Parents' bad temper, or make the child worse

To make their children obedient, many parents play an extremely strict role in education. Perhaps it is only through this way of education that they hope to make their children behave and reduce the number of mistakes they make. However, parents forget that there are two sides to everything, and these bad tempers in education may become the "deadly enemy" that affects the child's excellence.

When living with a parent's bad temper for a long time, children will become fearful, no matter what they do, they have to think twice for fear of causing their parents to scold them again. In the long run, the child's self-confidence also in the sound of scolding, slowly disappears. The original interest in things, they are afraid to try, always worried that the results can not satisfy their parents. In addition to the impact on the character, the child's future behavior also has quite an impact.

It is important to know that bad mood are contagious. It won't take long for the child to become such a bad temper, whether it's communicating with parents or getting along with others, it will be like a "flammable" product. This kind of child, I think, is not the original purpose of parenting.

Two effects of parents' bad temper on children

1. Pleasing personality

No parents want their children to become pleasing personalities, but in the atmosphere of bad temper day after day, children can only keep pleasing to avoid their parents' temper tantrums and save themselves from disaster. Doing things against their will, just because their parents like it, slowly the child gets used to this way of life and then forgets about themselves. The scary thing is that parents actually think this is a good thing and even gloat about their way of education.

Little do they know that pleasing children have no mind and will always live in the shadow of others. Whether it's work or life, they like to sexually please others, basically losing their independent minds, and naturally, they don't have any initiative.

2、Parent-child relationship is cold

For parents who like to lose their temper, it is difficult for them to educate docile and understanding children, because there is no such environment. The child will eventually become suspicious and rebellious, particularly poor in resilience and extremely vulnerable inside. Once such a bad temper is formed, the child is also destined to say goodbye to "good people" from now on. No one likes to get along with a bad-tempered person, after all, it's too hard to be subservient.

In time, the relationship between children and parents will be like water and fire, there is no intimacy to speak of. For the parents, the child's innermost is fear and fear, naturally afraid to get close to it. During the early years, the child can still "survive" under the parents' "temper tantrums", but in adolescence, the child will explode. In the end, parent-child conflicts can escalate to arguments and even fights

Therefore, parents should learn to curb their bad temper, especially in the education process of their children. Just think, who didn't make mistakes in their childhood? Try to accept your child's mistakes, and give them tolerance and understanding, so that they can correct their mistakes and correct the best way of education. As a parent, you should become a role model for your child and learn to reflect on yourself.

To change bad temper, parents can try to do this

1、Try to communicate

Instead of fighting with children, why not take a "roundabout tactic", and try to communicate with them, maybe the effect is more pleasant. Because children have a "rebellious" factor inside, they do not want to be criticized and reprimanded for always.

Take the homework is not completed, the parents who lose their temper will only ask no questions, be directly angry and loudly reprimanded, and then are "beaten", but what is the result? In the future, there will still be the phenomenon of not being able to complete homework. How about talking to your child and asking him if he is having trouble and if he needs help from his parents? Through affectionate communication, children can feel the love of their parents and try to open their hearts.

2, control emotions

When parents want to lose their temper, they must learn to control, find a corner to "face the wall", or remind themselves to take a deep breath, and then adjust their mindset to start again. As a minor, you should be skilled in controlling your emotions and not bring negative effects on your children.

Education is a particularly "difficult" thing, children of each age will have their ideas, and parents have to do well first, to better educate their children. Just think, if parents can control their emotions well, I believe that children can also learn to control their emotions by osmosis.

3, do a good example

Parents should remember that they are always role models for their children to learn. If you want them to become good, naturally, you have to start with yourself, through the power of example to educate and influence children, should be the most perfect way to educate it. No form of education is more effective than the influence of parents.

During the early years, children have the strongest ability to imitate, so many of the habits that parents feel are excellent, they can easily learn. So the point at hand is for parents to learn these good habits first, and then guide their children to complete them.

Childhood is a very short time, so why should parents add to their children's troubles and injuries? Please put away your bad temper from now on and try to educate your children with love and warmth, so that they will be more confident when facing difficulties. Because living in a friendly environment, children will feel more secure.