My husband never admits his mother’s fault What should I do
Balancing Relationships in Marriage: A real-life story of a husband managing conflicts between his wife and mother. Did he support his mother or his wife?
I wish your problem sorts out quickly, but for this, I'm going to narrate a real story of my friend. He is the only son of his parents; that's why his parents love him very much. But after six months of son marriage, his mother and wife started to fight with each other. And when my friend asked the reason, neither his mother nor wife had a solid reason.
When he tried to explain to his mother, then his mother alleged that he was a slave to his wife. And when he tried to explain to his wife, then his wife alleged that he was taking his mother's side. This scenario continued for approximately 7 months, and my friend started to live in depression because he couldn’t hurt anyone, neither his mother nor wife.
But later, when he thought deeply, he got an idea, and fortunately, he was able to handle the situation and solve the problem. His mother and wife started to live happily like before. But the question is: Did he do any magic? Maybe, or maybe not.
Here’s what happened…
One day, when his wife came back angry after fighting with his mother, he said to his wife, "I know there’s no fault, and I don’t want to hurt you, but I want to ask something from you. Can you give it to me for the sake of my happiness?"
Then she asked, "What?"
He said, "Can you say sorry to my mother by imagining that she is your mother, if your dignity is not hurt?"
Then she agreed and said sorry to her mother-in-law and returned to the room. After a few minutes, my friend's mother came and said sorry to her daughter-in-law and promised that from today, you are my daughter, not just my daughter-in-law.
From this story, we can imagine that there was no fight for a real reason; instead, it was a fight for ego. Her mother-in-law wanted to dominate her daughter-in-law. But when the daughter-in-law said sorry, the mother-in-law’s ego was satisfied. But later, she realized how good her daughter-in-law was—she said sorry despite having no fault. Then, her inner voice came, and her ego ended, saving the family from being destroyed.
This might happen in many families. The issue is small, but the ego is big, and because of this, many families get ruined. In this game, the husband suffers the most because he is trolled from both sides. The husband should also not blindly blame anyone because he has responsibility to his wife also. Before he is a son of his mother, he is a human being, and he should give priority to humanity. It is very ugly to show that he loves his mother so much that he scolds his wife without her fault. Due to this behavior, she might go into depression. So he should always make a balance between both mother and wife, and he should try to resolve the issue or consult a psychiatrist or relatives.
Best of luck to all brave women who suffer from this situation. May God quickly sort out your problem, and may you experience a happy joint family.
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What a great family story. Too bad it isn't always this easy. Good job.