These two types of children will "suffer" everywhere

For parents, although they hope that their children can achieve success, the plainest hope is that their children can grow up healthy and healthy.

In the process of interacting with people neither suffer nor be bullied, but this hope seems simple, but many children are not able to achieve, it because some children always have to suffer some losses outside.

Cowardly children are prone to suffer

Psychologists believe that: cowardice is a character defect, this defect is not corrected early, the child's body and mind will have a great impact.

Many children are particularly well-behaved at home, and do everything on their own, so parents are also very worry-free. Many of her friends think that such children are especially good to bring up, but Xiao Yue's child's good behavior makes her worry.

The child listened to the teacher at school, but Xiao Yue found that the child would sometimes be sullen, and even when she talked to the child, the child was indifferent and did not answer even when asked if he had any problems.

One night when she was changing the child's clothes, she found that the child had a bruise on his body, and only after repeated questioning did she learn that the child had been bullied by someone else. Xiao Yue was surprised that the child did not tell himself, but the child was very aggrieved: "They said if I tell my mother, I will be beaten every day."

In the end, Xiaoyue also had to give the child the transfer, but Xiaoyue told the child: "Although mom said that you can not bully people outside, if someone bullies you, you must tell the teacher and mom, also by fighting back to protect themselves."

Although many parents believe that fighting is not allowed, they do not feel that they cannot fight back if they are bullied. If children just suffer in silence when they are bullied, they will develop a weak character over time and will be bullied everywhere they go.

The child who loves to play smart is easy to lose

The child is smart is not easy to suffer? Not necessarily, it depends on whether the child is smart or playing smart. The child who is smart and plays smart is not the same, really smart children will have a certain pattern, but play smart children but not.

The best friend's child Doudou class has a child who is always playing smart, running for class cadres, and always buy a lot of snacks for the classmates, and small toys to buy hearts.

But when the class president, began to bully the weak, forcing other students to clean up after him, so that the weak students to share their snack toys with themselves.

After a long time, other students can recognize his nature, after he was never elected to class cadres. This situation is very obvious to play smart, such children can only get the benefit of a moment, although to take advantage of a small advantage, later will certainly eat a big loss.

Is it a blessing to suffer a loss?

Many parents are influenced by the traditional concept that it is a blessing to suffer a loss, thinking that people in the world will more or less suffer a loss. This kind of thinking is wrong.

We seriously look at the phrase loss is a blessing we will find that this is a pit. People will be happy after eating losses? Most people do not think so, eating losses is a blessing and is only a means to comfort themselves.

The real way to get happiness is to accomplish your goals, meet your expectations, and have a bright future in your own life. So suffering is not a blessing.

What should parents teach their children about expression?

▼Teaching children to tell their parents about their experiences

Many children experience injustice at school or in some other places, and parents should teach their children to inform themselves of these experiences.

Injustices experienced by children can be caused by others unintentionally or intentionally.

It is important to teach children to tell their experiences, and parents should accompany them to analyze them and then find solutions, rather than just tolerating them.

1. ▼ Teach children to be calm and not to be clever when things go wrong

First of all, parents should distinguish the difference between true intelligence and small intelligence. Playing smart may bring temporary success, but greater success must not be brought about by playing smart.

Parents should teach their children to be calm when things happen and then learn to think.

Rousseau once said that not developing the habit of thinking in childhood will leave him without the ability to think for the rest of his life from then on.

It is only in the process of thinking that one constantly exercises one's thinking skills. Let your child go from being smart to being really smart and truly wise so that he or she can have more of a pattern.

▼A child with a pattern will not be easily bullied

Parents will experience many things in the process of growing up, and parents will also experience many expectations in the process of their children's growth, but in this one process, parents should also learn to guide their children, rather than letting them grow freely

All in all, children need both their growth and parental guidance in the process of growing up, and one cannot be without the other. This will be the determining factor of the child's future character, and must be taught not to follow blindly and not to harm the interests of others selfishness is also worth advocating.