Things No One Tells You About Being a Mom

Toddlers are adorable. Nothing compares to the love that floods you with just one hug or the extreme pride you have when your baby takes his first steps.

But let's go beyond the beautiful part. We do mothers a disservice if we always talk to them about the many wonderful aspects of raising a child and ignore the reality.

It is important to know that there are unpleasant parts of this new role in our lives, just to be able to get over the moments of exasperation, discouragement, and fear. And it is comforting to know that you are not the only one who thinks that there is an unfortunate aspect of the problem.

This is my list of things that can discourage you and their positive aspects, you probably have yours too.

There is no learning curve

Or rather, if you draw it, it will go higher and higher. That way, by the time your baby gets colic, you'll be done. Any experience of changing diapers that you are so proud of will be unimportant when your baby moves into panties.

The result: you'll never feel like you know what you're doing. And even if the first child prepares you for what is to come, the second child is usually very different in temperament, tastes, and pace of development, so you'll notice that what you think you already know doesn't work. this situation.

On the plus side, it's a good mental exercise. You learn a lot about human behavior, you read a lot about the psychology of the child, things that you would not otherwise know. Plus a lot of knowledge about books and music, the art of wrapping and how to prepare dinner in record time.

You go around in a circle

Once you have solved something, a new problem arises that you have to deal with. A baby's life is punctuated by several well-defined activities: feeding, changing, bathing, and lying down.

For mothers accustomed to completing projects and the diversity of professional tasks, the movement of the caregiver in a circle can lead to feelings of frustration and a numb mind. If you have more than one child, the circles start to overlap, you are more than multitasking.

On the plus side, once you've realized that you have no control over things, that's when you have it. And then you'll say, "Okay, I'll let you go."

You feel helpless

You are ready to do anything to make your baby happy and grow safely. But even at the playground or at home, circumstances will not always be in your control. It is painful to see your child being bullied or rejected at the playground and wonder if you could have done more to help him.

On the plus side, you'll find yourself wondering how soon you'll find a solution or how you'll find someone who has the same problem you can talk to.

You can't get revenge right away

It will happen that you say and do the wrong things. This is the truth, this is what happens in all aspects of life. But this happens especially when you have a child because you make many momentary decisions and their repercussions contribute to the formation of his psyche.

Positive - When you lose your temper, remember to count to 10 before you speak. In addition, a few escapes will not scare the child. Ask for forgiveness when necessary and get over it, because he will do the same.

You have no privacy

Children can learn to be patient, manage on their own and understand what intimacy is if you set some boundaries for them. At some point, you will end up locking the bathroom door or saying something that will prevent the little one from bursting in.

This will be a huge step especially when you realize that your permanent availability is not to the advantage of children.

Positive aspect - his good mood from the dawn of the day and until late in the evening he will charge you with positive energy, no matter how tired or upset you may be. He bursts into the bedroom uninvited, but you forget everything when you hear his laughter.

The child will end up insulting you

You get caught up in the pleasure of being a mother and you draw a smiling chocolate face on the child's pancake. You may hear words that hurt you: "This is not what a pancake looks like." In one minute, you are the most wonderful thing in the world, and in the next, it rolls you in the mud. You can't predict the frequent and contradictory moods of a growing child, you can't know what will happen and when.

Positive Aspects - Such verbal wounds will make you more and more immune. If it's not about deliberate rudeness, blame the child's development and don't take anything personally.

Two-year-olds are recognized as resistant to change because they struggle to know and understand the world, and once they have clarified a concept ("pancakes have no face"), it is disorienting for them to live up to their expectations.

You won't know if you've done good or bad in 20-30 years

Any decision you make, from education and discipline to leisure activities, will have an impact on your child's future. You may have a pretty good idea of how things are going but you won't know what person you created until you are mature.

Positive aspect - this is the wonderful mystery of being a parent. A lot of time, a lot of money, hope, and love for such a small being - but there is no better way to use all these resources.