The Journey to Motherhood

Becoming a mom is a journey like no other. I’ve been there—holding my first baby in my arms, completely overwhelmed by a whirlwind of emotions I never knew existed. In that moment, I felt an indescribable love, but I also wondered, Am I ready for this? Can I handle it? If you’ve felt that way too, let me tell you—you’re not alone. The truth is, motherhood is full of both beauty and struggle, and those moments of doubt are just as real as the joy you feel.

Motherhood isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about showing up, even on the days when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and unsure. Some days, you’ll feel like you’re doing it all wrong. Other days, you’ll feel like you’re a superhero. And both are part of the journey. It’s normal to have moments of self-doubt. It’s normal to feel unprepared, even after months of preparation. But it’s also perfectly okay.

One thing I wish someone had told me before I had my baby: “Rest when the baby sleeps” is easier said than done! Sure, it sounds nice in theory, but let’s be real—how was I supposed to rest when there were bottles to clean, laundry piling up, and a constant stream of thoughts running through my head? The pressure to follow that advice made me feel like I wasn’t doing things right when I couldn’t manage it. And I’m here to tell you: It’s okay not to rest when the baby sleeps. Sometimes, you’ll use that time to catch up on chores, take a quick shower, or scroll through your phone for a much-needed break. Other times, you might just need to sit down and cry. All of that is normal.

It’s easy to feel like there’s this ideal way to parent, and you should follow it to a tee, but there’s no one right way to do this. What matters is that you do what works for you. Rest if you can, but don’t beat yourself up if you can’t. Be kind to yourself. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this journey, it’s that motherhood is about figuring out what works for you and your baby, and letting go of the pressure to do it all “perfectly.”

Your baby doesn’t need you to be perfect. They don’t care if the house is spotless or if you haven’t figured out the perfect bedtime routine. They just need you. They need your love, your warmth, your presence. And I promise you, that’s enough. Every day, you are showing up for them in ways that are shaping their world. Your voice, your touch, your smile—it all matters. You are their safe place, their anchor, their world.

But let’s be real—there will be hard days. Sleepless nights, endless questions, and moments where you feel like you’re failing. I’ve had them. Moments when I wondered if I was doing enough or if I was doing things the right way. I’ve cried more times than I care to admit, sometimes over the smallest things. But here’s what I’ve realized: Those hard days don’t define you as a mother. What matters is the love you pour into your baby, even when things are messy and hard. Your baby feels that love, even if they can’t express it yet. And that love will carry you through those tough moments.

There will also be magical moments—moments that make every sacrifice, every sleepless night, every tear feel worth it. The first time they smile, the sound of their giggles, the way they reach for you with their tiny hands, and the way they look at you like you are their entire world. Hold onto those moments, mama. They will remind you that everything you’re doing is worth it.

Motherhood is a journey of growth, not just for your baby, but for you too. It will stretch you in ways you never imagined. It will challenge you, test your patience, and teach you to embrace imperfection. You won’t get everything right, and that’s okay. What matters is that you show up with love, that you trust yourself, and that you give yourself grace.

So, to you, new mom, let me say this: You are strong. You are capable. And you are not alone. Whether you’re thriving or just getting through each day, know that this season, though challenging, is also breathtakingly beautiful. You are doing an amazing job, even on the days when you don’t feel like it. Trust the process, trust yourself, and remember that you are exactly what your baby needs.

You’ve got this. And when the doubts creep in, when you feel overwhelmed or unsure, take a moment to look into your baby’s eyes. In their gaze, you’ll find all the proof you need that you are enough, that you are doing an incredible job, and that your love is all that matters.

Above all, JESUS LOVES YOU❤️.

With love and understanding,

@Mrs.Onwe