The best appearance of a family: the kitchen is loud, the study is fragrant, and the bedroom is talkative.

The degree of attentiveness in running a family determines the temperature of a family's life.

The best appearance of a family is the sound of the kitchen, the incense of the study and the talk of the bedroom.

Zhang Chunling, a former Microsoft executive, once shared his views on marriage in a video.

He didn't believe in marriage because he had seen a lot of betrayal in his work and life.

But after getting married, he changed his mind.

Because of his work, he often goes out of town on business trips. Every time he comes back, when he pulls out the key to open the door, he can always hear his wife cooking in the kitchen and pots and pans jingling.

Later, whenever someone asked him what was the most romantic thing in his life, he would recall that picture.

"isn't it the highlight of my life that a person is willing to cook for you and care about your warmth and warmth?"

The busy figure of his wife in the kitchen became the original motivation for him to work hard outside, and also helped him resist many temptations.

I have heard such a sentence:

"if you want to see how the family is doing, all you have to do is look at the kitchen."

No relationship can be separated from real life forever, love will be shown in bits and pieces and put into practice in three meals a day.

I remember reading a post on the Internet.

One eldest sister said, "I can't live. I'm going to get divorced. The house is cold, the kitchen is cold, and husband and wife can't say a few words a year."

Someone asked: aren't you going to cook together?

The eldest sister replied:

"when we first got married, we did it together. At that time, I felt very good. Although the days were poor, the family was very happy when they gathered around to eat and chat.

Later, he didn't often come home for dinner, and I didn't bother to do it. There were places to eat outside, and we could solve it wherever it was convenient. "

The documentary "A string of Life" said: "without fireworks, life is a lonely journey."

The kitchen is not only the most primitive need of a home, but also the warmest part of the day.

Life takes off its gorgeous coat, but it is just clothing, food, shelter and transportation. Sometimes, happiness is hidden in the steaming smell of food.

There is incense in the study.

In Chinese history, there is a family that has been inherited for more than 2000 years, which is rare for the prosperity of figures and the prosperity of virtue.

It is the Pei family in Shanxi.

According to the statistics of Pei's genealogy, there have been 59 prime ministers and 59 generals in the Pei family, with nearly a thousand people in history and more than 3,000 people in history.

The Pei family even gave birth to the famous prime minister village in China.

The reason for the prosperity of his family is just two words: reading.

There is a rule in the Pei family that those who cannot be admitted to the scholar examination are not allowed to enter the ancestral hall.

So the Pei family goes up and down, men and women, old and young.

Yao Wentian said in the Qing Dynasty: "for hundreds of years in the world, the old home has nothing but virtue, and the first good thing in the world is reading."

No matter how much wealth is left to children and grandchildren, it is better to let children develop the habit of loving reading.

Books can change a person's temperament and destiny.

Yu Minhong's mother, Li Bamei, was originally an ordinary peasant woman.

She had a difficult childhood, her father died young and her mother was unable to support her to go to school.

After the literacy class began, she went to class, rain or shine, and often stayed up late to study.

Under the influence of his mother, Yu Minhong also formed the habit of reading.

When he was a student at Peking University, he read more than 800 books in four years.

"Reading is my biggest hobby, and it is a happy thing to spend my time on reading."

The poet Stickland Gilleland once said:

"you may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewels and cabinets of gold.

But you will never be richer than me. I have a mother who reads to me. "

Most of all, the smell of books can be far away.

The material will be exhausted one day, but the nutrients of reading will precipitate in a person's bones and nourish him for a lifetime.

There's a word in the bedroom.

There is a question on the Internet: what is the saddest thing about a marriage?

One answer is:

It is not that there are no feelings, nor is it divorce, but that two people clearly live together, but have nothing to say.

No communication, no expectation, lived to be a masked couple.

The worst family is to be under the same roof and go your own way.

In fact, the so-called good relationship is to have a chat partner, never too much to talk to you, know your cold and warm, miss your joys and sorrows.

I was impressed by a scene in the popular TV series "the World" some time ago.

Zhou Bingkun's father retired and rushed back from out of town.

After not seeing his wife for several years, Zhou Bingkun's mother smiled when she learned that her husband no longer had to go to the countryside.

Before going to bed, she was still chatting excitedly with her wife.

"Let me tell you something funny.

Chunyan's mother told me that her TV is seldom on, so why does she save all her TV programs and watch them with her old man?

What I have saved for many years, I want to tell you. "

Chatting before going to bed is almost the norm for Zhou's parents.

After worrying about the chores of the day and the children's household chores, the time before going to bed became the time for both of them.

They will talk about their daily life and talk about new things about their work.

Occasionally, Father Zhou would hold his mother's hand, look at each other, and say, "Thank you for your hard work!"

In this way, the two of them went to the white end with kindness and love, envious of others.

A survey abroad has found that:

25% of couples communicate for less than 10 minutes a day.

40% will completely ignore their partner because they are too busy at work.

25% of people don't remember the last time they had a leisurely chat together.

67% of people think they prefer to socialize on the Internet alone rather than eating and chatting with their partner.

The life of two people has become an one-man struggle.

Of course it's terrible to end up alone, but it's even worse to end up with someone who makes you feel lonely.

To be able to join hands to the old couple, is not youdao endless vows of love, but there are endless family members, endless chat about tea, rice and salt.

Dong Qing said something like this in the Reader:

"Home is a word with temperature.

It is not only a place for our bodies to rest, but also a haven for our hearts to dock.

The tired birds return to the forest, the fish fly to the bottom, and the fallen leaves return to their roots. This is not only the desire for home, but also the pursuit of a destination in life. "