Parents Need to Consider a Few Key Factors in Getting Their Children into Kindergarten

Did each parent ask themselves when we send the child to kindergarten? But the answer is not a pattern that each of us must follow, everything depends on the child in the first place and the free time that each of us has.

Kindergarten is an important stage in a child's life, for the first time he is left in a place he does not know, with people he does not know, and with other children who are going through the same changes. The feeling of abandonment is at a maximum level and with every delay, we have in taking the little ones from kindergarten, the child will feel on the verge of abandonment.

When we send the child to kindergarten, we must offer him all our love and patience, we must understand that he is going through a stage that mentally surpasses him and help him to perceive it not as abandonment, but as a normal phenomenon in life. to all the children.

You can explain to her that just as you go to work, so should he/she, so you can argue with his / her coming to kindergarten with the fact that he/she has become a big boy/girl and has responsibilities. Also, you can reward the little one every time you come back to pick him up from kindergarten, arguing his reward (he was polite, he was attentive, he didn't cry anymore, etc.)

Depending on our child and our free time, we decide when to send the child to kindergarten. If you have a child who is not so attached to you and immediately accepts strangers, coming to kindergarten will please him, meet new people, make friends, but do not expect such a child not to react at some point. given the same as the others.

The little one will likely consider it normal to meet other people in the first days, but even if his attachment to you is not so obvious, he does exist. When we send the child to kindergarten on the first day we will be surprised how well he reacted, we will be extremely surprised when he leaves us to join the other children. Also, the attachment to educators will surprise us even more.

But they do not last long, after about a week, two or less, the child will experience the feeling of abandonment and will start to cry. But do not panic, because only now has he realized that he is left in a strange place, and his parents are not around. When we take the child to kindergarten for the first time, he/she does not realize that he/she is left there, he/she is attracted to the other children, to the toys, but either later or earlier, he/she will be aware of what is happening and will not want to return.

Here you intervene, but in no case brutally, but explaining what is happening, keeping your word when you specify a time of day when you return to take it. Keep in mind that children do not have the notion of time yet, so it is best to be guided by certain activities they have in kindergarten.

For example, if you take the child before lunch, you tell him that you come to take him when the other children eat, if you take him after lunch, you tell him that you take him after he has eaten and if you let him sleep in kindergarten. , you tell him you're taking him after he wakes up. Keep in mind, however, that any delay on your part will only make him panic, especially if he notices that the other children have been taken by their parents and he/she has not.

But what do we do when we send the child to kindergarten, and the latter is a child extremely attached to us? In this case, we should expect the little one to cry from the first moment he sees us leaving and he will cry even longer than many children in kindergarten.

When we send the child to kindergarten he will feel more abandoned than everyone else, he is extremely attached to us, he has never been far away and what is happening now is a nightmare. But our patience and affection are the only ones that will help him overcome this obstacle. And in this case, the rewards are especially effective, but especially the promises of return exactly when I said.

When we send the child to kindergarten, we do not have to give him an extended program from the beginning, because it will be extremely difficult for him to understand why he suddenly spends his whole day with strangers.

Everything must be done gradually, first in the short program, possibly in the program that includes lunch, only after it has become accustomed and we must leave it to the extended program.

The statistics show that if we act as mentioned above, the child will feel a double abandonment because, although he was explained, he does not understand why he is not taken at the usual time, but the statistics still show that a child left behind the moment of the extended program will have a trauma twice as big, maybe even irreversible compared to a child who was gradually left in kindergarten.

Remember that if we act brutally when we send the child to kindergarten we do not solve anything or even more we traumatize the little one and more. Trauma exists, the fear of abandonment exists, but it is in our power to help the little one to get over it, and this is done with a lot of patience and a lot of parent-child communication.