My Anger Made Me See the Truth

If you have ever watch any of Joe Dispenza’s YouTube videos then you know that you are responsible for all your own thoughts, even if others have nagged and coerced you. It takes a lot of control not to react when someone presses those emotional buttons, but it’s possible.

It’s taken me years not to internalize all those hurtful comments and betrayal. This has only been possible through constantly monitoring my thoughts and feelings.

By having an unshakable belief in yourself, remembering all the good things you’ve done for others over the years, you will believe their spitefulness is unwarranted and undeserved.

One of the major turning points in my life was when a good friend lent me a book by Norman Peale. One of his most famous quotes is:

A positive thinker does not refuse to recognize the negative; he refuses to dwell on it. Positive thinking is a form of thought which habitually looks for the best results from the worst conditions — Norman Vincent Peale

I try to think of everything as a learning curve and know that however painful the experience is, it’s character building — I believe that’s how we grow as a person.

When you’re being disrespected, mistreated or neglected it signals that you must take a step out of the place that doesn’t do you justice. Afterall, anger is the part of yourself that loves you the most.

Anything that angers you is trying to teach you forgiveness — Just as anyone that annoys you is teaching you patience and anyone who abandons you is trying to teach you how to be independent.

Essentially time means nothing, but character can mean everything. The right person can make you feel something in 4 weeks that another couldn’t make you feel in 4 years.

It’s foolish to think we can change another person, they have to change themselves, so accept people as they are, but put them where they belong.

If you think of yourself as the CEO of your life, you can HIRE, FIRE or PROMOTE according to their behaviour.

My own nemesis is my older sister who would constantly want the upper hand, she’s still like it today at the age of 73 years. Recently she told me her best friend ‘hated me because I thought I was better than everyone else’. She’s referring to time that was over 62 years ago — really? I mean really?

I felt like saying “good, I’m glad I helped make your friend become the hateful person she is today!” But resisted the temptation. It still bothers me though, hatefulness can cause all sorts of problems in your life, and none of us have control over the thoughts and actions of others.

They ruined my life, my family did, all my friendships, romantic relationships, birthdays, my wedding day, my daughter’s wedding day, in fact, every single happy day I could possibly have.

She always said I would end with no-one because I was hated by everyone. Hate is like social media; it can spread like a virus.

The Power of Positive Thinking

One of the stories I remembered from Norman Peale’s book, (The Power of Positive Thinking) was the story of a train journey he was making across America. He started a conversation with the couple opposite him sharing the same carriage. I don’t remember the exact story, but the topic got round to their occupations.

The husband of the couple said that his wife worked in Manufacturing. Norman was intrigued and asked, “what does she manufacture?”

The husband replied, “she manufactures her own unhappiness”.

What a powerful statement, and how true of so many people.

At the moment so many people are going through a terrible time, I’m really annoyed with my sister; that she feels she has the right to be unkind to me, but I wonder who else is getting the brunt of her hatred, and poison?

What it made me see though, is how she has tried to ruin lives, not just my own, but many in my family. However she tries to paint her life as being ‘Happy’ it's obvious that she’s very ‘Unhappy’.

I’m not going to start a ‘pity-party’ of all the injustices and stupidity over the decades, I’m just glad I got so angry one day that I voiced my frustrations in the privacy of my own home. When I’d finished beating ‘Teddy’ up and stopped throwing the cushions around in anger, I realized what a sad person she really was. It took my anger to finally see it, finally accept it, and now I’m trying my hardest to move on from her pathetic narrative.

The world is full of beautiful things. I live in the Northern Hemisphere and its currently winter, but I know the green shoots of Spring will arrive shortly — today was gorgeous, cold and sunny — the birds were singing.

Thank you for reading to … the end.