman in this private conversation, claimed: ‘No woman in her right mind wants to make love with bunch of men and be recorded on a video!’ I chuckled at his intentional ‘naivete’ and proclaimed: ‘I’m a woman and I can tell you that I would not mind making love to several men at the same time.’ In response, my twin half-brother aka ‘Maryna’ burst into: ‘No-no, I cannot believe this! I will never believe this!’

To some extent, I intentionally provoked my half-twin because I wanted to see his reaction. I myself do not mind what sexual fantasies people have and perform. It is their own private business. But my twin half-brother was strongly opposing something which even did not apply to him as he acted under a false identity, faking a ‘woman’.

What did his reaction reveal? It revealed that he, as a man, wanted to be the one and only and not just one of many.

The woman who willingly makes love to several men declares that she is in control to how many men she makes love to. They serve her. They are secondary. But in my twin half-bro’s view, it was he who should choose. Hence his reaction. For, a classic male fantasy is: a man making love to several women at the same time or having threesome — two women one man.

Even though threesome is not my fantasy, I could picture it quite well and understand why a woman would enjoy it. When I was saying — ‘I am a woman and I can tell you that I would not mind making love to several men at the same time.’ — I really meant it.

How come?

I pondered over this and realised that although the fantasy with a woman and several men is not exactly mine it somehow ‘took place’ in my life. The information of this event got written into my informational field. I can see it, I can even feel it, yet it is not mine.

The thing is I am a chimera — I carry three genomes: my own, my mother’s and my unborn full twin’s one. The information about a woman and two men making love, not necessarily together, is the information I extracted on a cellular level from my mother’s genome. What it means is that my mother had more than one man at the same time — not exact threesome, but a love triangle. She, my father, and another man. What is more, it appears that she made love to both of them in a short period of time during which I and my twin half-brother were conceived. The conception resulted in the birth of the fraternal twins with different fathers — a rare event called heteropaternal superfecundation. But here is a twist: my twin half-bro disguised as ‘Maryna’ was thinking that MY father was his father too. Unfortunately for my twin half-bro, he was being delusional.

The love triangle that manifested before our birth and during or conception reflects differently in my and his lives. I have camaraderie and trust triads, and he competes for the number one place in an unwinnable love triangle.

Now, the ‘threesome’ scenario combinations when applied to real life relationships show fascinating interconnectedness and psychological patterns not only within the family but also with others when taken outside the family realm. Here is how it manifests my biological family dynamics.

‘Threesome’: One Man and Two Women

My Father

1. My father vs. my mother, and myself — an older man and his relationship with women who are slightly younger (seven years) than himself, and women who are much younger than himself

2. My father vs. myself, and my late sister (1983–2009) — an older man and his relationship with much younger than himself women, belonging to two different generations

3. My father vs. my mother, and my late sister (1983–2009) — an older man and his relationship with women who are slightly younger (seven years) than himself, and women who are much younger than himself

In my father’s ‘threesome’ scenarios, the patterns show the relationship of my father with younger than himself women starting from my mother who was just 19 years old when she met him, and finishing with my late younger sister who was 35 years younger than my father when she was born. In all three instances the relationships are of admiration, attraction, love and care, yet expressed in each case differently. My father was certainly attracted to my mother who loved him. Out of the two men in her life she gave him the preference. That number one place. Yet, herself could not be with him due to his work. For, my father was a Soviet undercover operative working in diplomatic services in Paris. I believe he certainly cared for me and acted in good faith, despite the fact that I was given up to the Soviet system to be placed into a foster family to avoid security risk. And, my father surely loved and cared for my younger sister whom he conceived with my mother in 1983, ten years after his dramatic clandestine love affair with her.

My Half Twin-Brother

1. My half twin vs. myself, and my late sister (1983–2009) — a man and his relationship with women of his age, and younger than himself women

2. My half twin vs. my mother, and myself — a man and his relationship with older than himself women, and women of his own age

3. My half twin vs. my mother, and my late sister (1983–2009) — a man and his relationship with older than himself women, and women who are younger than himself

In my half-twin’s ‘threesome’ scenarios, the patterns show his relationships with women of his age, younger than himself, and older than himself. Since he was conceived by a different man and has a different father than myself, his relationship with women is somewhat complex. Women of his own age he most probably competes with, as he wants to be the first born out of the two twins, but, in fact, he is the second born. For the same reason, he tends to patronise and ‘educate’ women who are younger than himself, acting as ‘number one’ in the equation. Finally, he tries to please and glorify older than himself women in order to win their love for the same reason he patronises younger than himself women. Seeking attention and competing to become number one in any relationship most likely contributed to the development of narcissism and victimhood in him.

My Unborn Twin Brother

1. My unborn full twin vs. myself, and my mother — a man and his relationship with women of his age and older than himself women

2. My unborn full twin vs. myself, and my late sister (1983–2009) — a man and his relationship with women of his age and younger than himself women

3. My unborn full twin vs. my mother, and my late sister (1983–2009) — a man and his relationship with older than himself women, and younger than himself women

In my unborn full twin’s ‘threesome’ scenarios, the patterns show his relationships with women of his own age, women who are ten years younger than himself, our sister, and women who are older than himself. Since my full twin was never born and his genome got written onto me this means that his relational patterns express through my female friendships. What is interesting, I often have female friends younger than myself, and almost none of my own age, since I am myself a friend to my full twin who is with me at all times. I also have few friendships with older than myself women, but I find them less interesting.

‘Threesome’: One woman and two men

My Mother

1. My mother vs. my father, and my unborn full twin — an older woman and her relationships with older than herself men whom she loves and who are attracted to her, and with younger than herself men whom she loves

2. My mother vs. my unborn full twin, and my half-twin — an older woman and her relationships with younger than herself men whom she loves, and with younger than herself men whom she loves as a second choice, but they compete for her love with others

3. My mother vs. my father, and my half-twin — an older woman and her relationships with men older than herself whom she loves and they are attracted to her, and with men younger than herself whom she loves as a second choice and who compete for her attention and love.

In my mother’s ‘threesome’ scenarios, the patterns show love dynamics that transpire in her private life. She might secretly love older men who are attracted to her, and loves younger than herself men who remind her of the older men whom she tends to love. But since my twin brother was never born this love is a sort of ever escaping and ephemeral. In parallel, as an alternative she has second choice love with younger men who compete for her attention and love.

Myself

1. Myself vs. my unborn full twin, and my father — a woman and her relationships with like-minded men of her own age, and like-minded men older than herself

2. Myself vs. my unborn full twin and my half-twin — a woman and her relationships with like-minded men of her own age, and men of her own age whom she has little in common with

3. Myself vs. my father, and my half-twin — a woman and her relationships with like-minded men older than herself, and men of her own age whom she has little in common with

In my own ‘threesome’ scenarios, the patterns show my relationships with men or rather lack of such. Since my own full twin brother was not even born and his genome got written onto me this means that the like-minded men of my age are really missing in the external world, yet present in my inner world. The relationship with my father is non-existent as he was not physically present in my life, yet lurked in shadows. Therefore, older than myself men are not really visible in my immediate environment. And finally, my twin half-brother whom I do not have much in common with even on DNA level, — just 25% on my mother’s side. These are the men who constantly compete with me, thinking they are superior to me. They are often aggressive and have ulterior motives. The picture that transpires is that apparently, I do not have men that I could be really interested in in my everyday life.

My Late Younger Sister (1983–2009)

1. My late sister vs. my father, and my unborn full twin — a younger woman and her relationships with like-minded men much older than herself who love her and care for her, and with like-minded men 10 years older than herself who love her

2. My late sister vs. my unborn full twin, and my half-twin — a younger woman and her relationships with like-minded men 10 years older than herself who love her, and with 10 years older than herself men who patronise and compete with her

3. My late sister vs. my father, and my half-twin — a younger woman and her relationships with like-minded men much older than herself who love her and care for her, and with 10 years older than herself men who patronise and compete with her

In my late sister’s ‘threesome’ scenarios, the patterns show her relationships with men of different age. Since my full twin brother was never born and therefore does not have a physical representation, my sister might have had a longing for like-minded men ten years older than herself, but could not find them in her immediate environment. At the same time, she experienced patronising attitude from similar to my twin half-brother men who, at the same time, were competing with her for the attention. In parallel, she had love and care from much older than herself men who shared her views and feelings, but from a far.

Now back to my half-twin brother in disguise aka ‘Maryna’. His ‘threesomes’ combinations revolve around our mother, me, and our late sister (half-sister to him). Having an inferiority complex and a desire to be the number one when he is, in fact, a second born twin and a second choice as in his father came second after my father, he never really cared either for me or my sister, yet he has always been dramatically attached to our mother. Her ‘threesome’ — she vs. my father and my twin half-brother, — is my half-twin’s nightmare configuration. For, in the presence of my father (the preferred man), his own father becomes invisible, and he himself becomes ‘number two’. Therefore my half-twin’s existential crisis comes to three points:

1. He can’t change the birth order (I was born first)

2. He can’t change his father (not the one Sophie loved)

3. He can’t change cellular reality (it’s written in his genome)

Apparently, our mother, Sophie, loved my father more, and another man was not that important, hence her son by that man — my half-twin, — inherited on a cellular level some sort complex relationship with the number ‘one’, in all senses. But the tragedy is that ‘number two’ can never become ‘number one’.

Seraphina Bogomolova