Life is simple, persuade yourself to understand, it's easy

It is said that "society is very simple, the complex is people". Life is also very simple, complex is the thought.

Many times, when a person feels sad and painful, always thinks that such unfortunate people are only themselves. But, if you open your circle of friends at 2 a.m., you can see many people take off their daytime smiling masks and cry bitterly late at night.

But, "sadness and happiness from the transition, others difficult to understand", so many people have learned to digest all the bad emotions themselves.

Life is very simple, as long as you persuade yourself to understand, it is easy. And life to simple, need these 3 steps of awareness.

One, believe in yourself

Undeniably, a considerable part of the troubles in life comes from the evaluation of others, and the inability to properly treat the evaluation of others can cause long-term internal injuries - sensitive low self-esteem. In the end, because of an irrelevant word from others, and self-torture for a long time.

Although there are many ways for us to avoid this kind of injury, such as away from people who always deny and accuse us. But the world is so big that not everyone knows how to take into account the feelings of others; at the same time, it is far more difficult to change others than to change oneself

The main reason for a person's sensitivity and low self-esteem is not believing in themselves enough. The so-called self-confidence is not to pretend not to hear the negative opinions of others, nor is it to blindly confront the criticism of others.

Rather, it is to have a correct perception of oneself, to have one's own fixed values, and to have one's criteria for judging things. At the same time, have the right attitude when facing questions, accusations, and criticisms, and be prepared to face them, instead of being busy to avoid and confront them.

Believe in yourself to fight a prepared battle, because by being prepared, you will not panic, you will not confuse yourself, and you will not take all the evaluations as harmful to defend.

Believe that you are like the roots of a tree, whether or not the tree is high enough, the roots are developed enough, then it will not be afraid of the wind and rain. Instead, the wind and rain sometimes become rain and nourishment.

Believe in yourself, believe that you can handle what you are told by others. You are as steady as a mountain, see the trick, some useful correction gladly accepted, some deliberate harm relentlessly hit back, some irrelevant slander, ignore it is good.

Don't be too serious, and don't be too tangled, these are just emotions, and you are strength from your confidence, enough to fight emotions.

Second, accept yourself

In recent days, people around the different degrees into the "internal volume" state, have more and more seemingly but can feel happy things less and less, every day after waking up, the first thing is to run forward, too late to ask themselves whether they want to.

Very often, the social environment and education from childhood tell us that our goal is at the top of the pyramid, and we can only obtain money and power at the top if we keep working hard, and we will be happy.

So when people around us seem to be working harder and harder, we can only follow in a sorry way; our peers are getting richer and richer, and we can only make money desperately; our colleagues' children have enrolled in 3 tutoring classes, and our children cannot lag.

We are getting more and more tired, but less and less happy because we never really accept ourselves.

If you can have the "courage to be ordinary", then you will have a very different view of the world. Self-acceptance is an important step in this process. Being ordinary is not the same as being incompetent, and we don't have to flaunt our superiority at all.

We cling to some socially established good things, such as money, power, and fame, but cannot accept that we sometimes simply cannot achieve the heights that others expect, when there are simple things in our own lives that can make us happy.

We give up the pleasures that are within our reach to follow the prevailing "elite" thinking and go after the heights we may not reach in our lifetime. But we can't do anything about it, and we don't dare to be ordinary and accept our true selves.

Each real self, maybe not be good enough, not superior enough, not dazzling enough, must be unique. As long as you are willing to accept yourself, you will find that even in the world's standard ordinary self, but also has a dazzling light. At this point, you are entering the third step.

Love yourself

The three words "love yourself", everyone has heard countless quotes and elaborations about it, but in fact, few people can do it to have self-awareness and correct interpretation of it.

In my opinion, loving oneself is not necessary to constantly force oneself to be better, not to make oneself closer to perfection, but simply a kind of self-conciliation, reconciling with oneself and getting along with the person in your heart.

Self-love is no matter what kind of person you are, you do not abandon yourself, do not give up on yourself; do not constantly deny yourself, hate your mediocrity, and then desperately try to change yourself, and then the face is not the same, and you do not get happy.

If you have also loved someone deeply, you must know that you do not care what he is like, or how many flaws, even if one day, you are separated, you still want him to be happy and happy.

So please love yourself with this standard, and accept that you are not good enough and perfect, rather than forcing yourself to be who you want to be, why not let yourself be happy first?