The Importance of Feelings of Rejection & Being Fired?

Feelings of Rejection & Being Fired?

Rejection can be scary and can come in many forms, love, family, friends, work place.

I am terrified of rejection yet I welcome it with open arms. From experiencing the direct wanting by other people, for example first 10 years of my adult life people would hire me after a phone call or directly after an interview or half way through it, I even auditioned for a manager and would immediately get accepted whatever I said whatever I do I could pretty much get, of course that didn’t mean I take advantage of it, but it was a way to keep hope in life.

I have come across obsessed and possessive employers so bad they try to drug me only so I can stay employed with them and continue my work, but who wouldn’t when you pretty much get free hard labor. But after experience all of the good and the bad of being wanted as an employee it made me look forward to get a rejection because I much rather get a rejection from them in not believing I have the experience versus them hiring me and seeing that they got so much more than an employee, they got a confidant and a loyal friend.

2017 I had an employer who would not let me go and did everything he could to make it impossible to stay, it got so bad it ended up in a law suit. So sad becaucause it was a place I was thriving at and excelled. That’s why it’s important to be in a work environment that’s healthy and to have the awareness to see when it's not.

2019 was a hard year when being used and abused verbally at a workplace you know your better off somewhere else but then when things get thrown to your face all because you want the good and eliminate the bad wolf as they say, and all you get is rejection after rejection after rejection, I hit the wall with this corporate employer, the way their rejection happened was so traumatizing I ended up mentally sick depression and had to take medication for couple of years but I fought my way up through the rejection, knowing my belief and what I stand for by going by procedures but foremost by the law, I know and learned from my wrongs and also know where I am right. And I think we all learn from our rejection we get in life. Some are no biggie rejection versus some are so bad it hits you mentally, but it’s up to us to realize when that happens, as mental health is very important, that it’s what keeps us going in life. Sometimes it’s good to reject ourselves if we learn how to do it in a healthy way.

Recently, when I got a job on the first day of the actual job after orientation I knew I should have said this company is not a good fit after a week I said the same thing yet I stayed I knew I was asking for, what? I was asking for rejection and instead of leaving as I should have done I stayed and I said a word that the trainer shouldn’t have heard and I got fired not because of my job but of a word that was said while I thought I was on mute, and I laugh about it, not because of my wrong doing but I laugh because the way they got their excuse to fire me because they found out they didn’t have enough for the payroll and wanted to let people go and shift around people. Firing versus rejection hurts 10 times more. But we all learn from our mistakes. I will always be honest and own up to my mistake but will you own up to yours? In the end it’s the company's loss of a good honest employee but when a company thrives on being shady it’s a loss for us still even though it should be them..

I would rather get rejected than fired but it’s a good experience and I much rather welcome it versus learning the hard way. And to see how far fetched a company will go to check the box just to legitimately fire you or let you go because they found out that you know about their shady business, as another company refused to give me unpaid family leave on the last day only to reject and give an excuse to let me go, again only because I found out their serious dishonesty..

Point is we all should experience rejection to become resilient and keep working for what we want and we all should know rejection may actually be for our benefit. We just need to figure out the reason. I saw myself being fired a godsend, because the way I am, a darn good worker I would never have left the job but because of my mistake I was fired and I am truly happy for it. And I do believe our subconscious mind does things we don’t expect as mistakes and people say we learn from it but then people who are all for teaching contradict themselves and that's where we have to dissect reasoning of the event to see the positive in the whole rejection and being fired. I believe if we are honest with ourselves we can avoid rejection but if we lie to ourselves that’s when our subconscious mind gets involved and we have to be careful how we approach people and things as it can backfire on us and we end up paying for it.

Be aware of where you are, are you content, are you happy, do you see yourself where you are in 5 years or 10 years? If yes, that’s great, if not then you need to maybe make a pro and con list and a list that has or can affect you mentally because again our mental health is vital to our survival of rejections and whatever gets thrown our way, listen to yo your gut feeling don't hold back.